So I've been talking with this boy, I'm 19, he's 20; I'm not out as trangender (because I'm Venezuelan), but I've been on HRT for about a year and half.
Once he invited some friends to his house, and I went very early; well, we were bored and his parents were out, so things happened, it was both's first time, he was like "I've got a weakness toward curvy guys", I was ok with him, he was tender and nice to me, and none has ever been, damn but he was big!... however I was comfy.
He got 3 orgasms and wanted more! I just pretended one.
I can easily get them while masturbating, so I don't get why if I was much more aroused then I couldn't, not even a complete erection actually; I don't think I'm doing SRS, actually I may not do much more than hormones which I need to feel ok (unlike suicidal as I used to be), so I gotta deal with this as it is, and I want orgasms, I'm young, I like guys, and I really liked my experience in spite that lacking, it was nice to be so close to someone <3. It could've been even better.
I told him to buy viagra, I don't know if that could help me, because I was aroused as damn but I wouldn't come... damn I guess you're more experienced than I, help me :( - we tried everything, games, stuff... doesn't work.
Your level of erection won't stop you from having an orgasm.
Relax already! As you said this was your first time with the guy, your brain if not your conscious emotions were more than tense. You mentioned being Venezuelan, isn't this a very repressive country for LGBT? :police: You had a lot on your mind besides your boyfriend. Give yourself, and your boyfriend of course, time to relax into your new relationship and to find a way for acceptance by your community of your transition and his relationship with you. Have you tried masturbation while he is massaging your prostate? that usually works for me. ;) Good luck and keep me posted. :) :) :) :)
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billies1