Okay, this one's a little hard to explain. Some of you know I had a little bit of a rough Friday night and part of Saturday, and somebody that I consider a friend asked me if I was okay. Which I really did appreciate. He put his arms around me and was hugging me. He does know that I'm a transsexual, the part that confuses me is he took my hand and held it like I would have done in talking to a girl in trying to show some warmth and compassion, which I really didn't mind that much, but then he got a little flirtatious. Coming from a male perspective, I can see that he was hitting on me a little bit and being at the very beginning of my transition. I'm really not all that feminine looking yet now I do wear makeup. My fingernails are polished I wear scarves. I wear rings, but as of right now everything screams a male wearing girl stuff. You see he was doing stuff that I would have done trying to get a date with a woman. On one hand, I'm flattered, but on the other hand, it kind of creeped me out because I don't know if he's looking at me as a fetish or what. I do know that he is bisexual, and this is left me, confused, I'm interested in hearing what you girls think.
Hugs,
Melissa Ann
awww he likes you... maybe he sensed something and wanted to ensure you're okay. Either way, to him, you may have a sweet inside personality. If you have similar attraction, maybe not so much bad thing. If not, then let him know you appreciate his kindness but rather keep it platonic between you two if he continues :)
Only you know if you're comfortable. Personally I'd find that weird and would want that to slow down. Work out exactly what their angle is.
If it feels wrong it most likely is. Not being a pessimist (is that the correct word o.o?) just.. well.. if you feel you still present to many as a boy and someone flirts with you, he most likely sees you as such. Question to you is if you really want to be seen as a woman and only be approached as one or if you are fine with people wanting you for being you, regardless of the gender.
maybe he finds you attractive and now you are on his available list, sounded positive to me
All truly great advice. Like I said, I am flattered, but being on that side of the fence at one time I know what he's doing now that I've come out transgendered. I guess my guard is up trying to watch out for trolls. I mean, I don't want to be somebody's fetish and I do want to find somebody to love, but somebody who loves me for who I am not what I am thanks for sharing.
Hugs,
Melissa Ann
He's clearly also still a friend. Just find a way to let him down gently.