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Who was the 1st Non-Therapist Person whom you told that you were Transgender?

My fiancée and she's been my biggest support ever since. I don't think I would've been able to start the whole process without her.

My sister. She just said she knew already and had been waiting for years for me to come out and do something about it.

I came out to strangers in a interview for my co-op first. The strangers are now my housemates!

The first non therapist i told was a good friend of mine via skype, the fact that she lives in another country made it that much easier

No one yet, but I am going to go with one or a few of my friends first. I currently live with my parents, and I would need somewhere to go short term if things did not go over well with them.

My ex- boyfriend.  We'd split up a long time before I told him but still meet up as friends occasionally.

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Wife
ER doctor

i think it was a friend of mine - my family was the last ones to know about it, all my friends knew before they knew

I'm only out to one friend.
and even then, I'm not really out to her - she just knows that I've questioned my gender a lot over the past few years and I don't think I'm cis. still uses she/her and my birth name, but that's only because I haven't told her otherwise.

guess I should probably come out as FTM to her sometime soon, but I don't know.

Wife

i'm not out yet, but i'll most likely come out to my friend of seven years first. after that, my parents and then everyone else.

My grandmother. I've always been closest to her. :)

Kind of strange but first person I felt obligated to tell was my mother yet I didn't exactly say I was transgender more I am different that was about it. Actually saying I was thinking of changing was a close friend well ok more like he asked me first but:) The reason I said other was I didn't feel I could tell my mother everything right off the bat I mean the shock etc better to go slower. A good friend is well a good friend they get to know lots off stuff (that you think and or things you did together) our parents don't want to know.

Ex wife

I came out to my mom first.

First person I told was my wife, well she kind of pulled it out of me. She has been my biggest supporter and I will be forever grateful to her for "pushing me" to be the man I'm meant to be, I could not have started this journey without her she is truly amazing! 

It was between my parents and my middle sister. Time zones are the reason I went with my parents. It took a lot of courage to be able to request them to skype me for that even though I knew they would be supportive. So I kept delaying it. I finally delayed it so long that I was going to lose my opportunity for that day. After they reacted as expected (shocked, no clue what it meant, but ultimately ok), I contact my middle sister. I expected her to be supportive. What I didn't count on was absolutely 0 hesitation on her support. I couldn't even blink before she praised me for coming out.

After that I accidentally partially, then intentionally fully outted myself to the neighborhood and was surprised at how supportive they were. Then I knew it was time to tell my other sisters. I got their reactions backwards, but effectively correct. One eventually rejected me and was so nasty about it I had to block her on facebook for a while. The other is struggling with it and its been at least a month since I talked to her, but she's trying not to reject me while her husband pulls out his bible and a stone and wants to protect their new daughter from me. I suspect if she wasn't married, we would actually be in a much better state right now. My extended family is SUPER, SUPER conservative and traditional. I was surprised that they have ALL come out in support of me. I didn't expect that one bit.

Other than my therapist? My girlfriend, because I felt I owed her the truth as we moved past the early phase of our relationship. Nobody else knows yet because I am still kind of questioning and it's not anything they need to know right now.

I first came out to one of my friends. I had just recently come out of denial, and needed to talk as I was falling apart at the time. I picked her because of all my friends, she was the most vocal advocate of lgbt rights, so I figured the chances of her disowning me would be smaller (and if she did, I could at least call her a hypocrite). Moreover, most of my other friends know each other, while she's off in her own little circle, so if things went poorly, at least the fallout would be minimized. Fortunately, none of that came to pass, and she's been extremely supportive. In fact, I get the impression she's looking forward to teaching me all sorts of girl things: being the big sister if you will.

The second person I came out to was my mother. She's accepting. I get the impression she doesn't always understand what's going on, but she means well at least.

Wife ... but even then I could not completely comprehend exactly what being trans was going to mean for me and her over the long haul. 

I voted "friend", but the very first person I told was my medial Doctor.

Group of friends in high school while we where hanging out in the library after school. They had always made comments in the past that they thought of me as a guy anyway so I felt comfortable slipping it in while we were discussing an acquaintance that was "trying on" being transgender and making a show of it (the phrase "trying on" were her words). I said something to the effect of "people like that make it hard for people like me to talk about their gender issues without looking like all we want is attention". They agreed with me and let me know that they had my back and would never accuse me of seeking attention for attention's sake. Four years later and none of them have changed their tune on me.

I'm not actual transgender, however The first person i came out to that I was bisexual was my wife. The fun doesn't end there however, I did infact have a go at a female perspective of myself, and lets just say the results weren't exactly... astonishing lol. Nor did it really feel right to me, but hey that's what trying new things is all about :)

Technically the first person I told was the Trans Health Advocate at my local LGBT clinic. But she is on the behavioral health side of things. After her, like two days later, I couldn't hold it in any longer and told my two best friends. After them I couldn't tell the people in my world fast enough!

I actually came out to my friends Fiance first. I had known her for a few months, and her roommate/friend at the time was genderqueer/genderfluid. She had known this person for a long time so I knew that she'd be accepting of me if I ever came out to her.
I actually had tried to get her to guess that I was trans before i straight out told her as I was still too scared to say it myself, unfortunately/fortunately for me she can be a little slow when it comes to figuring things out so I ended up just getting frustrated and told her.

She is now one of my best friends and couldn't have chosen a better person to come out too first

For me it was a female friend I made online, though I never used a label we just talked about stuff. As for within my family it was my aunt that lives near me. She in turn told her husband and three kids. They all support me though and were more or less like "Whatever makes you happy. You know we will be here for you." Then I told my little sister and she told her fiance. That really only leaves some family I have in Dallas and a friend that moved to Florida. I think I will just let them be surprised.

I probably did things a bit backwards seeing as I am still 100% presenting as male. (pre-transition) I wanted to get it out there and know who was going to support me. I caught a little religious backlash from my sisters fiance but he is old school. He hasn't said anything about it to me or treated me differently, my sister just told me what he said to her. *Rolls eyes while making overly dramatic hand gestures "It is against God's plan...blah blah blah."*

I came out to my mom just recently that I am Transgender