By no means do I want to sound ungrateful, but sometimes Christmas can suck and I just have to laugh.
Distant relatives must look at me, dressed in male clothes, short hair, and think "Wow, I bet she'd look pretty in that dress I saw a while back!"
My just be something about me ~
Sometimes I wonder if it's their way of being passive aggressive in the holidays, maybe just maybe if people buy me enough dresses and make up my dysphoria will melt away and I will embrace the woman inside I am rejecting through a phase of rebellion.
Ok, enough sarcasm for now :P
At times like this, those of us lucky enough to be with our families can only laugh when they think we'll enjoy the pink bubble bath set or glitter nail polish. They tried :P
Hugs to anyone not with their families this Christmas, you got all of us here if you need us <3
Happy holdiays
~Matty
Hi Matthew,
wow, this is one of the things about which in my language we say something like: if it wasn't so sad, we'd laugh hard about it. But maybe you are not giving your relatives enough credit: Maybe (like me) they think that nail polish is for everyone on the gender spectrum. Although personally I have always hated nail polish, I refuse to accept that "only girls" can wear it. And maybe, once I'm on t, have grown a full beard, I'll finally feel confident sporting some pink nail polish.
I think I'll open a thread for holiday gift exchange now :D
Quote from: Matthew on December 25, 2014, 05:09:34 AM
By no means do I want to sound ungrateful, but sometimes Christmas can suck and I just have to laugh.
Distant relatives must look at me, dressed in male clothes, short hair, and think "Wow, I bet she'd look pretty in that dress I saw a while back!"
My just be something about me ~
Sometimes I wonder if it's their way of being passive aggressive in the holidays, maybe just maybe if people buy me enough dresses and make up my dysphoria will melt away and I will embrace the woman inside I am rejecting through a phase of rebellion.
Ok, enough sarcasm for now :P
At times like this, those of us lucky enough to be with our families can only laugh when they think we'll enjoy the pink bubble bath set or glitter nail polish. They tried :P
Hugs to anyone not with their families this Christmas, you got all of us here if you need us <3
Happy holdiays
~Matty
I always remember a relative giving me one rubber wash up glove for Christmas. I think it was for the left hand as well!
Gift exchange is a great idea, I'm planning to take my 'girly' presents to the trans group I go to and either give away or trade with some trans girls there - would recommend it to people who don't want gifts that are of the opposite gender they identify as.
Ha Cindy, that one made me giggle :)
Quote from: Matthew on December 25, 2014, 06:38:07 AM
Gift exchange is a great idea, I'm planning to take my 'girly' presents to the trans group I go to and either give away or trade with some trans girls there - would recommend it to people who don't want gifts that are of the opposite gender they identify as.
Ha Cindy, that one made me giggle :)
Great idea Matthew!
I was thinking of some of my crazy relatives when I was a child in the UK, most had (on reflection) been so traumatised by various wars that they all had PTSD of some sort that manifested itself at family holiday times. In some ways it helps me deal with 'unfeeling' relatives now. We never know what crap people carry with them, just because they are cisgendered doesn't mean they are not carrying pain and their responses to the unknown (us) can be out of all character. Or maybe I have had enough champagne?
You can be a fabulous man. ;)
This Christmas was so refreshing. No one gave me any clothes! Not even my mom. I guess they are getting a hint?
for most of the people that ever buy me anything (other than my mom and sister) its gift cards galore.
my mom wont stop mentioning that her, my sister and stepdad got together to get me something, and are excited to give it to me and think ill love it. im out to them and they are supportive, or at least accepting of it.
kinda worried though. she wont stop mentioning "the gift" every time i talk to her for weeks now.
A silly thanks because You have been looking for the perfect gift for your female friend usually gets the point across.
I think some relatives, especially those that don't know you well just buy stuff without putting much thought into it. If I think of some of the gifts I have received from cousins and uncles/aunties I really have to laugh at how "not me" they were. That's why regifting is the best thing to do!
Lol I wonder if it's against site TOS to choose a random MtF here and give it away to.