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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Carley Anne D on November 01, 2014, 08:56:00 AM

Title: Can't Handle It
Post by: Carley Anne D on November 01, 2014, 08:56:00 AM
 Hey girls... I Haven't posted in a while... I just needed some help... I found out my fiance of three years has been cheating on me for months... I'm having such a hard time with all the filler time, like right now I just woke up and i'm all alone.... What's wrong with me? She's done this before, and all I wanted to do was take her back, forgive her... Now I just have all this pent up hurt... I blocked her facebook, deleted her number... I don't know how to cope, I feel so alone  :'( and I'm scared because she was the only woman I've ever been with, I don't even know how guys are or how to talk to them, this probably sounds stupid but I'm so afraid nobody will love me for who I am ever  :'( sorry to whine, I'm just having a difficult time, good luck everyone!
Title: Re: Can't Handle It
Post by: Athena on November 01, 2014, 09:05:24 AM
Hugs

All I can say is you deserve better.
Title: Re: Can't Handle It
Post by: MelissaAnn on November 01, 2014, 09:11:47 AM
Here's a big hug for you sweetie...!

Hang in there. You will find someone it takes time. If you want to talk PM me. I'm here for you.

Hugs,

Melissa Ann
Title: Re: Can't Handle It
Post by: jennyfer on November 01, 2014, 09:15:03 AM
You shouldn't think her behavior means something is wrong with you, or that you are unlovable.  Her behavior is about her, not you. 
Title: Re: Can't Handle It
Post by: Carley Anne D on November 01, 2014, 09:25:22 AM
Thanks everyone... I know it's not my fault, I did my best, even quit my heavy drinking for her... The hard part for me is I feel like I shouldnt be sad,but I still do, a lot, I cared so much about her, even had wedding plans, I almost feel like I don't have a purpose now, she was everything to me :(
Title: Re: Can't Handle It
Post by: amZo on November 01, 2014, 09:28:06 AM
Far better this happen now than when you're married (and perhaps with children)... consider yourself blessed!

Wait for things to settle before doing too much self-reflection.
Title: Re: Can't Handle It
Post by: Rachel on November 01, 2014, 09:35:33 AM
Hugs Carley,

If she did it before she will do it again. You sound like a great person and deserve better.

Finding a loving caring guy is most times not done in a bar but at volunteering. HIV, AIDS, food bank and like volunteer events and efforts have caring wonderful people. If you find someone you will know what to say, be yourself.
Title: Re: Can't Handle It
Post by: adrian on November 01, 2014, 09:57:12 AM
Hi Carley, I'm so sorry this happened! I think it's very normal for you to feel sad - and it's OK to feel that way. Do you have a friend to talk to? Sometimes it helps to just let it all out. :hugs:
Title: Re: Can't Handle It
Post by: Carley Anne D on November 01, 2014, 10:59:55 AM
Quote from: adrian on November 01, 2014, 09:57:12 AM
Hi Carley, I'm so sorry this happened! I think it's very normal for you to feel sad - and it's OK to feel that way. Do you have a friend to talk to? Sometimes it helps to just let it all out. :hugs:
:( Not really, I switched schools so I could be closer to her, it's really difficult, I don't know anybody here and all my old friends basically left :( sorry, not trying to sound like a loser lol, I had plenty of friends before but after I started transition its a lot harder to meet friends
Title: Re: Can't Handle It
Post by: adrian on November 01, 2014, 11:37:36 AM
Quote from: Carley Anne D on November 01, 2014, 10:59:55 AM
:( Not really, I switched schools so I could be closer to her, it's really difficult, I don't know anybody here and all my old friends basically left :( sorry, not trying to sound like a loser lol, I had plenty of friends before but after I started transition its a lot harder to meet friends
That's hard, I'm sorry. But we're here, so just talk to us! [emoji18]
Title: Re: Can't Handle It
Post by: Athena on November 01, 2014, 11:43:44 AM
Hey Carley you are not a looser, you are someone who deserves so much better.
Title: Re: Can't Handle It
Post by: Carley Anne D on November 01, 2014, 12:05:53 PM
Quote from: White Rabbit on November 01, 2014, 11:43:44 AM
Hey Carley you are not a looser, you are someone who deserves so much better.
Thank you girls and guys, you've really helped me, I truly appreciate it, its gonna be hard but at least I have support to help me through it
Title: Re: Can't Handle It
Post by: stephaniec on November 01, 2014, 09:24:15 PM
It's hard , I've been hurt quite a lot in my life, the reality though is that you just need to move on. the world is a big place.