Unsure how this can relate to trans women (I don't know if tucking is harmful like binding is)
Does anyone else feel like the more they bind, the worse their dysphoria is? Because you have to stop at some point? And than it's like a let down, it just makes it worse? And, if tucking can be harmful like binding, is it the same for people who tuck?
I bind a lot, but when I have my rest days, it makes me feel even worse than normal because I'm so used to having a flat chest.
Anyone else feel this way or have solutions?
I don't know that I'd say it makes it worse. I know I'm much less active when I'm taking a rest day or a break from binding. I would rather just lay around, watch tv, play online and not go out and see people.
Yes, in some ways it is like scratching a mosquito bite or picking at a scab. It feels good as it is happening. Not so good later.
Anticipation. Partial realization of a dream. Seeing hope in the future. Taking a baby step and then feeling frustrated that you aren't running in the NYC Marathon.
I try to stay focused on the fact that I am taking positive steps towards growing into the person I wish to be. It is all part of a greater process for a greater good. Not a setback but a necessary part of that process.
That's sort of how I am with dressing. I look pretty good with my beard shadow covered and all, but then when I have to wash it off or after a few days of growth... or even just red marks from shaving... it all sort of depressed me. I want electrolysis soon, badly...
I don't have a proper binder yet, layering sports tops is so halfhearted. The first few days (nearly 2 months ago now) were awesome because it was so much better than a bra. This week has been hell for various reasons (mostly people who couldn't possibly know I'm questioning, gendering just.. everything...) and I've been living in my hoodie, even sleeping in it, so I don't have to see... I'm hoping to get a real binder soon but for sure, being "good but not good enough" is devastating.