This evening I had a wonderful moment. I savagely culled the boy side of my wardrobe. In order for an item of clothing to make it through the culling it must either;
- Be an absolutely necessary piece of clothing required to earn a living; or
- Be an Androgynous piece of clothing
I did not even go near the girl side of my wardrobe so it goes without saying that every item there survived.
So let's just say it was a very nice feeling, and my wardrobe space has multiplied beyond belief, that 'man' was certainly hoarding clothes I tell you. So tomorrow there will be a trip to the charity store where they will find a new home.
So my question is, do you recall the moment when you culled the boys side of the wardrobe and how did you go about doing it?
Ah yes that was great moment. 3 weeks after going full time (and not getting clocked) I realized that I needed to get rid of all those old male clothes that I would never wear again. I did give some to my younger brother (suits and things). After donating them to charity I felt so empowered and free. It was the 2nd best feeling to getting my name and gender changes on my driver's license.
In 2002 I jumped head in.
Bought all new clothes, got rid of all male clothes.
I saved precisely one piece of male clothing. My favourite tie was marked with a note on its back with my transition date.
I still have it to remind me of the day I put on my breast forms a nice blouse and a skirt and said farewell to the bally male life.
Kami
Congratulations on your culling. I'm so very excited for you...!(LEAPING FOR JOY) I have not had that moment yet as I'm just started my transition. I am stating to amass my girly cloths though. I'm not full time as of yet though. I'm so looking forward to this moment...! My the angles always be watching over you on your journey.
Hugs,
Melissa Ann
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on November 01, 2014, 11:42:47 AM
Ah yes that was great moment. 3 weeks after going full time (and not getting clocked) I realized that I needed to get rid of all those old male clothes that I would never wear again. I did give some to my younger brother (suits and things). After donating them to charity I felt so empowered and free. It was the 2nd best feeling to getting my name and gender changes on my driver's license.
Isnt it just an amazing moment. I'm not yet full time but I've seriously had enough of this male bu!l$h!t and just had to do away with anyway that screamed 'I'm a man'. Oh except the suits and shirts which obviously fall into condition 1) earning an income.
Quote from: Kamiki on November 01, 2014, 11:50:01 AM
I saved precisely one piece of male clothing. My favourite tie was marked with a note on its back with my transition date.
That's a really nice thing Kami, you know I after ditching all my ties I came across a bow tie, I think I wore it once to a wedding. This is one item that nearly made it through, I thought it met the 2) Androgynous condition. But I decided to throw that to. Let me sleep on this thought, I may wake in the morning and sa or some lasting memory, or I may just siphon the fuel out of my car and burn the lot! :eusa_clap:
Quote from: MelissaAnn on November 01, 2014, 11:51:10 AM
Congratulations on your culling. I'm so very excited for you...!(LEAPING FOR JOY) I have not had that moment yet as I'm just started my transition. I am stating to amass my girly cloths though. I'm not full time as of yet though. I'm so looking forward to this moment...! My the angles always be watching over you on your journey.
Hugs,
Melissa Ann
Thanks Melissa Ann, don't worry I'm only 4.5 months into transition and Dressing as this boy has just done my head in. When I must dress as him in a casual setting, it's androgynous only, work of course I'm going to have to bite the bullet and dress appropriately in shirted trousers, no tie luckily.
Interestingly enough, while I have got rid of some of the stuff (not all at once I would be going thru clothes and think I am never gonna wear this again and toss the offending item) I find lots of my male wardrobe gets incorporated into my new life.
Like I have this hoodie from Old Navy and it looks fine on me as a girl, I have an old M-65 field jacket from the Vietnam era that was always too big on me but it goes surprisingly well with some of my outfits. I find things like Tripp NYC bondage pants are basically the same thing male or female, so I kept those for goth nights at the club. I even kept my old sneakers which I now use when I mow the lawn or weed wack as I dont care about them. Also my band shirts tend to be oversized a bit now on my but lots of times I will put them on when I am being lazy around the house or when I am working out.
I was expecting to just toss everything but, in the end I suppose I just hate feeling wasteful. Still there are lots of things I did toss because no way was I ever gonna wear some of the stuff as a woman.
Quote from: Hikari on November 01, 2014, 12:22:28 PM
Interestingly enough, while I have got rid of some of the stuff (not all at once I would be going thru clothes and think I am never gonna wear this again and toss the offending item) I find lots of my male wardrobe gets incorporated into my new life.
Like I have this hoodie from Old Navy and it looks fine on me as a girl, I have an old M-65 field jacket from the Vietnam era that was always too big on me but it goes surprisingly well with some of my outfits. I find things like Tripp NYC bondage pants are basically the same thing male or female, so I kept those for goth nights at the club. I even kept my old sneakers which I now use when I mow the lawn or weed wack as I dont care about them. Also my band shirts tend to be oversized a bit now on my but lots of times I will put them on when I am being lazy around the house or when I am working out.
I was expecting to just toss everything but, in the end I suppose I just hate feeling wasteful. Still there are lots of things I did toss because no way was I ever gonna wear some of the stuff as a woman.
I had some clothes that fell into the condition 2) Androgynous which did make it through. But you have me thinking Hikari, I mean was I really thinking outside the square when I've ditched ALL of these clothesl. I've got some really expensive smart casual jackets which I thought about, but I'm just struggling to see how I could incorporate it. Maybe another point I need to sleep on.
I totally agree with not wanting to be wasteful. I'm the same, but I considered what I could do with them, either a) sow them into a large patchwork quilt for me and the children, or b) give them to someone who needs them. I decided b) is best as they're not making me happy at all anymore :icon_sniff:
A few days ago I got rid of all my male clothes left and bought many female ones...
dat feeling,awesome, and I got gendered correctly when I went shopping :)
10 and a half months on hrt
Over a period of a little over a month I gradually got rid of all of it. Those items that could pass as female clothes stayed the longest. I let my brother have what remained when I went full time. I haven't looked back since.
I know the feeling. The last time I had worn a tie was over 10 years ago. I never did learn how to tie one.
Mariah
Quote from: BreezyB on November 01, 2014, 12:05:10 PM
no tie luckily.
I'm never going to get rid of all of it. In fact some I'll keep as they were gifts. But for now I'm not really buying any new boy clothes. Just girl clothes.
My wardrobe was pretty androgynous so I kept a fair bit, I also adapted stuff by making t-shirt dresses and things like that.
I'm honestly surprised that I haven't done this yet. I have a dresser with all my 'boy' clothes in the bottom 3 drawers and all my normal girl clothes in the top 3 and my closet. I have not worn male clothing in about 8 years. Except for a few andro style shirts here and there. I've always worn girl clothes most of my life as my daily wear, and nobody has said anything about it. So even 8 months into transition, I don't feel that I look differently then any other time while out in public. Well except for dresses and skirts. I've only been out in a dress once so far. So I guess I could go ahead and throw out the male clothes, since they never ever get worn.
Got rid of suits, ties, men's dress shirts, office casual and wingtips back in 2001 when I retired from the workforce. I do have some men's tapered fit casual shirts I love to wear partially unbuttoned with a bra on occasions and men's skinny jeans that I wear mixed in andro mode. I enjoy raising eyebrows unlike so many of you others. I am preeminently into women's tops jeans and women's unisex footwear as I have narrow feet and women's medium corresponds to a men's C width which is perfect.
I'm surprised I haven't done this to my "grown up" clothes a while back. Apart from a pair or two of black pants that I need if pending on a venues uniform. (Ladies pants fit so much better, yet there is nowhere I can put my work key).
My casual tops are all geeky and I'm starting to like how some of my old boys tops are fitting me now. I have some space at the moment so I'll have to have a look at them again in a few months. Try them on and see what I think then
I have a suite and 3 pair of jeans left and a nice female wardrobe
Yep. Right when I decided I was ready to go full time I took out all but a pair of pants and a couple shirts. They were sort of my emergency stash but so far I haven't needed them. And I'm sure I'll need to pair down my girl clothes at the rate I'm aquiring them. Still. It was an awesome day.
Dont know exactly when I did but I kept certain things since I really loved the prints on some of my old shirts so I'm gonna convert them into tank tops. There's a bunch of tutorials on youtube that shows you how to modify guy clothes to female clothing. Like taking a guy shirt and turning it into a simple dress if its large enough.
It's a great option if you're trying to save cash and update your wardrobe! :)
The week after I went FT, I took the lot to the Goodwill store. I made damn sure I burnt every bridge - no going back in anyway :laugh:
For me it was when I returned after FFS and saw the Girl in the mirror at home for the first time. I was then ready to make space for her.
I gave as much as I could as gifts to my ex-boyfriends. I'm a clothes nut, so they got some pretty and elegant stuff. And now, whenever I meet up with M., he's wearing one of my shirts. It was a very strange and positive experience to not just give away stuff, but to give it to these men who continue to be important in my life.
Still have 10 suits I need to get rid of...
I still have a few T-shirts and a hoodie or too, but with DD boobs they don't look like guys clothes when I wear them.
awesome! cant wait to do it. right now my boy clothes take the whole closet.. and the room even. and my girl clothes are hidden in 3 plastic bags :-*
I gave most of my boy clothes away last weekend, which was about 6 weeks after I came out.
I kept all of my jeans, some t-shirts, and some sweatshirts to wear around the house or to work on my car in, and I kept a few other pieces that were sentimental to me.
One of the items I gave away was a very nice brand new suit that I had worn only twice - I bought it for a job interview (it worked; I got the job) and once for a funeral.
I live in a 1 bedroom apartment so I don't have much closet space. I gained space when I got divorced and I gained more space when his clothes went away :icon_female:
I boxed every last piece of guy clothes and shoes up when I went FT and never opened the box. I gave the box to Goodwill when my mom came to town a month or so later. It was. symbolic moment I wanted her to participate in the event and it worked on many levels. There is no going back and she needed to be part of that.
It was a great day!
The day I went full-time at work, because I knew I'd never have to pretend to be a guy again.
I did keep some denim shorts for yardwork, and I love my flannel shirts so I saved those (but around here plenty of women wear them too, so I figured it's more "unisex" than male clothing). Oh, and socks. Men's socks keep my feet a lot warmer at night. ;) My wife also rescued a few items and now she wears them.
Of course, a few years later and the closet is stuffed to the gills again anyway... go figure!
Interesting. This may be one of those things that distinguishes transsexuals from androgynes (or "non-binaries). I've never felt the need to cull anything. Since the '80s I've been buying and wearing clothes without caring which department they came from. To me it's more about the overall look than the manufacturers gender intention.
I have about 2-3 months before I get FFS and there's no turning back, so I think about this topic a lot. I was thinking about asking some FTMs I hang out with if they want any of my "old" clothes. I have a TON of t-shirts I can no longer wear in "guy" mode no matter what because of my boobs. At any rate, I'll donate most of my existing wardrobe to make room for my new one.
I stopped my parents buying me new boy clothes and wore out the old boys clothes I had. Then as each item of clothing became torn and faded, they where replaced with new girls clothes. It helped my foster family get used to the idea of my female side as my presentation became more consistantly female. Now that my family understands my need to be female I feel secure enough for them to offer male clothes like a jumper or boxers for bed without me blowing up in there face.