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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Leah443 on January 04, 2015, 12:43:24 PM

Title: Emotional beating
Post by: Leah443 on January 04, 2015, 12:43:24 PM
So lately things have been getting emotionally stressful. what with a new years fiasco, and just recently one of my friends just out and told me i didn't look female. needless to say after hearing that my confidence is pretty much shot. so i have to ask. do i really not look feminine?(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi1119.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fk639%2Fleahvoid443%2FPhotoon12-22-14at132PM_zpsf3f0bed9.jpg&hash=ded7a0aabfc7a75654463e514c44ea97002c1dbd)
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: NathanielM on January 04, 2015, 12:48:11 PM
I think you need to buy your 'friend' a pair of glasses! You do look feminine! And pretty too!
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: Merrydownjade on January 04, 2015, 12:49:42 PM
You're "friend" can't see what's in the mirror too I bet(no offence), you look feminine to me Hon.
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: MelanieH74 on January 04, 2015, 12:53:52 PM
Often those who knew you prior to your ongoing transformation have trouble seeing the new, true you.  I pass reasonably well, but my sons still see 'ol dad in there and can't give an unbiased opinion.  Don't take it personally (although frustrating)

BTW, you look lovely to me !
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: Leah443 on January 04, 2015, 12:58:33 PM
Thanks all of you. This means much to me as I have always been unsure, but never as unsure as when my "friend" said what she did.
Quote from: NathanielM on January 04, 2015, 12:48:11 PM
I think you need to buy your 'friend' a pair of glasses! You do look feminine! And pretty too!
Thanks very much. you look quite handsome yourself!
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: mrs izzy on January 04, 2015, 01:24:53 PM
Am sorry I think your friend is jealous.

Anyway each are there own beacons in the sea of life. No two are the same and never will.

Hugs
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: SpiffyTiffy on January 04, 2015, 01:43:02 PM
You are very pretty and wouldn't know, your friend is a jerk face.


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Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: Stephe on January 04, 2015, 01:51:33 PM
As someone else said, people who knew you as a guy will have a hard time seeing you as a girl. You look girly to me.
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: FriendsCallMeChris on January 04, 2015, 04:55:07 PM
You look adorable. Very feminine.  Charming soft, subtle smile.
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: April_TO on January 04, 2015, 07:51:03 PM
I have experienced this first hand. Don't worry my love - you are pretty and adorable :)
Complete pass :)
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: Leslie36369 on January 04, 2015, 07:57:45 PM
Not only do you look feminine you are actually pretty attractive.  I would kill for some of your features like your frame and lips. I don't know whats up with your friend but they're wrong.
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: ChiGirl on January 04, 2015, 08:06:44 PM
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In other words you look good.  I hope I can look that feminine.
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: Leah443 on January 04, 2015, 08:23:03 PM
Thanks everyone for the encouraging messages! you all and this site are what helps give me the determination to live as myself. from the bottom of my heart. thanks
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: stephaniec on January 04, 2015, 08:34:57 PM
sometimes your friends have other issues going on. You look fine
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: ImagineKate on January 04, 2015, 09:50:17 PM
One more for the "you are fine" crowd.

Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: Eva Marie on January 04, 2015, 10:27:16 PM
Quote from: Leah443 on January 04, 2015, 12:43:24 PM
So lately things have been getting emotionally stressful. what with a new years fiasco, and just recently one of my friends just out and told me i didn't look female. needless to say after hearing that my confidence is pretty much shot. so i have to ask. do i really not look feminine?(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi1119.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fk639%2Fleahvoid443%2FPhotoon12-22-14at132PM_zpsf3f0bed9.jpg&hash=ded7a0aabfc7a75654463e514c44ea97002c1dbd)

Totally female. Your friend needs some vision correction!
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: CrissyMarie on January 04, 2015, 10:31:33 PM
Wow, ya you are quite pretty indeed.  I'm jealous.  Honest opinion here, you will be very lovely as you progress through your HRT.  Just wait till 8 months in ^_^ Rawr!  Beat those guys off with a stick.
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: Valleyrie on January 04, 2015, 11:41:58 PM
I'm a very honest person and seriously, the first thought that entered my mind was "wow, she's so damn sexy and cute". :P You're gorgeous and certainly do look female - don't let anyone tell you otherwise. <3
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: Leah443 on January 04, 2015, 11:49:42 PM
Quote from: CrissyMarie on January 04, 2015, 10:31:33 PM
Wow, ya you are quite pretty indeed.  I'm jealous.  Honest opinion here, you will be very lovely as you progress through your HRT.  Just wait till 8 months in ^_^ Rawr!  Beat those guys off with a stick.
Thanks! already 10 months in. i was pretty sure i was progressing ok. which is why my "friends" comment shook me so bad. no changes after 10 months? scared me bad. also no need to be jealous. your profile pic looks amazing
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: Zoetrope on January 05, 2015, 12:24:21 AM
I live in a bit of a rough area, and I'm out a lot by day ... from across the street I often get hollered at, then when I get close, I get the whole 'thats a maaaaaaaaan' pantomine.

None of it affects me anymore.

I think like I've said in other threads, this is a two way street - I *also* need to be patient with others. It would be unreasonable to expect everyone get to behind me.

If *I* relax, people around me *also* relax.

Pick your battles, smile, keep on walking.
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: Damara on January 05, 2015, 12:43:34 AM
You look amazing. I wouldn't even know you were trans if you weren't here and discussing it. Your friend may just need extra time.. or to be kicked to the curb! lol!
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: Leslie36369 on January 05, 2015, 01:14:02 AM
Quote from: Damara on January 05, 2015, 12:43:34 AM
You look amazing. I wouldn't even know you were trans if you weren't here and discussing it. Your friend may just need extra time.. or to be kicked to the curb! lol!

I agree with you. I think that some people will always see you the way they did when they met you. Like when you run into a childhood friend and even though they look completely different something in there eyes still looks the same and you recognize them. I know this is different but as people get used to you the way you are their opinions will change, because like I said in my earlier post you look beautiful. I would never know if I met you in another environment.
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: ChrissyChips on January 05, 2015, 04:08:44 AM
I've seen your profile pic a few times and always thought you looked great...enough to make me seriously jealous :)
Title: Re: Emotional beating
Post by: Leah443 on January 05, 2015, 08:34:30 PM
Thanks again to everyone  who has responded. i have gotten my confidence back and will do my best to keep it. It was also good to hear from some of you about the different perspectives others may have when seeing me as it helps me see, although slightly, their point of view. and for all of the encouragement i am extremely thankful for. thanks al of you, you are all beautiful women and for the male members handsome men :)

Love Leah