I duno what to do I feel a little pressured in a way I want nothing more than to go all the way even tho that is years off from getting there and have plenty of time but my gf keeps saying she won't stop me and will still love me for who I am but she has gotten used to my male parts and would miss Them. I understand what she is saying as I would miss the feeling I get during sexual activities with her .
what are your thorts
You said it yourself, "all the way" is years away. Everything else in between is just a step where you can chose to continue on that path or not.
I've been there, and it's a difficult decision. I had SRS in June, and I'll say I missing being able to pleasure women but I'm still thrilled with the new shape of my body.
I agree with Grace. There's still a lot of time for the direction of your heart to become clear.
I do want the full thing as it upsets me that I ccannot ware panties and swimming sutes and that's the shape I beleave I should have and want . But also worried a little that I won't be able to get a lot of pleasure . But I don't know anyone that has had the surgery only people leading up to it.
Quote from: SaiyaDarkfire on December 19, 2014, 07:49:40 AM
I do want the full thing as it upsets me that I ccannot ware panties and swimming sutes and that's the shape I beleave I should have and want . But also worried a little that I won't be able to get a lot of pleasure . But I don't know anyone that has had the surgery only people leading up to it.
Well, you're a member of Susan's now. Now you know dozens of people who've had the surgery, right?
I'll say that I'm certainly able to get pleasure from my new body, but it's very different from what I felt with male equipment. But no two women's experiences will be the same. There's a lot of information on the Post-Operative Life and Sexuality boards if you want to know more about what post-op sex feels like.
That's true . I haven't rally talked to anyone that's had the surgery as I've never been able to find anyone or they don't want to talk about it . So I had unawnserd questions
I think the decisions about *your* body are up to you. :)
But I get as much or more pleasure out of my new equipment as I did from the old (it's so different it's hard to compare, but I'm definitely still enjoying it, though the new bits are more finicky now). And I'm willing to wear a strap-on for my wife occasionally, if she'll do the same for me. It's not the same as before, obviously, but it suffices for penetration.
Speaking as a pre-op lesbian...trust me, a woman *can* pleasure another woman, without resorting to a phallus (human or synthetic). Yes, that deep penetrating rubbing (sounds like an arthritis cream commercial LOL) is missing...but if "that tool" is "strongly" present, one can't really enjoy w-on-w.
As you said...it's years away, enjoy what you have today.
Hi Honey,
Ask away for your questions - hey this is what the forum is for :laugh:
As the other girls have said, this tends to be a long journey and many feelings and emotions change both due to HRT and self acceptance. I was unable to have a male orgasm very quickly after starting HRT but I do enjoy an active sex life, it is just different!
Remember also that surgery is not for everyone and it is not a 'validation' for being female, so just relax a bit and enjoy the trip of a lifetime!
I'd say go for SRS if that's what you really want, for sexual pleasure, you can look into sex toys commonly used by cis-lesbians like double sided dildos, and strap-ons, it really shouldn't be a problem. Personally I can't wait to get mine, bf told me he grew accustomed to my wrong parts, but is very supportive of me getting srs.
I just want to point this out since I didn't see anyone else doing it here... by all means do what you have to. In the meantime it is perfectly possible to hide your genitals. (Unless you have some kind of medical condition preventing you from doing so?) It's a hassle of course, but worth it when you want to wear something without a big noticeable bulge. It took me... uh... literally about a year or two to finally figure out how to do it. I was really paranoid about causing damage and needing a trip to the emergency room that I couldn't pay for. Well, I did have some fantasy about HAVING to get them removed but that's neither here nor there. In the end I finally figured it out.
Anyone know of any good sites that sell size 9-10 female shoes
Have you tried Evans or Long Tall Sally?
Hehe ty they may help .
Hate it when looking for heels and I'm like ooooo I love these and they don't go in my size then I feel terrable
I have recently put a form I'm for a deed poll to change my name from my male to female name . But my mum keeps saying that if I change it I'll be arrested and such cos it's not changed on my berth certificate.
Also she was saying that my dad has put a will in under my name and if I change my name it won't be valid to me ? Is any of this true or she trying to stop me changing my name
Sounds like she is just stalling you. Changing your name via deed poll in UK is allowed so long as it is not done for fraudulent purposes, so you are unlikely to be arrested for that.
As for the will, well it is likely that in future if the will isn't changed and your old name is called upon by the executor, and you have transitioned, you may of course have to out yourself and prove you were once the individual named in the will, but it is a long way off and not something to worry about for now.
Ok ty for that I'm constantly getting stuff like this stalling my progression . but it gets the better of me and I worry and she knows it douse that's why she douse it I'm guessing
I even asked if she knew how to fill in my dvla D1 form to change my name and she will not help me :( feel so alone sometimes
Quote from: SaiyaDarkfire on December 23, 2014, 02:43:50 AM
Ok ty for that I'm constantly getting stuff like this stalling my progression and I feel it it but it gets the better of me and I worry and she knows that it douse that's why she douse it I'm guessing
Honey, realise one thing. If you are over 18 it is your life, your decisions, your responsibilities.
I don't mean this rudely: But maybe it is time to grow up and be responsible for the most important person in your life.
YOU!
Did my reply just get removed >.>
Nope, did you send it?
Lol stage it must have failed when I tryed to send it. I well
(Yer I know and I'm thinking about me and what I want not what she wants and doing this for myself . Just she knows I panic easily. That's why I'm asking here to get help so that she I sent getting the better of me and ruleing over me)
Just remembered as well something els she mentioned .
if I change my name on my DVLA driving licence it won't effect what I pay or my no flames will it?
Quote from: SaiyaDarkfire on December 23, 2014, 05:40:59 AM
Just remembered as well something els she mentioned .
if I change my name on my DVLA driving licence it won't effect what I pay or my no flames will it?
Car insurance in UK as with the rest of EU has had gender harmonisation applied following a change a few years ago, so no it ought not mean any change in your premium. You may need to inform your insurer that you have changed your details otherwise your insurance may not be valid under your new name.
Ok so once I've sent my D1 form to dvla I need to in for my insurance to tell them I have changed it as well
Long Tall Sally has a good selection, give it a whirl :)
I just bought winter boots from them and it's comfy.
About your shoe question, what kinda price range are you talking?
Nothing to expensive but something like £50 or so
New thort on my mind .
is it normal to hear nothing from my Dr's or from NHS for a long time .
They know about me and NHS haven't avaluated me yet that's what I am waiting for but not Hurd for a few month no letters nothing .
Hope they not forgotten about me
Quote from: SaiyaDarkfire on January 01, 2015, 11:34:32 PM
New thort on my mind .
is it normal to hear nothing from my Dr's or from NHS for a long time .
They know about me and NHS haven't avaluated me yet that's what I am waiting for but not Hurd for a few month no letters nothing .
Hope they not forgotten about me
Unfortunately it is normal for things to go very quiet, but there's no harm in chasing them up if you think enough time has elapsed.
About a last will and testament - I can't speak about Britain but I just experienced this here in the US. My mother died 2 years ago when I was still legally "him". I have since told the law firm about my new name and they didn't even need the legal documents. However the final disposition of the will in legal documents now reads "Cara Elizabeth ******, formerly known as ***** ******** ******" (new name, formerly known as old name). Apparently this is very common especially for women who get married and whose last names change so my name change got treated exactly the same. I don't even consider this "outing" myself as no one except my sister and the lawyers will be present at the final reading and the filed document will go into some dusty county clerk file cabinet in a part of the country I'm not sure I'll ever visit ever again.
I highly doubt that Britain is any different as there are lots of legitimate reasons to change a name and the name change documents make it clear that you are still you, and are still the same person named in any financial instruments.
So it sounds like an excuse to stop you rather than a real excuse.