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Title: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Electric Fuzzball on December 09, 2014, 10:02:53 PM
Soo, hi everyone!

I'm Brandon, I'm an 18 year old from Michigan. Though I may have been born male, I have slowly come to identify myself as female since I was 10. I know very little about the transgender community due to my lack of research into it. I have only come out to 5 people I know because they were the 5 I could trust to help me out. All 5 accepted me and have been a huge help for the short time I've been out.

This is me.
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi1371.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fag294%2FGrambleShmou%2FMobile%2520Uploads%2FC360_2014-11-26-23-28-52-150_zps89155c6e.jpg&hash=50f89814ca938c903eb2644d6fde13785c89f725) (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi1371.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fag294%2FGrambleShmou%2FMobile%2520Uploads%2F35f27079-a6c0-40a5-b6f8-25ea0a784d41_zpsc6cab59d.jpg&hash=aa29a343004637a9e1f8390ac02acd03f9a94921)

I already have a name chosen - Vulynn

Little more about me.
- I'm a really open and accepting person
- I am a computer, anime, and JDM car person.
- I love animals, mostly dogs and wolves.

Little about my future
I plan on moving into an apartment near my college with my girlfriend. I want to start my transition by the end of next year, and my girlfriend is completely okay with it :laugh:. I'm going to be going to college for robotics and game design.

My biggest concern for anything to do with my transition is my family. My mom (dad died) would most likely approve of me doing it after a while. The concern is towards my relatives, they are really religious people.

About my dad. He was a great man, and an amazing father. Back in 2009, he started having problems digesting food. A few months later, he is diagnosed with one of the worst cancers possible. He had pancreatic cancer, it was the severe, no-chance cancer. He died quietly on October 29th, at 9:15 pm. That was the loneliest Halloween ever, no goofy clown (his favorite costume) following us to help carry bags....
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Electric Fuzzball on December 09, 2014, 10:07:50 PM
I'm really nervous and a bit scared, I only came out last week. I had been holding it in for fear of being hated or teased.

I forgot to say, I'm a really insecure person
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: mrs izzy on December 09, 2014, 10:18:48 PM
Vulynn
Welcome to Susan's family.(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.sherv.net%2Fcm%2Femoticons%2Fbugs%2Fbutterfly-smiley-emoticon.gif&hash=55ebfb136b45eac8ba9632f37111f98067fc3aa6) (http://www.sherv.net/)
There are a few here that should have information to help.
Pull up a chair and give a look over the following links for site info...(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.sherv.net%2Fcm%2Femoticons%2Fobject%2Fchair-3-smiley-emoticon-emoji.png&hash=f6de189a088518c5de131e0c9ce29661e7a52a55) (http://www.sherv.net/)
Safe passage on your path, popcorn?
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Izzy
Forum News: new for our members under 18 a new safe place just for you. Youth talk.
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Electric Fuzzball on December 10, 2014, 12:10:06 AM
Thanks guys.
Thanks for the links Izzy, I was actually wondering when I'd get to add an avatar to my profile. I'm already starting to really like it here on the forums. I feel welcomed and accepted, and it's making me really happy.

I may still be 18, but I turn 19 by the end of January.
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Electric Fuzzball on December 10, 2014, 12:15:18 AM
Mrs izzy, thank you for using Vulynn as my name. It means a lot to me.

I wish I could express how happy I am to have found such a great place to be myself and not worry about judgment.
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: LivingTheDream on December 10, 2014, 12:57:57 AM
Hi Vulynn,

Nice to meet you. Just wanted to say hi to a fellow Michigander.
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Electric Fuzzball on December 10, 2014, 01:24:43 AM
Hello to you too, Living.
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Electric Fuzzball on December 10, 2014, 08:47:53 AM
Quote from: Hanazono on December 09, 2014, 10:56:21 PM
i'm sorry to hear about your loss.

I wish you the best in your transition.
It will be the hardest thing you ever do and possibly the most rewarding

I've had a feeling that it would be hard on me. Knowing that I have so many people that accept and welcome me, both on here and in my life, has given me a lot of optimism for the transition. I know that I can do it. :3
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: fitzyfoop on December 10, 2014, 09:52:25 AM
So, Vulynn, what anime do you like? I'm personnaly a big fan of Log Horizon, I liked the first part of SAO, in the actual SAO game, everything else has come short of the high bar set by the original in my opinion. There's also this anime I loved called "Tonari no Seki-kun" or something like that, but it's the funniest anime I've come across after My Little Monster. Your turn! -Natalie
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: EllieM on December 10, 2014, 04:14:49 PM
Quote from: Electric Fuzzball on December 10, 2014, 12:10:06 AM

I may still be 18, but I turn 19 by the end of January.

well, you can pop across the border into Ontario then for a celebratory *legal* beer :)
Welcome to Susan's my dear. You can grow here, overcome your insecurities, so many stories are shared here, you will see that you are not alone :)
-ellie
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Electric Fuzzball on December 10, 2014, 07:01:51 PM
Quote from: fitzyfoop on December 10, 2014, 09:52:25 AM
So, Vulynn, what anime do you like? I'm personnaly a big fan of Log Horizon, I liked the first part of SAO, in the actual SAO game, everything else has come short of the high bar set by the original in my opinion. There's also this anime I loved called "Tonari no Seki-kun" or something like that, but it's the funniest anime I've come across after My Little Monster. Your turn! -Natalie

Well, the anime that the girl is from is Akame ga Kill (really good IMO) and her name is Chelsea. My favorite anime is the Evangelion Rebuild series. Favorite anime movie is Summer Wars.

Gonna list anime that I've watched.
-Akame ga Kill
-Soul Eater
-Fooly Cooly (actually wearing the shirt atm)
-SAO 1&2
-Bleach
-Shingeki no Kyojin
-Neon Genesis Evangelion
-Evangelion Rebuild
-Zetman
-Started watching Fairy Tail
-Gurren Lagann
-One Piece
-there are more.... but I forgot...
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Electric Fuzzball on December 10, 2014, 07:04:01 PM
Quote from: EllieM on December 10, 2014, 04:14:49 PM
well, you can pop across the border into Ontario then for a celebratory *legal* beer :)
Welcome to Susan's my dear. You can grow here, overcome your insecurities, so many stories are shared here, you will see that you are not alone :)
-ellie

Thanks Ellie, and I would if I could, my car is in bits.
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Amber Kitty on December 10, 2014, 07:15:11 PM
Hi :3 Welcome to the forum! If you ever need to chat about anything I'm always an open ear ^^

Much love,
Amber :)
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Electric Fuzzball on December 10, 2014, 07:24:26 PM
Quote from: Amber Kitty on December 10, 2014, 07:15:11 PM
Hi :3 Welcome to the forum! If you ever need to chat about anything I'm always an open ear ^^

Much love,
Amber :)

Thank you c:
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Electric Fuzzball on December 10, 2014, 07:37:18 PM
Quote from: fitzyfoop on December 10, 2014, 09:52:25 AM
So, Vulynn, what anime do you like? I'm personnaly a big fan of Log Horizon, I liked the first part of SAO, in the actual SAO game, everything else has come short of the high bar set by the original in my opinion. There's also this anime I loved called "Tonari no Seki-kun" or something like that, but it's the funniest anime I've come across after My Little Monster. Your turn! -Natalie

I forgot about one thing, right after SAO finished the season I decided to do an all day Crunchyroll anime binge. Things is though.... our Internet is on an allowance system, we get 10Gs of high speed Internet access, it goes down to an almost unusable speed once that goes out. We were out, and videos wouldn't load, so I decided to buy 500Mb tokens. By the end of it I had purchased  $125 dollars worth of tokens.... I was that into it.

Got really emotional watching that, and when Kirito finally took that guy out and met Asuna, I lost it. Cried myself to sleep that night in a mix of emotions.

And in SAO 2, when they buy back their house.... ohmagawd.
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Wynternight on December 10, 2014, 10:12:09 PM
Welcome to Susan's, Vulynn!! I'm a wee bit older than you are and five months into my transition. It will likely be the hardest thing you ever do in your life but the best thing as well. Just remember that you aren't alone when you're climbing up this mountain. :D
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Electric Fuzzball on December 10, 2014, 11:19:09 PM
Quote from: Wynternight on December 10, 2014, 10:12:09 PM
Welcome to Susan's, Vulynn!! I'm a wee bit older than you are and five months into my transition. It will likely be the hardest thing you ever do in your life but the best thing as well. Just remember that you aren't alone when you're climbing up this mountain. :D

Thank you, it's good to know that I have people to go to. :)
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: gennee on December 12, 2014, 01:53:57 PM
Hello and welcome to Susan's, Vulynn. My condolences on your loss.

:)
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Electric Fuzzball on December 12, 2014, 10:21:57 PM
Quote from: gennee on December 12, 2014, 01:53:57 PM
Hello and welcome to Susan's, Vulynn. My condolences on your loss.

:)

Thank you =)
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: LauraSpiral on December 13, 2014, 06:29:10 AM
Welcome, Vulynn <3 We're happy to have you here and are always available if you need advice. :)
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Electric Fuzzball on December 15, 2014, 11:44:19 PM
I absolutely love my siblings (except Logan)!

They have all accepted me and have been a big help in the short time that they've known.

I will not be telling my mom and Logan. As advice from one of my sisters, they would just make things worse.
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Gina Taylor on December 20, 2014, 06:20:24 AM
Hi there and welcome to Susan's!  :)
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: jojoglowe on December 20, 2014, 08:41:07 AM
Vulynn,

I too have a pretty conservative and religious extended family.

This might sound mean, but I'll be real about my feelings.

As a kid, I loved my extended family. When I began to learn about the world and it's issues, I grew to not like them. I felt that most of their views were close-minded and were the type of beliefs that perpetuated things like discrimination, pollution, and fear.

Before coming out, I would join my mother less and less to visit the extended family. When it came time to come out, I had no care whatsoever what they thought about it. I figured I knew what they would think (negative response) and didn't care to hear their opinions.

Well, I'm surprised to see that the few from my extended family that I keep in touch via social networking are supportive! I haven't had anyone say anything bad, nor have I felt abandonment from any of them.

It seems I was the close-minded one who abandoned them. Surely, I underestimated their compassion and understanding.

I'm very pleased with the positive outcome. Not to give you one more thing to worry about, but... I noticed my mother had the same fears in regard to coming out to her family (about me) as I did when I was coming out to her. I noticed the same with my girlfriend coming out to her family. That feeling of dread/fear before coming out is something I wouldn't wish on anyone, so I'm glad that it is over and everything worked out well.

After you come out to your mother, understand that she might then have fears about coming out to the extended family. This is a great opportunity to share your experience and offer support. In my case, it strengthened our relationship very much.

Sounds like you're in for an awesome college experience! :D
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: V M on December 21, 2014, 09:03:04 PM
Hi Vulynn  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M
Title: Re: Vulynn says "Hello!"
Post by: Devlyn on January 03, 2015, 04:44:12 PM
Hi Vulynn, welcome to Susan's Place! I'm up near Boston. Sorry about your dad, my father died after a battle with lung cancer. I'm glad you found us, as you've seen there are a lot of nice people here. See you around the site!

Hugs, Devlyn