For the past few days I have been having some fantastic passes, (oh passes! How I loathe thee :icon_boxing: you just keep making me think of constant tests). By phone (head office have called work and told my boss. "I been talking to the girl who works there". Or in person this story here https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,174464.msg1533104.html#msg1533104 (I'm framing that receipt for its title :D.
Also some minor victories. Was signed up for a store club card and was gendered female, and when I'm in stores or at the bank the people in front of me get Sir, Mam. Me have a lovely day (no make up my hair is hardly straight I'm taking partial credit :P)
Now while my friends are all on board some still have a little trouble. So I do like telling them what is happening and some positive stories as they're my support network not my family. When I told one of them about what happened at the optometrist. I received a
"Oh that's good there treating you with respect about who you are"
" Um no I wasn't seen as a guy at all".
Now friends and family will have known us for a long time, so one might expect some period of adjustment. Slip ups maybe inevitable (interesting in my case it falls straight down the gender line ???), honest mistake one can live with and these don't seem blatant misgenderings yet! How do we help those close to us let go of the old shell, remember new names and pronouns. Maybe I'm being cynical when I say nobody can totally dissappear without help from a federal government. That doesn't mean we might not want some anonymity, and hormones can move at there own pace. But when one's body looks to be moving faster then friends brains. What then :-\
Quote from: immortal gypsy on October 14, 2014, 09:33:45 PM
Now friends and family will have known us for a long time, so one might expect some period of adjustment. Slip ups maybe inevitable (interesting in my case it falls straight down the gender line ???), honest mistake one can live with and these don't seem blatant misgenderings yet! How do we help those close to us let go of the old shell, remember new names and pronouns. Maybe I'm being cynical when I say nobody can totally dissappear without help from a federal government. That doesn't mean we might not want some anonymity, and hormones can move at there own pace. But when one's body looks to be moving faster then friends brains. What then :-\
Time and gentle reminders. Be consistent. Everytime someone misgenders you, if you believe it's an accident, gently correct them. If they are apologetic, tell them the slip-up is ok but then remind them of your new gender.
If the misgendering is on purpose, than it's an aggressive move. Treat it as any other deliberate insult.