I've decided to finally come out to my mom tomorrow. She's the first person besides my counselor who I'll be out to. I'm choosing her first because I think she's the most likely to be accepting.
I've made sure she's going to be by herself at her house and she knows to expect a serious conversation. I've written a short letter that I'm going to read aloud to do the actual coming out, then hopefully we can just talk afterward.
I wanted to do this earlier, but I felt like the holidays were a bad time. Plus, now I can make coming out to everyone my New Year's resolution :D.
I'll let you know how it goes.
-Anna
Good luck Anna! I hope everything goes well and that your mom is accepting of the real you :)
Hope it goes well. Let us know!
Anna,
Remember to breathe.
Make a copy for your mom so she can digest it after you come out aloud and go back home.
It is a big step but you know it is needed for your happiness.
Step at a time we walk this path.
Hugs
I can't wait to hear how it goes - exciting times ahead, for sure. An accepting mom is like the best thing ever. Fingers crossed!
Thanks, all.
Good Idea, Izzy. I'll be sure to leave her a copy.
Good luck! Let us know how it goes!
Best of luck, will be thinking of you. As others have said, please let us know how it goes.
It's done! I am out to my mom :D
The beginning basically went as planned, we sat on the couch and I read the letter to her. After I started reading and she realized exactly how serious it was she got up and sat across from me and held my legs to comfort me. When it was done she sat next to me and we just hugged for a while and talked a little like that. She said she was really proud of me for having the courage to do this and that she supports me. She also said she had always known that I wasn't comfortable in my own skin, although she had thought it wasn't anything like this and maybe I was gay instead.
One thing that surprised me was that she said this wasn't Earth-shattering news and she didn't think it would be to anyone else in the family, although it will definitely take time to get used to. The weird thing was this just felt like talking, I was expecting to be all nervous but she was just so accepting that I felt really normal. We took the dogs out for a walk then went out for lunch and had drinks. It was basically a normal day with my mom except the topic of conversation was different. In the end I realized I was just really happy and relieved.
I know not everyone has an experience as positive as this and I'm pretty lucky, but hopefully it goes to show that coming out isn't guaranteed to suck. I hope others in the future have similarly positive experiences!
Glad it was not what you feared.
Most of the times it is not.
Now you have more positives to move forward.
Hugs and safe passage.
This is truly amazing! I'm very happy for you! :D
Absolutely love reading these positive accounts of coming out. Thanks so much for sharing, and I'm happy it turned out perfect. :)
Awesome, good for you and congratulations, your mom sounds like a wonderful person and if the rest of your family is anything like her you won't have any issues :)
It seems you have an awesome mom. Good for you ^^.
That's awesome!
It's so awesome to hear positive reactions, this is brilliant, congrats and well done! :)