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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: kittylover on November 18, 2014, 08:04:55 PM

Title: recovering from bad places
Post by: kittylover on November 18, 2014, 08:04:55 PM
one thing I could use some help with is learning how to get myself out of bad places emotionally. whether it's just that my dsyphoria  is particularly bad that day or that special bad feeling I get after repeated misgendering....for example I stayed with my parents for a few days over fall break and they were constantly misgendering me the whole time. It took me a whole day to feel normal again afterwords....I feel like they might be somewhat responsive to me bugging them about my pronouns at this point but  I  still know that  if I'm with them there will be misgendering.....one thing I know helps me is being around friends that I know will get my name and pronouns right, but I can't always get that as fast as I'd like. Is there anything that helps you get out of bad places?
Title: Re: recovering from bad places
Post by: Edge on November 19, 2014, 07:42:49 AM
First, I let myself feel it. I don't judge myself for feeling it, I remind myself that it's ok to feel this way,  and I remain aware that it will pass. Knowing that it's ok and it will pass keeps me from getting much worse. Not pushing it away allows me to take the time to validate how I feel to myself and get those feelings out in a cathartic way.
Then I remind myself of who I am and who I want to be.