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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: angie on November 21, 2014, 10:34:41 AM

Title: any good ways to test the water before coming out to a friend
Post by: angie on November 21, 2014, 10:34:41 AM
Hi, just wondering if anybody has any suggestions on how to maybe bring up transgender issues to friends without outing yourself to kind of test the water and see how they feel about the issue? up in the air about telling my friends what is going on  and plan on moving in the next four to six months. until then I won't be able to go full time, just trying to figure out if coming out to them is the right thing to do or if I should just blow it off and not let anybody know until I move! kind of scared came out to my sister 2 weeks ago and haven't heard a word from her my mom wish she  would wake up from her nightmare and needless to say I don't really talk to her much anymore, and my wife has moved away for a while so I can figure out myself even though I already have and she told me that if I transitioned she can no longer be with me but will always be there for me as my best friend but as I have found everytime I try to talk to her about this it turns into a fight so I have pretty much been keeping everything to myself! thank you all so much and any advice will be greatly appreciated!
Thanks
Angie ???
Title: Re: any good ways to test the water before coming out to a friend
Post by: katrinaw on November 22, 2014, 06:37:28 PM
Not sure if I can give advice as I am in the same boat  :'(

However what I have decided is meet up with a fully transitioned friend tomorrow and just explain who I really am and 1) hope she can help me with what, how etc... also more importantly 2) Would she become part of a very close support group that I will build to help me through the journey. If this goes well, then I will reach out to 2 other close gender content friends that I can trust (I fully believe)...

I am scared, been close to this point so many times through my life, but I just can't hide anymore...

So just thought I would suggest how I am going to test and measure...fingers x'd

L Katy
Title: Re: any good ways to test the water before coming out to a friend
Post by: angie on November 22, 2014, 07:00:01 PM
wish I had a close friend in the area that I could trust, met a girl on here that has been great there for me whenever I need her to be and I am so grateful for that but I just really wish that I had a close friend here that could stand by my side as I do come out to my friends
Title: Re: any good ways to test the water before coming out to a friend
Post by: katrinaw on November 23, 2014, 05:47:57 AM
Hi Angie; Yes I understand, its that rock of support, someone to hold you hand as you start on the journey... Although the support you, we all, get from this forum is second to none... but sometimes you need to cry on a shoulder... And I am sure we will have lots of those moments  :'(

Nervously excited...

L Katy