So last night I was hanging out with my friends and since it was new year's eve, in the back of my head I'm thinking that maybe one of my resolutions should be to come out of the closest. I don't really have any family (they cut me off a long time ago for non-transgender issues) and so the friends I was with are pretty much my family and only close friends in the world.
But during the night there were a couple of conversations that came up that make me think that coming out would be a bad bad bad idea.
One of my friends is very homophobic. Though he tries to hide it well and deals well with gay men one-on-one as a large group on the whole he gets weird about it. (I'm asexual, but homoromantic)
Another one of my friends was looking on her phone at facebook and commenting about how a girl who was starting to look all "boy-ish" lately and she hated it and thought it looked horrible. (At this point I started adjusting my hat to try to hide the fact that I trimmed my hair even shorter yesterday)
The thing is, I'd like to think that these friends would probably be more accepting (or at least less open about their distaste) if they knew how I felt. But when I attempted to come out as asexual about a year ago one of them told me it was "just a phase that everyone was doing because it was popular"
Also, the one friend I have who was way accepting of my sexuality always talks about this one girl (I say girl, but it's possible she could be transgender too) at our college. She looks a lot like me. So much so that people confuse us all the time. My friend always says her look is horrible and stupid. When I point out how similar me and this girl look and dress my friend always say "well you're just dressing comfortably, it's not like you're trying to trick people into thinking your a guy."
So yeah...I'm feeling like the closet is the place to stay.
I understand what you're feeling here. this is my same group of friends. A few of them just really don't like the whole "Gay" thing and purposely talk about it as if they were jocks and gays are nerds. A few might understand, but probably would end up drifting away from me after a while. So ultimately you'd be left alone with no friends, which would really suck. I think the best approach here is take it with time. If they are real friends who go out their way to hang with you or make somewhat of an effort to be there for ya; than I feel things will end alright. course I could be wrong, but I know I'd be devastated if my friends were to turn their backs on me in my time of need.
I would get them together at a gathering, perhaps if you're old enough to drink, maybe get them a little half in the bag. Go for it than, as their normal reactions may be partially blocked. One of them would have remember the next morning and it'd have to turn into a discussion of them confronting you. by this time you would be ready to give the full details and hope for the best. that's my thoughts, good luck.