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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Canl on December 09, 2014, 01:29:06 PM

Title: I felt comfortable shopping in the mens section
Post by: Canl on December 09, 2014, 01:29:06 PM
I went shopping to buy more manly clothes and it was so easy. I felt so comfortable compared to before (when I looked like a girl). Anyway, whilst I was shopping I had a look in the mirror and I looked like a young man/boy I felt so good! People probably wondered what I was but I think I passed since I was dressed like a man (baggy trousers, hat etc.). But its still awkward going to the toilet. I went to the womens toilet but I didn't want to. I think maybe I should go to the disabled toilets instead.
Title: Re: I felt comfortable shopping in the mens section
Post by: LauraSpiral on December 09, 2014, 01:30:55 PM
Well done, I'm so proud of you! I'm still uncomfortable in the womens section, and I haven't bought anything for myself yet... You're always free to use the disabled toilets, as I see a lot of people using them without having a disability..
Title: Re: I felt comfortable shopping in the mens section
Post by: mm on December 09, 2014, 01:37:06 PM
Canl, I am much more comfortable shopping in the men's section, just feel like I know what I want, never knew what to buy when I was trying to buy women's clothes for myself.  I can also say that I am more at easy using the men's after I the first few times.
Title: Re: I felt comfortable shopping in the mens section
Post by: awilliams1701 on December 09, 2014, 01:38:17 PM
First time I shopped in the women's section I found it a lot easier than I thought. Then I saw men clearly shopping for their girlfriends or wives. That made it even easier.
Title: Re: I felt comfortable shopping in the mens section
Post by: Amadeus on December 13, 2014, 01:52:30 AM
I've shopped in the men's sections of shops since I was seventeen or eighteen.  It was so liberating to walk into a store without my mum and browse clothes that I liked, that fit well, that made me feel comfortable and at ease.  I don't know why, but I never thought much of it.  I was there to get some new jeans and sod anyone who had a problem with it.

I'm thirty-three now and I go to the LGBT charity shop here in Atlanta [Lost N Found].  All the Atlanta gays drop their stuff off there and it is good stuff, too!  Now if I could just get these Devil's Dumplings off my chest, maybe my waistcoats would fit better.

High-five, mate.  Glad you're feeling comfortable in your own skin - and clothes.
Title: Re: I felt comfortable shopping in the mens section
Post by: ryanjoseph on December 13, 2014, 04:15:48 PM
ahh nice!! i can definitely relate, when i first started transitioning the men's section was super scary. i felt like everyone was staring at me and i hated it (but not as much as i hated the women's section). it's getting a lot better now so wooooooo
Title: Re: I felt comfortable shopping in the mens section
Post by: bambam on December 13, 2014, 05:21:44 PM
Congrats bud!
Title: Re: I felt comfortable shopping in the mens section
Post by: LatrellHK on December 13, 2014, 11:14:13 PM
I can happily relate. After I told my mom and granma I wanted to dress more masculine they gave me $200 and said have fun. I find it a lot easier to find mens clothes for me and remember staring at the womens clothing for almost 15mins before I decide on a neutral shirt lol  :D. Suits cause issues though. Only have money for one but I want like 10!
Title: Re: I felt comfortable shopping in the mens section
Post by: LoriLorenz on December 14, 2014, 05:31:19 AM
Quote from: LatrellHK on December 13, 2014, 11:14:13 PM
I can happily relate. After I told my mom and granma I wanted to dress more masculine they gave me $200 and said have fun. I find it a lot easier to find mens clothes for me and remember staring at the womens clothing for almost 15mins before I decide on a neutral shirt lol  :D. Suits cause issues though. Only have money for one but I want like 10!
OMG I want your mom and granma to be mine! :lol:

Canl, I'm so happy to hear you got over a "hurdle" in your trans process. Always great to hear the happy stories :D
Title: Re: I felt comfortable shopping in the mens section
Post by: JulianWS on December 15, 2014, 08:54:59 PM
Quote from: Canl on December 09, 2014, 01:29:06 PM
I went shopping to buy more manly clothes and it was so easy. I felt so comfortable compared to before (when I looked like a girl). Anyway, whilst I was shopping I had a look in the mirror and I looked like a young man/boy I felt so good! People probably wondered what I was but I think I passed since I was dressed like a man (baggy trousers, hat etc.). But its still awkward going to the toilet. I went to the womens toilet but I didn't want to. I think maybe I should go to the disabled toilets instead.

I went shopping for men's pants today for the first time and I can totally relate to this!  It was so easy and it felt good.   It also seemed like everything looked good and it was easy to find pants that fit well.  I always avoided clothes shopping before (I think it might have been dysphoria but I didn't know it, it just never felt good and I'd get frustrated/disgruntled really easily).  I can't wait to get more stuff :)  I don't pass yet, I still didn't feel out of place.