I'm asking this to help me understand myself ,as well as some more traditional trans guy friends of mine who I keep accidently offending/triggering somehow even though I'm also trans .... are there things in particular that trigger your dsyphoria? If so what are they? I have a few of them-
being misgendered-especially when it happens constantly for hours or days
hearing or seeing my full birth name
seeing myself naked
getting my period
A few of mine are:
- Being misgendered
- Being legally recognised as male
- My genitals
- My voice
- Adam's apple
- Seeing women I think are pretty (I get extremely jealous)
I agree w/ mis gendered, being stuck with the stereotypical American boys for too long (hint hint. P.E. Class), locker rooms (murdermurdermurder), genitals, and certain Christian schools
Being mis-gendered
Thinking of my chest out in public
My birth name being used still on legal things
Being called "mom" by grown adults who think it's cute.
My voice
Seeing top surgery photos(it's a mixed process)
Using a prosthetic for sex(another mixed feeling one)
Quote from: Valleyrie on November 14, 2014, 12:18:54 AM
A few of mine are:
- Being misgendered
- Being legally recognised as male
- My genitals
- My voice
- Adam's apple
- Seeing women I think are pretty (I get extremely jealous)
I can agree with most not all of this list myself. I like the female voice I have and I don't have a visiable Adams apple. Though that last one is the most laughable since I can't pass most women without feeling a bit of jealousy in wanting to be them. The cuter they are the worse it gets. :'( what a life eh.
Mine are:
My voice
The fact that my body hair isn't getting thinner as fast as I would like it to
And like Valleyrie, seeing girls I think are pretty.
-being misgendered
-being called effeminate, feminine, cute, etc.
-being told that I look like a woman, that I can't pass, etc.
-having people I haven't told unexpectedly know I'm trans because someone told them without my permission
-when people don't consider me a "real man"
-looking in the mirror and seeing someone who looks like a woman
-my boobs
-my hips and general shape
-trying on clothes that fit weird due to my shape
-lots
I honestly don't know. All I know is it doesn't happen very often but when it does it hits me really hard. I've just never gotten it narrowed down. I know it is a build up through several days sometimes but can never pinpoint exactly what it is.
Happy couples haha :P and then a list so long I cant possibly type it and keep the bit limit for a post!
Happy couples are actually one of mine too lol. I get angry when I see people kissing and holding hands and I just look away
This is a really bad one, especially for me because I'm still stealth, which means I have no way of getting out of it. Having to cut my hair short. :(
hearing my name
having to say my name
seeing the veins on my arms
feeling/seeing my Adams apple.
morning wood
feeling it "move" down there
seeing hair around my breasts
shaving every morning
being referred to as "one of the guys"
seeing beautiful young girls/women
crossdressing (have to do it, but OMG that's a man in a wig *crying* :( )
Not allowed hearing girl type of gossip among girls
My thich brimmed glasses
the rough skin over my knuckles
the thought of growing old, balding etc.
effeminate guys (the thing I am hiding myself)
Guys wanting to touch or yet worse suck.... "it".
The word dick, cock etc.
Men's undergarments
The fly on men's trousers
The obligatory nodd after getting a men's haircut when looking in the mirror saying "yeah, that's fine" to the hairdresser
My stiff body, not moving gracefully
My triggers are:
- my hair
- my body shape (hips, waist, legs)
- my face that became angular with estrogen
- nearly all cis-women around my age (the all look better and thats very frustrating)
- i need clothes with size L at 1,71m
- my hair
- younger TS and transgender around my age - i think most of them has better results after 2 years
- my blood levels and HRT-things
- my masculine belly (fat distribution is not working)
- my hair
-misgendered...
-seeing cute girls, or womens ''only'' clothing
-peeps telling me long hair is weird on a 'guy'
-biology classes(Doesn't help that I get LOADS of biology due my course)
-Forms/legal papers
-Dreaming about being a girl.
etc.. it's not that bad with me but when it gets too much or whatever. I just shutdown
-Being called "Sir" for hours or days at a time, then the random "Miss" or "Ma'am"
-That point in the day where my binder shoves my boobs together and they touch each other.
-My birth name spoken by anyone except my parents.
-Breast tenderness before my period starts. (Excruciating pain!)
-Putting on a shirt that still shows my boobs even though I bind them.
-My short hair
-My jaw, chin, brow
-my arms and hands, shoulders too on some days
-My height
-My flat chest
-My junk
-Basically mirrors in general
-Seeing passable trans women, ones who don't have this disgusting curly hair, ones who can afford surgery...seeing everything I don't have.
So life in general pretty much!