As transgender women, I was curious if others go through a biological clock crisis. To me, it makes logical sense, since our brains are females. Or at least I assume so (I don't know the whole science of transsexualism, but I know my brain is definitely female). Lately, I been having a strong feeling to find a man, settle down, and just be in a relationship. There are times, I just have this "glow" and I know others see it in me. I can't describe it, but my skin turns like 1 shade paler, and I look very pretty when this happens.
Besides that, do you guys get strong urges to find a man, like if you don't find him now.... it'll be too late, and you'll be alone for the rest of your life. At this point, it's not even about love/relationship, it's very primal... it's like a survival thing.
I never felt this way until I started reaching my mid 20s... it's like my youth is behind me now, but I am holding onto it like it's going to escape me.
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Also, I been taking soy isoflavones the past week, and I have to say it makes me feel a lot better. My heart doesn't hurt anymore, and I was worried I had heart disease (I went to a doctor, but they said nothing was wrong... but they didn't check too much).
Nope, not really. I've had occasional 5-minute stretches of "babies are cute and I want one," but it passes. I figure since there are cis women who don't want to settle down with men and/or have babies, that's as valid a way to be female as any other. :)
(I'm also not really into men; I am bisexual, but there are very few men who interest me.)
I think it might be a psychological phenomenon that causes people to get like that, I think some males get something similar but express it or describe it in different ways. As we age I think we get scared about lost opportunities. Anyways, I personally am more attracted to women, but like Jenna (sort of) rather than looking for a man, I really want to be a mom. I think we all have our worries but if you're still in your twenties, you have plenty of time to catch a good one ;) don't worry about it too much.
Mine is definitely ticking, and has been for years.
To me these thoughts are particularly triggering...
I've always wanted to be free so I could live the way I intended, with no-one to push me past my limits... Never to break my heart... But I can't deny I've always wanted to share my dreams and ideals, always wanted to be in one's arms without fearing all the things to come...
Yes, I too feel like my youth runs like sand through my fingers but somehow I'm just confident my time will come.
i do belive in this, i been feeling like this for days now i am single and i feel i need to be in a relationship with a guy and i want to settle down and be loved for whom i am and stuff it feels i really need this in my life so i was talking to a friend about it, i says to her even i can't get pregnant or that it feels like i have a biological clock inside me cos i need a guy,
I think we might be affected by this, as we are wired female..
For me personally (I am in my mid 20s), I do get a little broody, especially now since a close friend is pregnant. (maybe its that affecting me). I actually feel a little jealous as I watch her baby bump form.
I would love to be a mom, just a little sad, that I cant give my man a baby. I would love to carry his child. But adoption is an option. When we are married, we will start that process.
I don't really want the whole kids/family thing. Don't think I even really want to get married, but you never know I guess. I don't really have any desire to be with men, either. I always have been sort of an odd duck I guess. Quack.
I'm a odd duck also for I wanted a wife,kids and all that went with being married,I knew I couldn't have those things of I fully transitioned,so I transitioned into pretending too be male so I could have those things. I'm also lucky I have a supportive spouse who I love very much and she loves me for me. That's how I got around my problem.
I started to feel the clock a few weeks ago when i met a special man. I was just passing in this city. I felt like i screwed my life not asking him his phone number at least. First time i felt this way in my life.
Hopefully, i managed to find him on a dating website :)
He already have 2 children, so it would be a 2 in 1.
Quote from: stephanie-babe on April 18, 2016, 02:40:42 PM
i do belive in this, i been feeling like this for days now i am single and i feel i need to be in a relationship with a guy and i want to settle down and be loved for whom i am and stuff it feels i really need this in my life so i was talking to a friend about it, i says to her even i can't get pregnant or that it feels like i have a biological clock inside me cos i need a guy,
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Which "Clock"
The "I wish I was a mom" clock?
The "I wish I could go through HS and young adulthood clock" clock
The "I'm too old for this crap" clock?
The "I'm too old and almost past my Sell By date" clock?
I got hit by the latter, "I'm too old and almost past my Sell By date" clock the other weekend following my TG support group meeting. I've also been and being hit by other "clocks". Especially this time of year in the Northern Hemisphere, as the winter coats get shed and I..... need to keep the girls under wraps :(
I can cite dozens of other instances of regret occurring in all sorts of venues. The Bottom Line is for us many life experiences typical cis-women have, we will never have. We will also have experience they will never have. POSITIVE, Life Changing, Life Enhancing, experiences.
Most people go through life simply accepting their fate. Or resigning to it. Especially in the case of Gender. Most, if not ALL Of US, here are trying not to choose to "Settle"
Not "Wanting to Settle" makes us all unique and dare I say, puts us ahead, if ever so slightly, of the rest of the automatons?
Stop that obsessing over the "If Only...". Regale in the "What I done did!"
I may have married when I was 23 but I look at my son and daughter and the person they have become,I have lived life and never used being different as a excuse to hide. I love my wife and she lives me,even if I'm different she lets me dress when I have time,she knows I'm not going to do hrt or grs,in content with what life dealt me along the way for life is for living not hiding.