I like men, unfortunately, so I have to worry about being pregnant, lol. Maybe I'll end up with another trans guy and it won't be a problem, but if I do end up with a cis guy, how do I not get pregnant? I know IUDs are a popular option, but I have a lot of allergies, and am allergic to nickel, so there's a vague possibility that I'd be allergic to copper. What then? :/
I also have a TON of dysphoria about my genitals and anxiety about being touched in that way by strangers. I'm 18 and almost got on birth control when I was ~15 (for heavy periods) but I started bawling at the doctor's office when she wanted to give me a pelvic exam. I don't know how to deal with being penetrated in that way.
IUD's are popular. You'll have to speak to a doctor about the content inside the device. Other than that I don't think birth control or anything like that is a good option. Probably just best to stick with condoms, if you're taking t I don't think it would be healthy to take birth control but I'm not a doctor!
As for being with a guy, trust me you're not gonna care when you find the right person and things get steamy. But maybe I'm wrong and maybe you will. I always thought I wouldn't like penetrative sex but I did lol. Or you can always try anal.
I'd be wary of IUDs if you're on T too. It might have been an isolated case but I know a guy who was in severe pain because one got imbedded after starting T. It took several attempts to get it out again.
I'd just stick to condoms. They're the only entirely effective thing if they're used properly, and protect against diseases too.
I too would say just stick with condoms. It protects against STDs/STIs and if you use it right it'll work better than other methods. I had a friend get an IUD and she had her period for a solid 2 months afterwards. I don't know how it would affect the periods of a guy on T, but I personally wouldn't risk it.
Condoms, out of all non-hormonal BC, is the most effective. You can also use spermicide, diaphragms, sponges, or female condoms in conjunction with regular condoms. There is also Paragard (I'm told that's non-hormonal but it's made of metal). Although female BC is plentiful in options, there aren't a lot of options if you want to go hormone free.
Quote from: wolfduality on November 24, 2014, 03:05:00 PM
Condoms, out of all non-hormonal BC, is the most effective. You can also use spermicide, diaphragms, sponges, or female condoms in conjunction with regular condoms. There is also Paragard (I'm told that's non-hormonal but it's made of metal). Although female BC is plentiful in options, there aren't a lot of options if you want to go hormone free.
Woah there- do NOT use a female condom AND a male condom at the same time. It can cause one or both to tear. And the copper IED is by FAR the most effective non-hormonal method.
http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2014/09/14/sunday-review/unplanned-pregnancies.html?_r=0 (http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2014/09/14/sunday-review/unplanned-pregnancies.html?_r=0)
Quote from: wolfxheart on November 23, 2014, 11:01:51 PM
I also have a TON of dysphoria about my genitals and anxiety about being touched in that way by strangers. I'm 18 and almost got on birth control when I was ~15 (for heavy periods) but I started bawling at the doctor's office when she wanted to give me a pelvic exam. I don't know how to deal with being penetrated in that way.
TRIGGER WARNING: talk of personal discomfort and ab*se
this was a personal hurdle that i had to leap over myself. i have PTSD so gyne appointments for me were almost unbearable. in the end you have to accept that its important to get those exams to make sure your healthy, rather than having to deal with more long term problems. Pelvic exams are not that long compared to the time future complications due to not getting checked out will take, (not trying to insinuate that you will have complications just trying to say its important to make sure you dont, or catch things early on)
when you do go, just take it a couple steps at a time. let your doctor know that this makes you uncomfortable, and if possible why. Then just try to relax and take it seconds at a time until its over. use alot of positive self talk, and remind yourself that it will be over soon, and try to remember your doing this to make sure you dont have to deal with other problems that would amplify the dysphoria even worse.
after its all over go home and do alot of self care, and reward yourself, after doing something that makes you uncomfortable, or anything that was challenging its important to take care of your body, de-stress, and reward yourself for rolling with the punches and getting the tough work taken care of:D.
Quote from: BrotherBen on November 26, 2014, 05:47:29 PM
Woah there- do NOT use a female condom AND a male condom at the same time. It can cause one or both to tear. And the copper IED is by FAR the most effective non-hormonal method.
http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2014/09/14/sunday-review/unplanned-pregnancies.html?_r=0 (http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2014/09/14/sunday-review/unplanned-pregnancies.html?_r=0)
Really now? That's odd given I was told that at not one but TWO Planned Parenthoods. Not calling you a liar but it's alarming that it's being told at places that are suppose to be about reproductive health. I will certainly keep that in mind next time.