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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Draonth on December 31, 2014, 04:30:05 AM

Title: Pass as a little kid?
Post by: Draonth on December 31, 2014, 04:30:05 AM
So I finally got my hair cut a couple weeks ago and I was ecstatic that people have started calling me sir while in public. But also people have started treating me like a little kid. For example, I went to 7-11 to get some hot chocolate and as I was paying with a $20 the cashier said "Wow! That's a lot of money!" As I was walking out to my car and getting in the driver's seat, some people then asked me how old I was. Stuff like this just kinda feels belittling seeing as I'm turning 18 in 3 weeks and have a job and a driver's license. Does anyone else have experiences like these? Or tips for looking older?
Title: Re: Pass as a little kid?
Post by: Alexthecat on December 31, 2014, 05:15:54 AM
I've been pegged as 12-15, one time it was as young as 9. I'm 23 now. I like it since I act little so people either think I am little or that my brain is messed up.
Title: Re: Pass as a little kid?
Post by: Elis on December 31, 2014, 05:26:48 AM
I read your earlier post and didn't want to say anything as I thought it may knock your confidence bcos you seemed really happy with your new haircut, but as you posted this... I'm 100% sure it's bcos you got a haircut no man your age would get. It's the haircut a boy would get. Maybe if it was slightly longer ,  had some texture/layers to it and if you used the website I talked about in your earlier post to get some ideas. I don't pass really, I think it's bcos for most people they see I have a feminine face (I don't get it) but I do know I have a haircut that a child wouldn't have. I really don't want to come across as mean, I just want you to feel happy about yourself.
Title: Re: Pass as a little kid?
Post by: Draonth on December 31, 2014, 06:37:08 AM
That makes sense. I was planning on talking to my friend about getting a different haircut. I'll look through that site. Thanks!
Title: Re: Pass as a little kid?
Post by: Elis on December 31, 2014, 07:34:57 AM
So glad I helped, you also can't go wrong with good hair wax  :)
Title: Re: Pass as a little kid?
Post by: AbeLane on December 31, 2014, 08:22:51 AM
Hey Draonth

I feel like I pass more as way younger than I am (I'm 28) than I as a boy. Though sometimes it's both. But I agree that hairstyles definitely do a lot. I'm hoping to get my own cut soon too.
Title: Re: Pass as a little kid?
Post by: HeyTrace19 on December 31, 2014, 01:11:46 PM
Ha! I get 'young man' all the time...and I am in my 40s!  Even before T, I looked pretty young for my age but now it almost feels disrespectful at times, so I know how you feel.  Happens less often if I am dressed in a shirt and tie, so clothing style may have something to do with it.  I know I do NOT look like other guys my age, but finally look masculine enough to not be called ma'am all the time  ;D.  Enjoy your youth while you can is all I can say...
Title: Re: Pass as a little kid?
Post by: CursedFireDean on December 31, 2014, 02:57:01 PM
I feel you, I get called things like 'little man' all the time, and the security guards at my dorm kept asking me if I was someone's little brother until they finally started to recognize me. A lot of what age I get seen as relies on my haircut. Some haircuts I look 10-12, others 14-15.
Title: Re: Pass as a little kid?
Post by: Ryan55 on January 01, 2015, 02:51:35 PM
yeah i get called young man all the time, they probly think im between 15-17. I kinda just shrug it off, I rather them think I'm a young male then female anyway
Title: Re: Pass as a little kid?
Post by: Daft on January 01, 2015, 05:27:34 PM
Heh, I'm 18, and I look 14-ish. It confuses the hell out of my classmates in university, I suspect. At least my friend says I look 16, which is two steps closer but still two steps too far. Most of the guys I've met tend to look younger than their chronological age, which is a bit of a curse, but after being some years on T, they do tend to finally look like their age.

Haircuts and fashion/style definitely contribute to how people perceive you, especially age-wise, I'll definitely second that.

Forever young... the epitome of being a trans guy.
Title: Re: Pass as a little kid?
Post by: aleon515 on January 02, 2015, 01:41:11 AM
Quote from: Daft on January 01, 2015, 05:27:34 PM


Forever young... the epitome of being a trans guy.

Well wouldn't say FOREVER! :) But yeah I get guys asking to join our over 40 group, and gosh they look young some of them.

--Jay
Title: Re: Pass as a little kid?
Post by: Lukoshkin on January 02, 2015, 11:55:47 AM
Enjoy the moment! Have You a boyish childhood? Now You have! And You have a car -  a dream of every boy. But it will soon pass. The most of us had a «boyish» period, I think.