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Title: Gender-neutral pronouns: When ‘they’ doesn’t identify as either male or female
Post by: suzifrommd on October 28, 2014, 08:53:26 AM
Gender-neutral pronouns: When 'they' doesn't identify as either male or female

By Steven Petrow October 27 at 12:32 PM
Washington Post

http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/gender-neutral-pronouns-when-they-doesnt-identify-as-either-male-or-female/2014/10/27/41965f5e-5ac0-11e4-b812-38518ae74c67_story.html (http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/gender-neutral-pronouns-when-they-doesnt-identify-as-either-male-or-female/2014/10/27/41965f5e-5ac0-11e4-b812-38518ae74c67_story.html)

Dear Civilities: Recently, a young woman I know explained to me that she now considers herself to be "genderqueer," which is a new phrase for me. My first question is: What does she mean by that? I also understand that she no longer uses female pronouns to refer to herself (i.e., "her" and "she") but prefers "they," "them" and "their" because, as she told me, they identify her as a person, not as either a man or a woman. She has asked her friends to adopt that language, too, but maybe I'm old school, because I find it odd and grammatically incorrect to say something like, "Oh, they went to the movies this afternoon," in reference to one singular person. What is the right thing to do, and say, in this circumstance?" — Name withheld, Washington, D.C.

A: My first reaction is: Wow, this is complicated. But really, it's not.
Title: Re: Gender-neutral pronouns: When ‘they’ doesn’t identify as either male or female
Post by: perrystephens on October 28, 2014, 11:48:41 AM
It's a great intelligent well-researched article, but as with any article that has to do with the trans community, I wouldn't recommend scrolling to the comments. Whatever faith in humanity the article gives you, the comments take it away.  :-\
Title: Re: Gender-neutral pronouns: When ‘they’ doesn’t identify as either male or female
Post by: suzifrommd on October 28, 2014, 12:14:22 PM
Quote from: perrystephens on October 28, 2014, 11:48:41 AM
It's a great intelligent well-researched article, but as with any article that has to do with the trans community, I wouldn't recommend scrolling to the comments. Whatever faith in humanity the article gives you, the comments take it away.  :-\

Actually, I was heartened. All of the narrow-minded comments I spotted were corrected by multiple intelligent replies.