I spent hours today trying to fix my car. I didn't have a garage to work in, so I was outside on a very typical Seattle day -- 45 degrees and raining. I do have a good rain suit for riding my motorcycle in the rain, but It was still cold and very wet.
At one point, I needed to go to the store to get a tool I didn't have. And since the car was in pieces, I had to take the motorcycle. I spent an hour driving around to five stores trying to find the tool. Riding a motorcycle in this weather is not an unpleasant experience...but definitely not comfortable either. And the rain adds an element of danger beyond normal motorcycle riding.
Anyway, as I was riding around town, I realized that with the automotive endeavor and the unpleasant and slightly dangerous motorcycle ride that I was having a very non-girly day.
So tonight I took a bath and gave myself a mini-pedicure. :)
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Has anyone else done something recently that was particularly not girly?
Oh gosh that's such a cute color! I still have yet to get a manicure (nail biter) and due for another pedicure soon.
Um hmm thats a tough question cause I don't really view anything I do in that way like if its boyish or girlish. I guess the most masculine thing I've done recently was ummm *draws a blank lol...Oh I know, I practiced singing in a male pitch.
I don't really take notice wether something is masculine or not but I played some HALO game with my foster brother yesterday on his xbox 360. I am not really a competitive person but we played against each other and I kicked his ass! ( after a couple of trys)
I recently drained, pressure washed, did plaster repair and refilled my in ground pool. I am responsible for most of the "guy" stuff in my house. Sometimes I get a little down (dysphoric?) about it but I love it when my wife calls me a badass bitch :)
According to social norms, everyday ;D I do computer programming as a living, I'm a gamer, I play fps/dota/fighting games/ racing sim games. I personally think gender labels are stupid and stopped caring for a long long time.
I occasionally have days like that happen to me. BTW I live near Seattle in B.C. Canada, so I know all about your weather woes.
My recent "Very Non-Girly Day" goes like this:
I had no choice but to go to a semi-formal dinner party last Thursday. Since I am not out to certain people yet especially the people hosting the party (I'm simply put just not mentally or emotionally ready to come out to them yet), I pretty much had to revert back to boy mode as much as possible. After the dinner I was left feeling down and dysphoric I guess is the best word. Anyways when I got home I binged on girl mode to make myself feel better lol. Among the many things I did: I had a shower and fixed my hair back to the way I like it, I watched one of my favorite movies and danced to the soundtrack, the next day I cleaned my apartment (which I keep obsessively clean) and I went out to the department store to buy new perfume. Basically anything that made me feel better about myself and made me feel happy.
A day in the wrong gender can really do a number on me; even on a regular day (aka girl-mode) something as simple as a phone call which I have to answer as a boy can derail my day. I hope as my life continues these off-days get fewer and fewer!
According to social norms, pretty much everyday is a non-girly day. I listen to heavy metal, play racing games and fps's (which I'm pretty good at) I (have to) dress in my guy clothes which are all of my clothes(I'm stealth). So yeah..
I play with my ham radio set and do all my work on one of our cars. The other car gets factory service since it's free under warranty. I also chop wood and do home improvement, like drywall, plumbing and electrical. Right now we are doing a minor kitchen Reno and I have to fix the dishwasher too.
Almost every day!
I work on an urban farm... we do it all: fixing up houses, building high-tunnels (greenhoses), digging through rocky soil (imagine 5 foot deep, 15 feet by 8 feet with a maddox), engine work... all sorts of very hard stuff.
I have to wear jeans and a t-shirt or flannel to work and never get to wear anything cute :(
Right now, I'm pretty horribly bruised and very sore. I need to remember that I can't treat my body like I used to :/ Even though I do all these hard things, I don't see them as masculine. I've known many tough women farmers throughout my life, and compared to them I'm a wimp!
That is an awesome color and a mini-pedi sounds like a great idea ;D
These might sum up how non-girly my week has been.
I am doing an engine swap, plasti dipping the car (polymer based alternative to automotive paint), and then finally bagging and tuning it. This is not really anything you'd hear from a girl, "Oh, I'm just stancing my hatchback for performance."
$3,000 invested into turning an economic hatchback into a street car, not particularly girly at all.
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Another thing about this, I'm all about JDM (Japanese Domestic Motors)..... thing is..... this car is Korean, getting an engine swapped in from another Korean car....
I don't like....... no fun in KDM.
Ha I owned a JDM EG8 civic. Better than anything available locally.
I work in a machine shop mainly doing finishing work. Seems like a particularly non-lady like activity. However, I do wear very girly clothes and no one cares cause I do my job without being told. I make educated guesses on what to do then do it.
Well this makes me feel better as we have been planing on homesteading on 5 acres of land and I have told my wife we can still do this if she wants there are many women that work on a farm and we "women" can do anything the boys can do we just may do it differently.
Quote from: Vicky Mitchell on December 30, 2014, 08:20:25 AM
Well this makes me feel better as we have been planing on homesteading on 5 acres of land and I have told my wife we can still do this if she wants there are many women that work on a farm and we "women" can do anything the boys can do we just may do it differently.
^totally, we need more female permaculture/homesteading leaders! Time to stop letting the men take all the fame
I listen to metal, shred on guitar, fix everything that breaks, and am about to take a chainsaw to my Xmas tree. Maybe tonight I'll take a shot of hard liquor and watch basketball before I fire up my drill press to make drain holes for planter boxes.
BFD. I'm still a girl all the way.
I'd say 95% of my days are non-girly days. Hell at this moment I'm listening to Front Line Assembly, wearing baggy clothes, and programming of all things, with a cup of black coffee to boot!!!
That said, if I feel like painting my nails later aint nothin' gonna stop me! Just doin' my thang
Quote from: mystique on December 21, 2014, 05:02:58 AM
According to social norms, everyday ;D I do computer programming as a living, I'm a gamer, I play fps/dota/fighting games/ racing sim games. I personally think gender labels are stupid and stopped caring for a long long time.
Haha.. we should game together.. :)
Amazing share ladies :) it shows courage - I am inspired. I have a desk job and have a part time job working for a huge beauty supply chain Se___ra.
We are blessed to be working for a company that doesn't care about our personal choices but rather looks at our performance.
xo
April
Non-girly days happen all of the time out in country at my house. My wife and I recently had to replace the sewage effluent pump and check valve for our septic pumping station to our lagoon. She is cis and I had just had breast augmentation 1 week prior, so she did all of the heavy lifting. We called it Two Girls Plumbing. :)
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That is so cool. I have told my wife even if i transition i will still have my knowledge in my head and can use it. Sure i may not be able to lift as much but there are ways to get around it most of the time. Work smarter not harder.
Vicky
MtF