I came out to my mum and she is supportive but she thinks i am confused because i have never acted girly and would feel uncomfortable in girls clothing but that isnt true so i might just wait for us to see the therapist.
Tell her that you would welcome the opportunity to talk to a counselor.
...and the opportunity to wear girls clothes!
It's weird how parents contextualise their memory of their children's behaviour. When I first tried transition many years ago I was about 23 when I told my mother and she certainly laid the "you've never been that way" line in me. When I decided to transition this time and told her she said "yes, you have always been that way"...??!
Quote from: Ms Grace on January 08, 2015, 03:18:16 PM
...and the opportunity to wear girls clothes!
It's weird how parents contextualise their memory of their children's behaviour. When I first tried transition many years ago I was about 23 when I told my mother and she certainly laid the "you've never been that way" line in me. When I decided to transition this time and told her she said "yes, you have always been that way"...??!
makes sense
Wouldn't hurt to try to educate your mom. "Not all transgender people act girly" is a truth that few people know (even among our own ranks). If you challenge her assumptions often enough (calmly and without emotional charge), she may be motivated to do some of her own research.
I'm not very girly but I'm Trans! I think if I had been a GG I would have been a bit of a tomboy. But only a bit. I still wanted to be Wonder Woman!
FYI: I'm IS.
Aw stereotypes, got to love them. I've known GG's who have never acted "girly". Personally I've acted kinda girly most of my life, but I was kinda oblivious. Besides, I'm more of a tomboy.
Anyways, just tell your mom that not everyone who comes out as trans, has acted "girly". Besides, how would she know if you would be uncomfortable in girls clothes. Boys clothes are so, blah.
Best of luck!