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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Real-Life Experience => Topic started by: April_TO on November 18, 2014, 08:43:10 PM

Title: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: April_TO on November 18, 2014, 08:43:10 PM
Hi Everyone,

I'm dying to head out in public with a really nice pair of wigs. However, the thought of wearing one makes me so anxious and paranoid. In my head, people can easily clock me if i'd wear one and I don't want to embarrass myself and add more to the self deprecating thoughts in my head.

I DO NOT mean any disrespect to my lovely ladies in this site that wears one. However, how did you overcome the anxiety of wearing one? I just have this nasty thought in my head that I might look like a freak show sigh.... :( sobs. I only wear my unit when I am at home (I know it's silly)

Thanks Ladies xo

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2F6vrmS1p.png&hash=e48f11cb9998b506c8ba98b279bf86481046916e)
Title: Re: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: Jessica Merriman on November 18, 2014, 08:45:48 PM
Do you have any idea how many cis girls wear them on a daily basis? Relax, you will not get clocked for wearing a wig. Once you learn to properly secure it you will forget it is on. I am so lucky though and only wear one now when my mood changes or if I want a particular look. My natural hair is just where I want it now.  :)
Title: Re: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: Ms Grace on November 19, 2014, 03:23:48 AM
The one you have on in that picture looks perfectly natural. I wear one, and you'd never believe how many compliments I get. You get used to wearing them pretty quickly and as long as it's comfortable you don't even notice you've got one on.
Title: Re: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: suzifrommd on November 19, 2014, 08:29:13 AM
I wear a wig. I'm rarely clocked.

I have steeled myself for the moment when my wig comes off in public (it WILL happen). I will simply replace it with dignity and poise.

Hasn't happened yet, fortunately.
Title: Re: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: Jenelle on November 19, 2014, 10:27:51 AM
Carmen,

That wig looks great! I would not worry about wearing it in public, not one bit :)
Title: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: Eva Marie on November 19, 2014, 11:18:08 AM
I wear a wig and secure it with wig tape. At college the other night I had a nasty fall down some stairs because I had boots with heels on and I was in a hurry and wasn't paying enough attention. I did a 160 degree forward rotation followed by a face plant - and my wig stayed on lol...

The wig you are wearing looks perfectly natural to me. I constantly get compliments on my wig so I know that people cannot tell. Relax, go out into the world and rock that wig girl!


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Title: Re: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: April_TO on November 21, 2014, 11:58:18 PM
Thanks for the words of encouragement. I finally went out with my unit on and not a single person looked at me!! Me and my female cis friend were quite amazed how I passed LOL. However, I still get so self conscious sigh LOL

I have to work on my confidence. Btw, here's the proof: My pic inside the mall YAY!

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FOF4aYcb.jpg&hash=a66a8464db459648716d9208a741e3d934857284)

I'm currently hitting my 3rd month on HRT this 28 :) woohoo!!! Loving it!
Title: Re: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: Ms Grace on November 22, 2014, 12:04:40 AM
Looking great Carmen!
Title: Re: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: April_TO on November 22, 2014, 12:13:37 AM
Thanks Ms. Grace :)
Title: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: Summer on November 22, 2014, 01:41:12 AM
You'll be fine Hun but I know where your coming from and I was the same until today my wife and daughters went for a big walk was a first for me with my wig on as well outside in public. Here's a pick I snapped before we left it's a bit cheeky (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi1293.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fb591%2Fmjdsk8ter%2FMobile%2520Uploads%2F2014-11%2FD45B9A7B-EEDA-4C13-A297-F4B40641393B_zpsymtfwsad.jpg&hash=73745db16fd3ba162eda1606cd5383a71f34f640) (http://s1293.photobucket.com/user/mjdsk8ter/media/Mobile%20Uploads/2014-11/D45B9A7B-EEDA-4C13-A297-F4B40641393B_zpsymtfwsad.jpg.html)


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Title: Re: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: Stephanie00Rayne on November 24, 2014, 03:46:04 PM
You've got nothing to be worried about Carmen...  Based on your photo.. it looks completely natural and suits your facial features very nicely!

And Jessica makes a great point.  You'd be amazed how many cis-woman wear wigs.  Heck, my mother wears one. :)
Title: Re: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: April_TO on November 24, 2014, 08:22:48 PM
Thanks Stephanie and Summer xoxo
Title: Re: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: LizMarie on December 02, 2014, 05:23:33 PM
You look amazing, Carmen! And the wig looks wonderful.

I have to wear wigs. My own fault for not facing who I was years ago and letting time and testosterone ravage my scalp. But as others have noted, a good wig can be indistinguishable from natural hair.
Title: Re: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: TSJasmine on December 02, 2014, 06:54:01 PM
If it's not a cheap wig then it should look fine. Just make sure the hair is human, lace closure looks best & put some makeup in the hair parting & blend so it doesn't look so fake. Make sure it isn't fake looking because noticeable wigs don't ever really look cute unless they're for cosplay
Title: Re: Wig: Insecurity wearing one
Post by: Jessika on December 02, 2014, 09:11:03 PM
I live in Florida and must wear wigs when I am in girl mode. I hate Summers because I sweat soooooo easily. It really keeps me from going Girl Mode most of the Summer. I hate it so much.  :'( :'(

I really hope once HRT starts it will change so I sweat less and can handle the heat..WITH a Wig on.

I hope my hair has a chance during transition but at 47 I don't know. I have little fine hairs on the famous top center rear Male baldness pattern. Maybe it can be saved?

Wishful thinking.