Poll
I like the name Lake best, but the sound of "Harbor James" sounds better. I am in a situation with the name Brett not sounding as good with my surname as another first name might (Evan), but I don't like that name as much as I do Brett. I would go with the first name you like best, more than the sound of the pairing.
I always suggest the same thing to people (especially if they want to be stealth). If they can at least get it into the right decade, that would be good. The problem for me is I simply don't like any of the popular names from around my birth year. Brett doesn't seem to ever have been popular, but is recognizable, so I figure it is ok. Except pretty much everyone in my life prefers the other names I have put out there as options! ha!
Question: Which one do you prefer ? Here's my final three and my surname is James 
Option 1: Lake James
votes: 18
Option 2: Harbor James
votes: 10
Option 3: North James
votes: 2
Title: Help me pick my guy name please :)
Post by: Lake James on January 01, 2015, 04:41:09 PM
Post by: Lake James on January 01, 2015, 04:41:09 PM
I appreciate the subject of names has probably been done to death but I've made it my New Years resolution to give the guy in me a name. Those are my final 3 and I can't decide. Thanks guys xxx
Title: Re: Help me pick my guy name please :)
Post by: Bimmer Guy on January 01, 2015, 06:31:50 PM
Post by: Bimmer Guy on January 01, 2015, 06:31:50 PM
Quote from: Lake on January 01, 2015, 04:41:09 PM
I appreciate the subject of names has probably been done to death but I've made it my New Years resolution to give the guy in me a name. Those are my final 3 and I can't decide. Thanks guys xxx
I like the name Lake best, but the sound of "Harbor James" sounds better. I am in a situation with the name Brett not sounding as good with my surname as another first name might (Evan), but I don't like that name as much as I do Brett. I would go with the first name you like best, more than the sound of the pairing.
Title: Re: Help me pick my guy name please :)
Post by: Lake James on January 01, 2015, 06:48:34 PM
Post by: Lake James on January 01, 2015, 06:48:34 PM
Hey buddy :) thanks for the reply. That's the exact same problem I have. Harbor James sounds better but when I picture Harbor I can't see myself, whereas I can with Lake.
If your heart says Brett then go with it :)
I visualise all my name choices on army name tapes, laying on a table. Which one would you pick up straight away ? Mine is always Lake. What would yours be ?
If your heart says Brett then go with it :)
I visualise all my name choices on army name tapes, laying on a table. Which one would you pick up straight away ? Mine is always Lake. What would yours be ?
Title: Re: Help me pick my guy name please :)
Post by: Marcellow on January 01, 2015, 07:15:10 PM
Post by: Marcellow on January 01, 2015, 07:15:10 PM
Then I would strongly go with Lake if that's how you feel.
Most names I liked didn't fit my legal surname anyways so I'm changing that as well.
Most names I liked didn't fit my legal surname anyways so I'm changing that as well.
Title: Re: Help me pick my guy name please :)
Post by: LoriLorenz on January 01, 2015, 07:46:46 PM
Post by: LoriLorenz on January 01, 2015, 07:46:46 PM
I clicked Harbor based on it sounding better, but def go with Lake if it's what you FEEL the guy in you is supposed to be called. You could always find a middle name that helps smooth out the sound!
Title: Re: Help me pick my guy name please :)
Post by: ClaraJo on January 01, 2015, 07:56:26 PM
Post by: ClaraJo on January 01, 2015, 07:56:26 PM
Harbor sounds fitting with the last name, but a little to folky, Lake James sounds a bit more modern&cooler.
Title: Re: Help me pick my guy name please :)
Post by: AbeLane on January 01, 2015, 09:32:56 PM
Post by: AbeLane on January 01, 2015, 09:32:56 PM
I agree with LoriLorenz, use a middle name to help it flow better. I would pick Lake because that's what name you feel fits you.
Title: Re: Help me pick my guy name please :)
Post by: KatyKat2345 on January 02, 2015, 05:18:57 AM
Post by: KatyKat2345 on January 02, 2015, 05:18:57 AM
I chose my name because I always wanted to name a daughter Katy, but I lost the ability to have children. So i saw it as breathing new life into my hopes and dreams ^^ xx
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Title: Re: Help me pick my guy name please :)
Post by: bambam on January 02, 2015, 10:57:46 AM
Post by: bambam on January 02, 2015, 10:57:46 AM
Perhaps Lake Harbor James? But I definitely like Lake for the first name but in the end its all about what you feel suits you best. Good luck bro, I did the whole back and forth thing till I settled on a name that suits me perfectly :)
Title: Re: Help me pick my guy name please :)
Post by: Randi on January 02, 2015, 01:12:31 PM
Post by: Randi on January 02, 2015, 01:12:31 PM
I have never met a person named Lake, Harbor or North. That's a clue that this was a "made up" name, and not one given to you as a baby boy. Being trans is difficult enough without having a "stand out" name.
The popularity of names changes through time. I recommend you pick a name that male classmates had when you were growing up. The social security web page has a list of common first names for different decades.
http://www.ssa.gov/oact/babynames/
Randi
The popularity of names changes through time. I recommend you pick a name that male classmates had when you were growing up. The social security web page has a list of common first names for different decades.
http://www.ssa.gov/oact/babynames/
Randi
Title: Re: Help me pick my guy name please :)
Post by: Bimmer Guy on January 02, 2015, 04:19:10 PM
Post by: Bimmer Guy on January 02, 2015, 04:19:10 PM
Quote from: Randi on January 02, 2015, 01:12:31 PM
I have never met a person named Lake, Harbor or North. That's a clue that this was a "made up" name, and not one given to you as a baby boy. Being trans is difficult enough without having a "stand out" name.
The popularity of names changes through time. I recommend you pick a name that male classmates had when you were growing up. The social security web page has a list of common first names for different decades.
http://www.ssa.gov/oact/babynames/
Randi
I always suggest the same thing to people (especially if they want to be stealth). If they can at least get it into the right decade, that would be good. The problem for me is I simply don't like any of the popular names from around my birth year. Brett doesn't seem to ever have been popular, but is recognizable, so I figure it is ok. Except pretty much everyone in my life prefers the other names I have put out there as options! ha!
Title: Re: Help me pick my guy name please :)
Post by: AndrewG on January 03, 2015, 08:33:51 PM
Post by: AndrewG on January 03, 2015, 08:33:51 PM
Since you've got it as your username, and it's the first one in your poll, I think you'd probably regret not going with Lake. Going by your surname though you're probably going to have a lot of people getting them the wrong way around but that shouldn't put you off if it's what you want.
I've no idea why Andrew came to me, it just did and instantly felt right. Sounds like you've got your name too :)
I've no idea why Andrew came to me, it just did and instantly felt right. Sounds like you've got your name too :)
Title: Re: Help me pick my guy name please :)
Post by: Lostandfound on January 06, 2015, 07:09:13 AM
Post by: Lostandfound on January 06, 2015, 07:09:13 AM
Go with what feels right. I began with a name I liked the sound of but didn't fit. It was really obvious it didn't fit, but then I heard the name Calvin, and I thought, hey that's me. You just tend to know whether it fits. And if it fits it's probably right for you. If Lake feels right, go with Lake.