Okay, so I'm curious, am I the only one who is genuinely satisfied when they're at a party & there's a number of guys hitting on them (obviously completely oblivious to the surprise between our thighs :icon_rah: ? I like to see how far I can push it & I've been to the point where I've been making out with a guy for the entire night & I want to go further with him but I obviously can't because of fear of what can happen if he does find out. I know this just feeds into the stereotype that all tgirls just want to "trick" guys, but I can't help it! It let's me know I'm doing my job right & it honestly (sad to say) makes me feel better about myself. I have another trans friend & she said she doesn't get any actual satisfaction out of it & another who doesn't even feel right doing it because she feels like she's lieing to them. So, I was wondering, am I the only other tgirl that does this?
I'd say be very careful
I was pretty happy too the first times few guys hitted on me as a woman. Like you said it's a proof that you pass so it's good for self esteem. The meaning change over time, well for me it's like a not-so-free drug xD. I don't want any relations of any kind related to this but I find it funny to see what a guy is ready to do only to take a drink.
I've moved for free 2 times now :)
My fun now is to being the center of attraction when I'm going with my coworkers(scientists) in Science Conventions. Nearly everyone there are scientists and holders of various doctorates. I think the devil corrupted me :O.
Think about it before going further ... Especially in the fire of the moment. An "ignorant" may react really bad if he learn it. If you're post-op you may take a chance with a lot of carefuleness. Not all guys are jerks and freaks but they still exist. So as stephaniec said be extremely careful, we don't want you to live an horror story.
Quote from: stephaniec on November 04, 2014, 09:46:54 PM
I'd say be very careful
I agree. Be very careful, Jasmine. Cishet dudes sometimes turn violent over this sorta thing. :(
Quote from: liz on November 04, 2014, 10:22:16 PM
I was pretty happy too the first times few guys hitted on me as a woman. Like you said it's a proof that you pass so it's good for self esteem. The meaning change over time, well for me it's like a not-so-free drug xD. I don't want any relations of any kind related to this but I find it funny to see what a guy is ready to do only to take a drink.
I've moved for free 2 times now :)
My fun now is to being the center of attraction when I'm going with my coworkers(scientists) in Science Conventions. Nearly everyone there are scientists and holders of various doctorates. I think the devil corrupted me :O.
Think about it before going further ... Especially in the fire of the moment. An "ignorant" may react really bad if he learn it. If you're post-op you may take a chance with a lot of carefuleness. Not all guys are jerks and freaks but they still exist. So as stephaniec said be extremely careful, we don't want you to live an horror story.
I'm not post op & that's why I don't go all the way. $: If I were post op I would definitely go all the way not holding back honestly haha
Oh YAASSSSS!!!! Omg it is really fun I have been to dance clubs and parties where I made out with guy(s) who were oblivious. You're not alone! :D
As others said please do be careful though. I personally don't worry about being careful but I have reasons not to care
I find it even more satisfying when they are a cis lipstick lesbian though haha
Quote from: Hanazono on November 05, 2014, 09:12:38 AM
I made out with a guy in a club about ten years ago. he was pretty oblivious.
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that being said, I was young and foolish. my self esteem then depended on acceptance or passing from others.
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only when I was older and my naivete crudely hammered on the anvil of life, that I realized my self-esteem is exactly what it means... I have to grade my own worth and making out with random guys (even if they were hot) wasn't doing much for serious relationship building or meaningful interaction.
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of course, the danger of being discovered and the probable subsequent assault really does put a dampener on things too.
:p
Being hit on, even mildly, is a positive thing in many ways (and negative in others). At my age I still get hit on because apparently I look pretty good for a 57 year old woman. But I also made a firm mental commitment to no relationships whatsoever until after I am "right" down there with myself, meaning done and healed from GCS and I will likely be 58 or even 59 before that is complete.
Having already made that commitment to myself, it makes it easier for me to say no. It's now very easy for me to let a guy down gently - "Look, I'm really flattered at your attention and you seem like a really sweet guy, but I'm going through a lot right now and I just need my own space." Saying something like that has been sufficient every time (so far) to gently push them back and create some space. If I need to be firmer, I will but so far I haven't had to do so.
Quote from: HelloKitty on November 05, 2014, 08:11:02 AM
Oh YAASSSSS!!!! Omg it is really fun I have been to dance clubs and parties where I made out with guy(s) who were oblivious. You're not alone! :D
As others said please do be careful though. I personally don't worry about being careful but I have reasons not to care
I find it even more satisfying when they are a cis lipstick lesbian though haha
Maybe it's just cause we're young lol We're gonna end up getting beat up. $: Watch.
Not sure if this applies here or not, it's worth a read, though. https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,66853.0.html
Quote from: TSJasmine on November 05, 2014, 03:37:10 PM
Maybe it's just cause we're young lol We're gonna end up getting beat up. $: Watch.
I'm 35 but still getting beat up doesn't sound like much fun, so I'll be careful too. Home made pepper spray, oh yaw :3
Quote from: HelloKitty on November 05, 2014, 03:46:58 PM
I'm 35 but still getting beat up doesn't sound like much fun, so I'll be careful too. Home made pepper spray, oh yaw :3
35??? God damn xD I just turned 18 less than a month ago hahaha
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on November 05, 2014, 03:45:09 PM
Not sure if this applies here or not, it's worth a read, though. https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,66853.0.html
I'm immoral then I guess :( You can't expect me to just tell a guy! That's scary. How do I work up the courage to just say "Hey, I wasn't born a biological girl"? My heart starts beating fast when I even think of it honestly
Quote from: TSJasmine on November 05, 2014, 03:50:37 PM
35??? God damn xD I just turned 18 less than a month ago hahaha
Yesh I'm old lol. But the guys at these parties were 18-20 years old...ugh I'm a cougar! Lol so i hide my age not just my trans status hehe
Be careful, girls.
Or maybe that's just the parent in me speaking.
That said, I'd be pretty thrilled if someone mistook me for a girl - not in a making-out-in-a-club-and-thinking-I-don't-have-a-dick way, because I'm far beyond that age (or am I?), but in a ah-what-a-lovely-looking-lady-let-me-hold-the-door-open-for-her way. That would make me soooo happy.
Quote from: TSJasmine on November 05, 2014, 03:53:32 PM
I'm immoral then I guess :( You can't expect me to just tell a guy! That's scary. How do I work up the courage to just say "Hey, I wasn't born a biological girl"? My heart starts beating fast when I even think of it honestly
That's your decision. I noticed the thread is tagged "deception" though, and we're against that for good reason.
Hugs, Devlyn
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on November 05, 2014, 03:45:09 PM
Not sure if this applies here or not, it's worth a read, though. https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,66853.0.html
Oh Susan is a right clever one isn't she? Thank you for posting that Devlyn, I hadn't seen it before.
Rosie
Quote from: H, H, H, Honeypot! on November 05, 2014, 05:28:17 PM
Oh Susan is a right clever one isn't she? Thank you for posting that Devlyn, I hadn't seen it before.
Rosie
ditto