So for the past couple days I have been being a total dick to my girl(mainly because my mom lives with me and she does not know I am Trans).
Well going to see my therapist today I basically broke down because I feel if my mom knew I would be able to be a lot happier with my transition. Don't get me wrong I am so happy about it all, but not being able to be who I am when she is in my house kills me. My therapist tells me today that I should just tell her, and get it off my chest. I agree but I'm beyond terrified.
I am the only child she has and for 24 years she has known me as her daughter. (When I came out as being a lesbian, she was not the most accepting, but she did eventually come around). I am just scared of how she will react because she has always been my number one fan in everything I do and has supported me, my entire life. I don't want her to walk away but I know that I have to do this, and I need to let her know, that she has a son, not a daughter... But oh the thoughts and the feelings that have been running through my mind.
But it will be going down tonight when she gets home from running her errands... Wish me luck, I will let you guys know how it goes.
Luck.
It's about our happiness in the end.
We are humans too.
Good luck man.
It's a leap of faith but of course you have to do it. The way I ended up coming out to my mother left her head spinning I think. She's never been extremely comfortable with it but in the end only cares that I do what is necessary to feel good and functional. I didn't get kicked out of the house at least.
Good luck. It won't feel easy but it will feel right.
Good luck dude.
I am in the same situation as you. I'm about to start T later this month. My mother still doesn't know that I'm trans or that I'll be on T and I currently live with her. When I came out as a lesbian she did not take it well but eventually accepted it. My therapist said that I have to tell her. Considering the fact that My job and her job often work together, I'm out at work, but I would hate for someone else to be like, I met your new son today. I feel much better if she heard it from me than from someone else. I wish you luck. I'll be coming out to her very soon.
Well it went better than expected. She said she can't change it no matter what. Even if she were to get mad or anything. However she did say that I will always be her daughter, but she understands that I am her son but she did give birth to a little girl and I will always be her little girl, no matter what gender i am.
Congrats! I hope mine goes just as good. :)
I hope yours does too man. Best of luck to you and let me know how it goes!
Quote from: EvanAidan on October 14, 2014, 06:21:03 PM
Well it went better than expected. She said she can't change it no matter what. Even if she were to get mad or anything. However she did say that I will always be her daughter, but she understands that I am her son but she did give birth to a little girl and I will always be her little girl, no matter what gender i am.
This is somewhat the response I got from my mother. She still calls me son and more often than before I came out to her. I look on the bright side of it - that she did value me as the son she raised. If she has trouble letting go then I understand. In fact, I'd rather she saw me now as some odd rendition of her son than a daughter she can't handle. I just hope she's prepared for the day when I expect her to refer to me as "daughter" around everyone else outside of the household.
Congratulations on your success with your mother. I imagine you feel a great weight has been lifted.
Glad it went so well for you. I'm in the same kind of situation (although haven't started my transition yet) so it's good to read someone having a positive experience.
I'm glad it went well!