I would like to try dating men. I don't have much natural beauty. I have a slender figure, but that's all you can really say about it - not much butt or bust to speak of.
So I'm going to need to use my charm and personality.
For the post-50 girls who have had success finding men to date (other than on dating sites), any tips?
Show up at the senior center with bacon and booze?
Really though, I don't know. Seems like they are all a little different. Some of them are picky and some aren't. I've been asked out, but not sure what actually attracted them to me, so assumed they were nuts and really shouldn't date that type that would actually want to date me...
Oh come on!
Your really cute in your profile picture :)
You look like any other woman of around your age, save in much better shapethan most people :p
Not yet over fifty and I've never tried them myself, but how about those speed dating things, gives you the opportunity to meet guys face to face and I'm sure there'd be one for an over 50 demographic.
Anyone who asked me out must be more disturbed than me.I'll probably end up with a Dexter or someone called Malcolm who lives with his Mum and collects crisp packets and goes train spotting
Don't focus so much on attracting a man. Men just have to like you at first so just get to know them. If they like you, well, you know men.. there are basically open for everything when they decided they are into you x_x.
Very true, Kirey!
Quote from: big kim on November 23, 2014, 03:40:26 PM
...I'll probably end up with a Dexter...
As long as you're not a serial killer you'll have nothing to worry about!! ;)
Hiya Suzi
You know, I think that so much of it just boils down to luck and timing. I have a great bunch of cis girlfriends, from early 30s to late 40s. We're all smart, pretty (enough!), capable, employed....single! :o
So it's probably a case of just colliding with the right guy. Which means getting out and about to the right places.
I wish there was a formula for this...but I think if you let your personality shine, the odds are good!
xxx
J
One thing I noticed. Men in their 50s (your age group) tend to go after the 35 -45 YO women. The 60 and above seem to go after the 50 YO women. Just something I have noticed and been told by men in these age groups. So you might need to dial up your max age requirement when dating.
Other than that get out and start being seen. Restaurant bars are filled with men. Go have dinner at the bar.
Sorry if this sounds naive. You attract people when you are over 50 the same as when you are younger. You join societies, go to events that interest you and would interst the type of man you would like to meet. I like classical music, theatre, modern dance so I went to performances alone, a bit nervous (understatement!) and yes there are men who enjoy such things and yes you are sought out as a single woman.
What you do then is up to you. :)
I'm about to start doing this again as I would like to expand my social circle.
You may be interested in other hobbies like art, photography, bush walking etc.
bush walking?
Quote from: big kim on November 24, 2014, 07:20:00 AM
Bit hard to do in Blackpool!
I hope that's not like walking your pet bush.
Quote from: VickyMI on November 24, 2014, 06:09:18 AM
One thing I noticed. Men in their 50s (your age group) tend to go after the 35 -45 YO women. The 60 and above seem to go after the 50 YO women. Just something I have noticed and been told by men in these age groups. So you might need to dial up your max age requirement when dating.
I think that this is dead on the money. I am about to turn 52 and I have a 60 year old gentleman that has taken a shine to me. I have an FTM friend at church that is my age and even though on paper we are a good match he's quite clearly lusting after the young ones :laugh:
Finding a club, game or social group is a grate way to meet guys. I meet my boyfriend online in a game :)
Good luck on the hunt,
Ademie
to be honest I don't find men in my age group very attractive , although there are some exceptions. I'm more interested in the group below my age.
I had a long post written but totally messed it up, then deleted it. I was on the phone at the time and upet about my relationship (not my wife), and just couldn't think straight.
Anyway I do try to flirt with older men, and sometimes tease the old guys by showing too much cleavage. Unfortunately this has resulted in 60+ year old men staring at my boobs, and having a few guys using creepy ways to look down into my top and bra. Guess this might lead to going braless in a thin top someday. :) My breasts are large enough and not very saggy yet. ::)
So I'll make this real short:
1. Dress well, but not too sexy, or too casual. You only need to look a bit more classy than the group you're in. Men will notice.
2. Don't over-do your makeup. I'm old (as you know) but found I look better when age isn't being totally hidden or caked over.
3. Sit someplace that's near other people, yet in an area where you can be easily approached by men who want to talk.
4. Stay safe and comfortable by having a convienient exit planned. (needed if you're very unsure of the place you're in)
5. And most of all - don't be afraid to smile and say "Hi" to someone. No need to be agressive in this approach, since that one word said in a simple and polite way can draw a man into opening up in a nice conversation.
And yes, I'm in a relationship with another transwoman, but that doesn't stop me from flirting a little. Anyway, these guys could never make me an Empress the way my girl does.
You'll do fine Suzi.
Ouch... Just a little over 50 +++++++
At my age, just want to be the real Katrina... Anything else would be a massive bonus and Transformation accreditation
BTW You don't have to try hard, it could tend to becoming obvious, just be yourself... I am sure you may find more success
L Katy
Suzi you are really awesome all you have tondo is find ways to talk to them and just be yourself and I am sure you will have plenty of success. You are very smart, and you are very strong to have managed to get to this point.
Suzi, "over 50"; really? Go Cougar, I want you to re-post this as "over 35".