How do you tell a girl this I just wanna reasure the girl that I am practically in love with that I'd never intentionally hurt her like how do I say it? :-\
Pretty much like that bro. And then don't do anything stupid to mess it up. Words are just words. As long as your actions back them up, that's all that matters.
You say exactly what you said in this post, like, are you coming out to her?? If so maybe "(name), I love you, and I would never hurt you intentionally, but I'm trans/transgender/transexual" hope this helps!!
Quote from: fitzyfoop on December 01, 2014, 04:53:03 PM
You say exactly what you said in this post, like, are you coming out to her?? If so maybe "(name), I love you, and I would never hurt you intentionally, but I'm trans/transgender/transexual" hope this helps!!
Naw she already knows I am trans and accepts me, she sees me as any other guy. She was upset because I hurt her and I was being an ->-bleeped-<- about it, I apologized to her and admitted I was wrong and told her that I love her.
Quote from: KamTheMan on December 01, 2014, 04:50:35 PM
Pretty much like that bro. And then don't do anything stupid to mess it up. Words are just words. As long as your actions back them up, that's all that matters.
Yea I wanna do it in person cuz I was really being a ass I apologized but I still feel horrible, I hate upsetting girls :(
Yeah so do I, I have before, by quoting another person's words, which in heinsight I shouldn't have, but I cried when I saw how hurt they were.... That's one of the things I'm never gonna forget.... :'(
I upset my girlfriend about two months ago, and I just said it straight. I said I was naive, what I did was an ->-bleeped-<- thing, and I didn't mean to ever hurt her. I reassured her that she was the most important thing to me and that I realise now that what I did was so stupid. I definitely don't want her to hurt and I want to do everything I can to fix the fact that I did hurt her. I also made sure to tell her that I understand if she can't forgive me, and that if she is done, I understand, I just want her to know I didn't mean it. I made sure to include that her feelings are valid too, and her feelings are justified. Don't ignore how she feels or put her down, try to understand how she feels and open up the conversation so she can tell you.
Quote from: CursedFireDean on December 01, 2014, 05:26:50 PM
I upset my girlfriend about two months ago, and I just said it straight. I said I was naive, what I did was an ->-bleeped-<- thing, and I didn't mean to ever hurt her. I reassured her that she was the most important thing to me and that I realise now that what I did was so stupid. I definitely don't want her to hurt and I want to do everything I can to fix the fact that I did hurt her. I also made sure to tell her that I understand if she can't forgive me, and that if she is done, I understand, I just want her to know I didn't mean it. I made sure to include that her feelings are valid too, and her feelings are justified. Don't ignore how she feels or put her down, try to understand how she feels and open up the conversation so she can tell you.
Wow thats really good advice, everyones is so far.
Quote from: fitzyfoop on December 01, 2014, 05:04:50 PM
Yeah so do I, I have before, by quoting another person's words, which in heinsight I shouldn't have, but I cried when I saw how hurt they were.... That's one of the things I'm never gonna forget.... :'(
Yea this is a tad worse though I just hope me and her can move past it.
With some people, intention doesn't matter, they still feel hurt. So I would ask her what I can do to make things right.
Quote from: Gothic Dandy Luca on December 01, 2014, 10:32:06 PM
With some people, intention doesn't matter, they still feel hurt. So I would ask her what I can do to make things right.
Well I mean it wouldn't hurt to try with some people it helps to know if it was intetional or not I just wanna reasure her tbh.
You obviously feel bad about whatever went down bro. That's step one. You know you messed up. So yea dude just do what you plan to. Tell her how sorry you are and then be willing to do anything and everything to make it right again. Trust is huge with women.
Quote from: KamTheMan on December 01, 2014, 11:33:05 PM
You obviously feel bad about whatever went down bro. That's step one. You know you messed up. So yea dude just do what you plan to. Tell her how sorry you are and then be willing to do anything and everything to make it right again. Trust is huge with women.
Yea it is and the worse thing you can do is loose a womans trust.
Quote from: Brandon on December 01, 2014, 11:38:29 PM
Yea it is and the worse thing you can do is loose a womans trust.
Truth. And it's damn near impossible to earn it back once it's lost. Being given a woman's heart is a gift and a responisibiltity that shouldn't be taken lightly.
This is sort of an adorable thread :laugh: Sometimes I forget that most girls are more sensitive about things than I am, which sort of gets me into trouble, but usually a sincere apology works. Depending on how badly you screwed up though :P
Quote from: darkblade on December 02, 2014, 02:43:48 AM
This is sort of an adorable thread :laugh: Sometimes I forget that most girls are more sensitive about things than I am, which sort of gets me into trouble, but usually a sincere apology works. Depending on how badly you screwed up though :P
Well I mean you should always forgive someone though atleast in my oppinion.
Quote from: KamTheMan on December 01, 2014, 04:50:35 PM
Pretty much like that bro. And then don't do anything stupid to mess it up. Words are just words. As long as your actions back them up, that's all that matters.
Yeah, this is on point advice...give her a sincere apology and then just follow through and be good to her.
Quote from: birkin on December 02, 2014, 02:37:47 PM
Yeah, this is on point advice...give her a sincere apology and then just follow through and be good to her.
Yea thats true.
Well this is what I am gonna say, I just wanna say that I still feel really horrible and like ->-bleeped-<- , I had no I dea how much this affected you, know that I actually thought about it I competely understand why you were upset an needed space, And I am deeply sorry, just wanna reasure you that as crazy as it may seems I do really love you, you mean the absolute world to me and that I'd never ever intentionally hurt you so don't think for one second that I am that guy because I am not.
Congrats, their isn't really a way of putting that any better
Quote from: Brandon on December 02, 2014, 04:31:35 PM
Well this is what I am gonna say, I just wanna say that I still feel really horrible and like ->-bleeped-<- , I had no I dea how much this affected you, know that I actually thought about it I competely understand why you were upset an needed space, And I am deeply sorry, just wanna reasure you that as crazy as it may seems I do really love you, you mean the absolute world to me and that I'd never ever intentionally hurt you so don't think for one second that I am that guy because I am not.
Sounds good man.
Quote from: fitzyfoop on December 02, 2014, 04:35:07 PM
Congrats, their isn't really a way of putting that any better
Thanks man!
0_0 someone take away my Master Grammarian status away I said "their" instead of "there"
Quote from: fitzyfoop on December 02, 2014, 05:09:58 PM
0_0 someone take away my Master Grammarian status away I said "their" instead of "there"
Lol haha its ok I do that sometimes to.
*Too. I swear this is a problem
Quote from: fitzyfoop on December 02, 2014, 05:09:58 PM
0_0 someone take away my Master Grammarian status away I said "their" instead of "there"
I mean if you really want to get into it, you said "away" twice in that sentence, which is another grammatical error. I don't care. But you seem to. ;)
Quote from: Brandon on December 02, 2014, 04:31:35 PM
Well this is what I am gonna say, I just wanna say that I still feel really horrible and like ->-bleeped-<- , I had no I dea how much this affected you, know that I actually thought about it I competely understand why you were upset an needed space, And I am deeply sorry, just wanna reasure you that as crazy as it may seems I do really love you, you mean the absolute world to me and that I'd never ever intentionally hurt you so don't think for one second that I am that guy because I am not.
That's really nice and straight to the point! What was her reaction?
Quote from: Brandon on December 01, 2014, 04:48:18 PM
How do you tell a girl this I just wanna reassure the girl that I am practically in love with that I'd never intentionally hurt her like how do I say it? :-\
Whenever that comes up in a conversation I have with a girl/guy that I'm romantically involved with, I tell them "I would punch a wall and hurt myself before I hurt you, if I ever got that mad." I was raised in an abusive household (me and my mom have experienced it for the past 18 years), and just recently escaped from him (my father), and are living happily on our own. I would NEVER put my hands on a woman, or man, for that matter, in the way he has with us. I refuse to be like him. I do not believe in abuse in any way, shape, or form, and abuse comes in more than just physical violence. Tell her something like that. My "I would hurt myself before I hurt you" seems to usually work well.
Hope this helps!
Quote from: strapping_young_lad on December 03, 2014, 06:06:42 AM
That's really nice and straight to the point! What was her reaction?
I missed a day of school because I had a really bad head ace I'm gonna do it tomorrow and let you guys know her reaction tomorrow after school.
Quote from: Brandon on December 01, 2014, 11:16:54 PM
Well I mean it wouldn't hurt to try with some people it helps to know if it was intetional or not I just wanna reasure her tbh.
Oh yes of course, I just meant that that's what my train of thought would be and that's how I would handle the situation. I don't feel comfortable just asking for forgiveness, I feel like I have to earn it. And I guess I extend that to others who have hurt me as well. They have to earn my trust back.
I hope it goes well!
Guys it went well she even gave me a hug after, she also liked the box of chocolates I bought her ;D
Quote from: Brandon on December 05, 2014, 04:21:26 PM
Guys it went well she even gave me a hug after, she also liked the box of chocolates I bought her ;D
Good to hear man! Glad we could help you :)