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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: creativeusername on November 23, 2014, 06:49:44 AM

Title: Feeling defeated and hopeless
Post by: creativeusername on November 23, 2014, 06:49:44 AM
I don't know where I should post this. I question why I'm posting this. Whenever I seek help online it bites me right back. But I don't know where to turn, who to turn to. I hate to sound like I'm exaggerating and I hate to sound like just a whiny bitch, but I really have no friends. I moved recently and I feel alone. I'm incredibly discouraged right now.

I'm pre-T and have plans to go on it soon, very soon.

Normally when I post in forums I get even more discouraged with responses I get. I don't really even know what I'm looking for. I guess I'm hoping that if I get a least one positive post, anything encouraging, anything, I would feel...
Title: Re: Feeling defeated and hopeless
Post by: gabimoneratt on November 23, 2014, 07:07:13 AM
Find an LGBT support group near you, you can make friends that way :)
Idk how old you are, if you work or go to uni, why you moved... It's hard to say something :/ but don't be discouraged, be strong!  Go to a gender therapist, they help  ;D
Best of luck ^__^ I'm sure you'll get plenty of support here  ;)
Title: Re: Feeling defeated and hopeless
Post by: mrs izzy on November 23, 2014, 07:34:12 AM
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There are a few here that should have information to help. gabimoneratt offered great suggestions and I will echo them.
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Title: Re: Feeling defeated and hopeless
Post by: CapnKye on November 23, 2014, 07:44:54 AM
All of us— no matter what stage of transition we are in— feel discouraged sometimes. That's okay.

This is a hard thing to do; it's a struggle. But you are not defeated until you absolutely stop trying and settle in unhappiness.

As long as you try, you'll get there eventually. [emoji5]️try to keep your head up, and don't worry, Susan's is full of a lot of amazing people who understand. Don't be afraid to talk here.

Kye.
Title: Re: Feeling defeated and hopeless
Post by: adrian on November 23, 2014, 07:53:39 AM
Hi creative, welcome :) Good to have you here. You've come to a great and supportive place!

It's awesome you get to start t soon. I'm still far, far away from that part of my journey.

Anyway, I look forward to seeing you around -- I think we're quite fun to be with :D
Title: Re: Feeling defeated and hopeless
Post by: suzifrommd on November 23, 2014, 08:42:34 AM
T is wonderful (And this from someone who is glad she doesn't have any more).

It will take your body and turn it into a man's body. Everyone will see you as a guy. Every time I see my body the way it should look, I feel like I've won the lottery.

Encouraging enough?
Title: Re: Feeling defeated and hopeless
Post by: SoroyaAR on November 23, 2014, 12:05:17 PM
Hello Creative!

I am also about to start my transition and you've come to the right place.. there are a lot of great people here and lots of good information to help you along the way. Also, find a gender therapist and support group near you.. I did, and that has helped SO much, to be able to express what I'm feeling and to have people on your side who support you, who listen and understand how you feel. :)
Title: Re: Feeling defeated and hopeless
Post by: creativeusername on November 26, 2014, 03:46:17 PM
I know it's rather silly, but I was rather terrified to check on responses but after telling myself to well..."->-bleeped-<- it" I'm glad I did. It's rare I notice such positive reinforcement on the web but it's satisfying and relieving to see such understanding here and I want to HUGELY thank ALL who posted. I don't know how to express how much I appreciate the thoughts.

I do still fill a bit discouraged. I'm all for transitioning, I'm excited to. What I'm feeling hopeless about is the thought of continuing to feel alone, but I will search for support groups and hopefully make a friend (for once)






...man I'm pitiful at times....
Title: Re: Feeling defeated and hopeless
Post by: Rachel on November 26, 2014, 07:58:52 PM
I go to a transsexual group. There are 3 I cold go to. I have connected with group and if I wanted to I could reach out for friendship.

I know about loneliness and for me addressing my gender issues has made me outgoing. I start conversations with strangers and I am on 4 volunteer units at work.
Title: Re: Feeling defeated and hopeless
Post by: jeminajay on November 28, 2014, 05:03:23 AM
Hi Creative use name,
I am in the same condition as you. I don't have a friend or a person who recognize me as a TG. I don't know where should I turn to in real life. I live in Thailand. I am not aware of any support group.

I hope we can be friends. I am 40 with a young mind.