I want bottom surgery in the next five years, getting gender affirming surgery with a hysto; I consider that stage 1 honestly. For awhile I dead set on going to get ring meta with Marci Bowers since I want to move out to Colorado anyway, but the price is sort of the same for some doctors to get all stages of phallo. Now I'll be honest and say that there are some gendered things that bother me even if I know that I need to transition and be seen as male.
I don't like 'Mr' I usually use "M", "Mx", "X" or my full name. I think this is really because it makes me feel older than I am, but I feel like it's cornering me and making me stand out too much even though I look young enough for people to call me "Young man" a lot even though I'm nearing 30. There's no problem with sir, gentleman or being refered to as male. I have thought about it a whole lot and that is one of the things I feel pings too close to feeling like someone is being malicious. I honestly think I need to relax into it more-but I've been transitioning socially for a number of years and still haven't gotten over that hurdle.
This has to do with what type of bottom surgery I want. I'm saving up for it and I need to sort of figure out who I want to do a consult with and if I'm going to travel for it or just move for it. My huge problems are this:
Meta:
-Results look good, but I want more of a phallus
Don't want vaginectomy, but I fear that I will change my mind and have to spend more money (this is huge to me)
-getting a surgeon to do what I want can run up a bill that costs close to phallo
-Not many surgeons close by want to do urethal lengthening
-If I do get scrote+urethal can pee standing up. I like how the results look on guys. all look natural and great
-Visual result looks great on most guys, afraid of what I would look like
Phallo
-Vaginectomy is mandatory
-Scarring might be a huge thing for my leg (my hysto scarring is lessening without medical attention, but i'm a little worried still)
-Multiple stages means I am out of commission for longer, but have immediate visual results. I'm working poor right now and I'm just getting to be a independent adult without anyone else being a roomate etc so waiting time will be way longer.
-Less dysphoria
-More pain and I'm impatient about pain
-Will probably take more out of me re: mental status
-Want it more, but might have to travel and the only fam member that can come has fragile health :c
-Pee standng up as part of the package
-Scrote is possibly a different stage
-Can choose size somewhat and I've been researching on best way to figure out donor sites. I like the results I've seen and the stages and I'm less afraid but still wary.
Now the reason I don't want vaginectomy was because I had become so used to it being there, but recovering from GAS i'm getting used to not thinking about it or the other aches and pains that went along with internal ->-bleeped-<-, it weighs less on my mind and I don't use it sexually anyway. I think the feelings are lingering but I'm not sure how to reconcile. People reassure that you can find a way to have sex with meta, but not being able to penetrate or having to use a strap on still will induce huge amounts of stress to me. I never liked it much. Sometimes I think this has to be examined as to where my gender dysphoria lies and what I personally need from transitioning.
Thanks for any help untangling my mess
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-USDKaQXViY
This wonderful guy just said that he's heard of guys who don't get vaginectomy with phallo. This has blown my mind and I need to do more research. If anyone has anything at ll in the way of info I'll be grateful to know my options.
Update for anyone reading and needing the information. I'd researched before, but this was a couple of years back and I felt anxious about it.. I hadn't thought about it too much before since I wasn't sure. Here's what I found just in case anyone else needs general info
General Phallo info
http://www.thetransgendercenter.com/index.php/surgical-procedures/phalloplasty-faqs.html
UK information for andrology.co.uk
http://www.andrology.co.uk/downloads/Patient-Guide-To-Phalloplasty.pdf
Topic on susans with detailed information
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,118571.20.html
Info about scrotalplasty and meta
http://transgender.livejournal.com/2568972.html
About Vaginectomy options + Phallo
http://gendercube.tumblr.com/post/96117179527/ive-been-doing-research-on-bottom-surgery-considering
http://www.phallo.net/
Thanks for taking the time to post the links, campenella. I am sure a lot of guys will find them useful.
Dr Bowers is no longer in Colorado. She practices in the bay area in CA, I believe.
--Jay
Quote from: Brett on October 19, 2014, 10:02:39 PM
Thanks for taking the time to post the links, campenella. I am sure a lot of guys will find them useful.
I wish I could do an in depth post about info, but I don't have the mental capabilities to do it sometimes. I hope someone else can use this info. I'm still exploring how gender affects me and what I need out of transition while doing research and hopefully other people can take what I've learned for their own use.
Quote from: aleon515 on October 19, 2014, 10:07:27 PM
Dr Bowers is no longer in Colorado. She practices in the bay area in CA, I believe.
--Jay
You're right Jay! I just looked on her site and it's right there.
http://marcibowers.com/general-information/travel/
This complicates things a little further for me, but thank you for prompting me to look and see. I've been to her site so many times, and looked right past that since she was in Trinidad for so long.