Hi girls, another few questions from me :-*
What would you describe your sexual orientation as?
Do have any preference in a partner?
Do you want to get married at any point?
Did your sexual orientation change during or after your transition?
I would say that I am heterosexual and I am attracted to men, though I am quite picky. I would actually quite like to date a trans man to experience it but I don't have any preference between trans and cis men nor between any other characteristics. I would really love to get married and have never considered myself being the groom. Having my make up done and wearing a big white dress is something I have always dreamt of. :-*
Prior to starting hormones, Im not sure I had one?
Don't get me wrong I am a sexual person, but the idea of having another person touch me down there was/ is soooooooo revolting I couldn't get past my own dysphoria to examine it myself. Also I think there's the element of conditioning, like feeling disgusting when I got aroused probably taught me to hate the feeling of being aroused and therefore to not be attracted to any sex in particular. Also there's the fact that until I came to the realisation that I was trans* and not some perverted monster at around age 15, I thought that I was an abominable freak and no one would or could ever love me and that I was not 'deserving' of anything else but to live the rest of my life isolated and alone.
So its been really hard trying to move past something that was etched into my psyche for such a long time, and now that I've started too Im starting to realise and explore my own sexual desires...although Im still single...and a virgin :P
Now that Im starting to see myself in a more feminine and positive light though, I'm pretty sure I like guys most of all (cis/trans no difference in my eyes...I have a crush on a trans guy at the moment he's sooooooo cute), but I definitely also like girls as well as everything in-between, or outside that, depending on the person of course :)
and yes, I reeeeeeaaally want to get married to my prince/ princess charming one day (probably prince ;) ):D
Quote from: Jo-is-amazing on October 23, 2014, 06:59:12 AM
Prior to starting hormones, Im not sure I had one?
Don't get me wrong I am a sexual person, but the idea of having another person touch me down there was/ is soooooooo revolting I couldn't get past my own dysphoria to examine it myself. Also I think there's the element of conditioning, like feeling disgusting when I got aroused probably taught me to hate the feeling of being aroused and therefore to not be attracted to any sex in particular. Also there's the fact that until I came to the realisation that I was trans* and not some perverted monster at around age 15, I thought that I was an abominable freak and no one would or could ever love me and that I was not 'deserving' of anything else but to live the rest of my life isolated and alone.
So its been really hard trying to move past something that was etched into my psyche for such a long time, and now that I've started too Im starting to realise and explore my own sexual desires...although Im still single...and a virgin :P
Now that Im starting to see myself in a more feminine and positive light though, I'm pretty sure I like guys most of all (cis/trans no difference in my eyes...I have a crush on a trans guy at the moment he's sooooooo cute), but I definitely also like girls as well as everything in-between, or outside that, depending on the person of course :)
I had sexual relations with a girl a few months ago and it has contributed a lot to my confirmation that I am a girl. I found myself disgusted by my own genitalia and rather than being attracted or aroused by her, I just found myself wishing that I was her. I have yet to have any experiences with a man but I have fantasized for years about it and out in public have found myself attracted to men far more than other women.
I guess I'm asexual and "homoromantic," if I were to try to classify it. Honestly, though, having found the girl I want to spend my life with, I sort of don't consider myself to have an orientation anymore. It feels more like something that single people have, if that makes any sense. Like we use those labels to advertise what sort of partner we're looking for, but now that I've found mine, I don't have a use for the labels anymore.
Hehe~ Don't even get me started on daydreaming of marrying her. Yes, I have thought about it before, when I passed wedding dresses in stores. But it's far too early on to be asking her that. :embarrassed:
Sexual orientation?
Bi most definitely. Not limited to trans or cis either.
Do I have a preference in a partner?
Not really. As long as we can be intimate (not in a sexual manner but more emotional) and can share with each other with mutual respect for one another then I'm game.
Do I want to get married at any point?
Not right now. Just got out of one but it is totally possible to want to be in the future for the right person. But I would rather just promise my life to someone and theirs to me in a ceremonious way more than a state sanctioned marriage.
Did my orientation change during or after transition?
I'm sort of a freak of nature so not really a medical transition but grew up kind of mixed and matched naturally. But no, I have been steady bi as long as I have been able to feel attraction to other people. But I will say I am most definitely lipstick when I am lesbian. If a lesbian were to like me though I wouldn't care if she were butch or lipstick since I tend to fall for people for who they are on the inside.
Quote from: speckyhailey on October 23, 2014, 07:05:54 AMrather than being attracted or aroused by her, I just found myself wishing that I was her.
LOL 'attracted' yes 'aroused' no? Can make for many a frustrated girlfriend!! As a longtime member here that doesn't post much anymore
this was also the first big flag for me. Add to that a subsequent, persistent gay admirer (who also wind up frustrated) and I'd say my true trans 'orientation' had been set for life!
First experiences can usually wind up being the most 'authenticating'.
( edit: In answer to one of your original questions 'NO', my nominal sexual orientation during or after transition has NOT changed. Quite the reverse the 'ages' have only reinforced it! ;) )
Sexual orientation
Totally female transexual
Sexual orientation
played around a bit but found that my emotional state far out wayed my physical drive and am now very much engaged to a cis woman
Do I want to get married at any point
not in any real hurry, no date set or anything but may at some point
Did my orientation change during or after transition
yes pretty much not just orentation though my entire desire and physical drive is emotionally based
I was married to a girl for a good bit but started out life with mostly boys that i dated then switched back and forth, now not so impressed with most of the boys I have met lately
Quote from: speckyhailey on October 23, 2014, 06:49:20 AM
Hi girls, another few questions from me :-*
What would you describe your sexual orientation as?
Do have any preference in a partner?
Do you want to get married at any point?
Did your sexual orientation change during or after your transition?
I would say that I am heterosexual and I am attracted to men, though I am quite picky. I would actually quite like to date a trans man to experience it but I don't have any preference between trans and cis men nor between any other characteristics. I would really love to get married and have never considered myself being the groom. Having my make up done and wearing a big white dress is something I have always dreamt of. :-*
I Identify as Lesbian.
I would describe my sexual orientation as attraction to other women, it doesn't really make much of a difference between transgender or cisgender to me, the parts aren't really the big thing that really attract me.
I do certainly have preferences in a partner, doesn't everyone? I generally like women who refuse to identify as a label, or consider themselves femme. I am generally not attracted to "butch" women. Of course I have other physical and mental things I prefer in a partner, but that would be a bit too much to get into here.
My orientation has not changed. If anything my attraction to other women has strengthened and narrowed somewhat. I find the sort of woman who I find really attractive has changed, but if anything is more femme than before.
Oh and as far as marriage I certainly do intend on getting remarried, I want to wear a big white dress and hold the ceremony on a gazebo surrounded by a lake :)
My sexual orientation is... uh... North-West?
I don't really care about parts. Only who people are.
Do I have any preference? Yes, I prefer that I have a connection with them. On a deep emotional level.
Marriage... no thanks. I don't really go in for that. I don't feel it's necessary.
Quote from: Sephirah on October 23, 2014, 01:58:09 PM
My sexual orientation is... uh... North-West?
I don't really care about parts. Only who people are.
Do I have any preference? Yes, I prefer that I have a connection with them. On a deep emotional level.
Marriage... no thanks. I don't really go in for that. I don't feel it's necessary.
I'm with you 75%. I married my soulmate 20 years ago and the marriage survived my transition. Marrying her and transitioning were the two best things I ever did.
As far as sexual orientation goes, I've said it before and I'll say it again. If you're trans*, you're pretty much beyond queer anyway. I don't get hung up on labels. If I like someone, I like someone. It doesn't matter if they're cis, trans, straight, bi or gay.
Quote from: Hikari on October 23, 2014, 01:51:37 PM
I Identify as Lesbian.
I would describe my sexual orientation as attraction to other women, it doesn't really make much of a difference between transgender or cisgender to me, the parts aren't really the big thing that really attract me.
I do certainly have preferences in a partner, doesn't everyone? I generally like women who refuse to identify as a label, or consider themselves femme. I am generally not attracted to "butch" women. Of course I have other physical and mental things I prefer in a partner, but that would be a bit too much to get into here.
My orientation has not changed. If anything my attraction to other women has strengthened and narrowed somewhat. I find the sort of woman who I find really attractive has changed, but if anything is more femme than before.
Oh and as far as marriage I certainly do intend on getting remarried, I want to wear a big white dress and hold the ceremony on a gazebo surrounded by a lake :)
My thoughts exactly actually! Nice to see someone else I can relate to :)
My sexual orientation would be straight with a touch of bi. I find that when checking out the guys, I am more open minded with who a potentual partner could be. But with girls, I am soo picky. That is a main area of my sexuality that changed since starting HRT. I used to think that everyone who was sweet or cute ( in my oppinion ) was fair game and now it is only really the guys that truely attract me. With the exception of that one off girl.
I have a moral delema though. I feel that I cant have a propper relationship with anyone until I have got rid of that disgusting thing between my legs and I feel that I want to be able to have propper sex with them too. I need that relationship to be based on my merits as a woman. Not erring on the side of " that's a penis!"
As for wanting to get married, yes I DO. And I will. But I am to young for that and have a few hangups to work through well before I even concider marriage.
Sexually, I am a huge fan of penis, but emotionally I always end up falling for women... who always reject me. I'm forced to conclude that my body was built to be straight and my mind just hasn't caught up as 30 years of rejection have taught me that women just don't like me.
I have been dreaming about getting married and having two daughters since I was 5 years old.
In fact, not even once in my entire life have my feelings ever been returned. The only relationship I have ever had was because be pursued me until I gave up.
Bisexual now, and I was before HRT/transition, too. I like small-breasted redheaded women and (surprising to me) larger hairy-chested men, but that's just to admire. :) I am married and have been for almost 15 years, so it's all window-shopping at this point.
I'd say transition made me slightly more interested in men than I was before, but that's more to do with discovering how *nice* it is to be treated as a straight woman by a guy; I ran into fewer attractive-to-me men back when straight men thought I *was* a man, which makes sense.
(Yes, I was married pre-transition and my marriage weathered the changes.)
Hi hi!
Hmm... For sexual orientation I would say lesbian or maybe a little bi-curious? The weird thing is I can be emotionally and physically attracted to females but for men I can only ever become attracted emotionally and I don't think there will ever be physical attraction haha.
No preference for a partner besides them accepting who I am.
Marriage..hmm I'm not too sure. I mean at the moment I quite enjoy being single.
I'm still not quite clear on what my sexual orientation is because of what I've stated above. But if I just go with physical only, then females for me :3
Personally I have no hate for my lower bits and for the most part I enjoy the benefits of having such. The only downsides to having man parts is the testosterone, the rest is easy street, atleast thats what most cis girls tell me. :laugh:
Now the questions!!! ^_^
What would you describe your sexual orientation as? Still bisexual even after hormones replacement therapy. But I am still attracted to women or transwomen the most.
Do have any preference in a partner? female
Do you want to get married at any point? yes to the right person
Did your sexual orientation change during or after your transition? still transitioning so currently no nothing has changed sexually... Though I get annoyed of how men have such demanding egos now. >:(
Quote from: Jill F on October 23, 2014, 02:12:38 PM
As far as sexual orientation goes, I've said it before and I'll say it again. If you're trans*, you're pretty much beyond queer anyway. I don't get hung up on labels. If I like someone, I like someone. It doesn't matter if they're cis, trans, straight, bi or gay.
I definitely agree Jill! :D
Started out straight (liked guys), then went lesbian, then bi, now pan.
Sticking with pan I think.
Bi
I am becoming more and more interested in men. My wife thinks it is cute.
in theory - bisexual, equally attracted to men and women (including transmen, transwomen, adrogynes, etc)
in practice - happily and faithfully married to my wife for 10+ years
I am attracted to women.
I am 6 months into HRT and I have no reason to think my orientation will change in anything other than in name. Before I said I was straight, now I identify as lesbian :)
I'm demisexual / pansexual... Pans and Demi Lovato are so hot!
What would you describe your sexual orientation as?
Lesbian. Sex is extremely low on my list of priorities. I'm not ruling it out but it isn't what drives me. I need to make a strong friend connection with someone first and foremost and then it makes me start to feel more physical drive towards them. That said I would only consider someone with a female body and private parts. Whether or not that includes post-op transwomen remains to be seen but I consider it highly unlikely from a personality standpoint based on the great many I've met.
Do you have any preference in a partner?
I prefer a woman who is slightly more dominant, slightly boyish in appearance and slightly guyish in personality. It often makes me think I like transmen but their physical transition ends up turning me off. If I could blend a non-butch lesbian with the traits of a transman it would probably be perfect. I'm kinda clueless about how to meet someone like this though. Oddly, nothing about cis men attracts me whatsoever, either physically or emotionally.
Do you want to get married at any point?
I would consider it and even starting a family if the right person came along and desired it. I wish for a woman to be my 'husband', if that makes sense. The wedding dress is all mine! Marriage I'm not too late for but children would have to happen within the next ten years max to be practical. After the costs of my transition are all payed out I'm not sure I can support both a child and my distant retirement. Guess I gotta marry a rich girl!
Did your sexual orientation change during or after your transition?
No, it did not change at all. In fact it strengthened and became a lot more clear to me. I spent most of my life in such a state of anxious confusion that I never pursued sex at all. Now that I've sorted out my identity I at least understand pretty much exactly what I would seek sexually. Given how much my identity made sense to me right at the outset of transition it seems to be fully cemented. I didn't expect or want it to change with hormone therapy, and after one year on HRT it definitely hasn't changed.
Hi speckyhailey,
as for me, during my life before transition (age 30), I thought I was attracted to girls, but it never worked. Then I realized that it was not sexual attraction, but rather being attracted to be close to one's role models - I just wanted to be like them. I also hated boys. For one, they represented what I was forced to be like pre-transition and secondly, I had a lifetime history of being bullied (by boys of course).
Still in male mode, I had explored some local gay university association, coming to the conclusion that this is not for me. They treat each other as men (of course). After realizing the need for transitioning and taking the first steps, I quickly discovered how hugely and overwhlemingly I'm attracted to men. However, there are still a lot of fears associated with them, so it is not easy.
Now after reading this, you might share my surprise that I felt when I fell in love with a woman last year... But still, both of us need a man (or a male-traited person) as their life partner.
Despite never having a male partner, I feel that attraction to men is just natural and direct and easy for me (besides being huge). In comparison, I'm still realizing that I actually do have some true attraction to women, not only as role models. It makes me endlessly wonder how this fits into me. It is just so elusive...
Btw, HRT did not change a thing in itself.
Best Regards,
Apple
My compass points nowhere.
I'm straight.
I love men.
Preference - Currently I am not attracted to men, but once I have srs I would love to have sex with a man. I really like women but when I have been with them it has been more along the lines of a lesbian relationship.
Partner preference - Personality and intelligence over all. Body type for women - taller and curvy.
Do you want to get married at any point - Yes, I want to fin someone to grow old with :)
Did your sexual orientation change during or after your transition? - I am just starting so it is too early to say.
What would you describe your sexual orientation as?
I am bisexual. I like women and men with the biologically normal sex organs (i.e. women have a vagina and boobs, guys have a penis and testicles). I include post-operative people in that dichotomous definition thus, a post-operative transsexual woman is just a woman. I am not fond of women I date having a penis. Just unattractive and not sexually appealing to me whatsoever nor are guys that have a vagina.
Do you have any preference in a partner?
I prefer a intelligent girly girls (to an extent) and manly guys (to an extent). I like it when guys are tall and have a lot of well defined muscles with as little body hair as possible. Body hair (on either sex) disgusts me, but more so on girls. I do not like tomboys or girls that exhibit a lot of masculine personality or behavioral characteristics. Just unattractive and a turn-off to me.
Do you want to get married at any point?
I have a child and do not need any more legal family members in my life.
Did your sexual orientation change during or after your transition?
No, it did not change at all. Sexual orientation does not change because it is not a "choice" or "lifestyle" people consciously choose. A lot of people unconsciously suppress their sexual orientation. Once they start transitioning, and they are no longer oppressing their true personality, they feel more comfortable with who they are so those repressed feelings surface causing them to ignorantly conclude that their sexual orientation magically changed, but it didn't.
Another interesting aspect of my sexuality is that I do not date anything outside the hetero-normative world thus, I won't date men or women that are not "straight." However, I may consider it in some circumstances, but that has rarely ever happened.
What would you describe your sexual orientation as?
Straight as I still like kissing guys.
Do have any preference in a partner?
Blonde and abs and I'm swooning. Way more attracted to gay guys than straight guys though. Like blonde hairdresser skinny jeans gay around my age.
Or if they're a bit older, like still pretty but has to have a good beard and stuff. And straight for these ones.
Do you want to get married at any point?
Is basically one of my biggest fears. Hell no. Even the thought of a relationship sounds terrifying.
I'll just get like ten cats instead. Be much happier.
Did your sexual orientation change during or after your transition?
Well currently pre hrt. But like when I was really starting to begin questioning my dysphoria properly, I did develop a little crush on one of my girlfriends. We messed around a bit a few times after some nights out. Started realising I was more jealous of how pretty she was and how she gets to be a girl and I don't than that I was actually attracted to her. Don't really see her too often any more but she was amazing when I kind of told her that I was trans so it all worked out :)
I have been with all different types of people in my past, mostly guys. I am married and really love my wife and she loves me. Sexually I identify desire to be with guys; however, I can be with a female.