I'm 32 and in the *very* early stages of accepting myself as a transguy. Currently still going as birthname to pretty much everyone, though a good handful of my family and friends know I'm working through some stuff, questioning, some know I'm in therapy (not GT specifically yet because oi, there's a 12 month waitlist for that, as I found out on the day I phoned them up bordering on crisis levels of WTF) and a VERY few of them know my hopefully chosen name whenever I actually get up the stones to start openly transitioning. To all but one or two of my closest friends I have downplayed how deep this goes and how far along the spectrum I think I fall.
Growing up I tended to believe what science told me was objective truth, as well as trusting parents/teachers/other authorities to make rules and happily played within those boundaries pretty much (almost worryingly) without question. So having girl-parts meant I was a girl, and having to wear dresses for going out to "nice" events (and wearing a skirt for school uniform) was pretty much a given. I didn't know it was possible I could be anything else. I told people that "tomboy is an understatement" without really knowing what I meant, deep down. I dispised girly-girls as fake because I couldn't fathom why anyone would want to "dress up" like they were going somewhere fancy just every day.
There's so much I want advice about, but that probably doesn't all belong in an intro post.
I guess I'll end by saying this is as good a place as any to start getting used to using male pronouns for myself.
Cheers
J
Hi J, welcome to Susan's Place! Most of the people here are on a journey similar to yours. We can walk the path together. See you around the forums!
Hugs, Devlyn
Hi PucksWaywardSon, welcome to Susan's Place!
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Hugs,
Jill
Hello J and welcome to Susan's.
:)
Welcome J to Susan's family.
Many here are at there early stages so you are truly not alone.
Lots to read and questions to ask or answer.
Hugs
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Janet )O(
just came out to a friend who... ugh. Niggled and pushed buttons until he got more of my truth out of me than anyone else has so far and left me a triggered f'in mess. Seeing that little word there *brother*... thank you. It helps. :)
Puckswaywardson,
Welcome to Susan's place. This is a great place for information and there are some great resources here. There are many beautiful people who are willing to help you in anyway they can. Everything is at your fingertips, so pull up a chair and relax and let your fingers do the walking. It's always great to meet another brother, consider yourself having another sister here. I wish you nothing but good luck on your journey. May the angels look upon you and guide you on your journey.
Hugs,
Melissa Ann
Welcome ;)
hope you have a nice stay :D
-Luna