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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: LizMarie on January 06, 2015, 01:23:06 PM

Title: An Unexpected But Perfect Gift
Post by: LizMarie on January 06, 2015, 01:23:06 PM
Two years ago in December, my mother passed away unexpectedly. She was in her late 70s but had COPD issues due to a lifetime of heavy smoking but otherwise members of our family tend to live well into our 80s and 90s. So mom's passing was unexpected and I can honestly say that even at my age, I miss her greatly every single day.

Mom never had much. Abandoned by my father when we were still small children, plus health issues she had mid-life made life tough on our family but Mom kept us together. She raised us, loved us, and was thrilled as each of us grew to adulthood. But for herself she never had a lot. One thing she did have was free and clear ownership of her home from her early 50s onward.

It was a small home in a small town in eastern Ohio. It wasn't worth a lot. She had little savings. Plus it took us two years to sell that house. Because of her financial situation, my guess at the value of the house, legal fees, funeral expenses, house maintenance while we waited for it to sell, etc., I didn't expect to get much from my mother's estate.

Anything would have helped, of course, but I expected a few thousand dollars total.

Before I go further, I've budgeted out about $15,000 for my trip to Thailand for my gender confirmation surgery. I've waited a lifetime for this and could wait a few more years as I saved the money.

So imagine my surprise when I was informed that I and my siblings would each be receiving approximately $16000 as our last gift from Mom.

I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes today, looking heavenward, and repeating "Thank you, mom". For even in death, her last gift to me turned out to be perfect.



An Unexpected But Perfect Gift (http://lizdaybyday.wordpress.com/2015/01/06/an-unexpected-but-perfect-gift/)
Title: Re: An Unexpected But Perfect Gift
Post by: mm on January 06, 2015, 01:29:32 PM
what a great to receive, LizMarie, you can put the money to good use by getting your wanted surgery sooner.  You never know what life will bring you.  Have you decided on which surgeon you would like to have for your surgery?

Title: Re: An Unexpected But Perfect Gift
Post by: LizMarie on January 06, 2015, 01:50:20 PM
I'm still looking but Chett has lots of positive reviews and I know three women who went there who are all quite happy.
Title: Re: An Unexpected But Perfect Gift
Post by: jeni on January 06, 2015, 01:53:26 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss, but what a wonderful gift.
Title: Re: An Unexpected But Perfect Gift
Post by: LizMarie on January 06, 2015, 02:02:58 PM
I mourned her two years ago when she passed away. Thank you but I've moved on. I simply choose to look at this as her last gift to me, nearly as perfect as I could have wished for.
Title: Re: An Unexpected But Perfect Gift
Post by: Devlyn on January 06, 2015, 02:28:23 PM
That's a lovely gift, I'm happy you can move ahead thanks to her! Now get on the phone to Dr Chett's office pronto!

Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: An Unexpected But Perfect Gift
Post by: ImagineKate on January 06, 2015, 07:18:30 PM
That's a wonderful gift!
Title: Re: An Unexpected But Perfect Gift
Post by: Rainbow Dash on January 07, 2015, 07:03:47 AM
Aww. That is so wonderful. *hugs*
Title: Re: An Unexpected But Perfect Gift
Post by: Vicky Mitchell on January 07, 2015, 01:32:54 PM
That's wonderful to hear. 


Vicky
MtF
Title: Re: An Unexpected But Perfect Gift
Post by: Rachel on January 07, 2015, 08:18:57 PM
I have tears in my eyes, that was a beautiful story.

Sounds like you Mom was truly rich and you will always have the memories.
Title: Re: An Unexpected But Perfect Gift
Post by: wired22 on January 10, 2015, 12:11:50 PM
How wonderful something so positive came from something so tragic. VERY sorry for your loss.
Title: Re: An Unexpected But Perfect Gift
Post by: Ms Grace on January 10, 2015, 01:10:43 PM
Very nice indeed. :)