Last night, my stepdad again went on another one of his drunk rampages, cornering me, brow-beating me, and just saying awful things to me. After a stand-off with him at my locked bedroom door, my mom showed up. I let her in. She held me, and I sobbed. However, this turned foul, and she accused me of being too sensitive, or too emotional, and blamed it on my hormones. She told me to get in the car, as we were going to the hospital to find out "what the hell is wrong" with me. I was fine with that, because that meant getting out of the house and away from my stepdad. It also meant a third party would be involved.
As we drove, we talked. Real talk. We decided not to go to the hospital. We were totally fine with each other. I love my mom.
A few hours after we got home, I noticed my hormone pills were missing. Drunky Mc->-bleeped-<-head stepdad had stolen them. How messed up is that? I did get them back in the morning, though.
I put up with so much abuse living here. He's been nothing but awful to me ever since he showed up when I was seven. My mom and I both tried taking our own lives on different occasions last year. I don't know how I'm ever going to get out of here. I feel trapped. When I start doing better for myself, he knocks me down. I feel so hopeless.
Your mom needs to put your and her needs ahead of this abusive man. Sounds like your mother is trapped as well, emotional abuse is just as deadly as physical. I am guessing he is also abusive to her and may be controlling her by making her feel like ->-bleeped-<- and dependent upon him. Please try to get some help to save your mother and yourself.
This is NOT ok. Is there another family member you could stay with? :-\
It is deplorable and you have my sympathy, but it will not change itself. You are going to have to find a way to pick you and your mother up and make a new life far from the torment. It is not easy, but it can be done and has been done by so many people. There will be tough times, but if you two are together and free from torment aren't they worth it? You hold the key in life to your own happiness and I hope you find it soon. Good luck sweetie! :)
My thoughts and prayers are with you as you deal with this. Such horrible things in the world! :embarrassed:
Please, please do whatever you can to get you BOTH away from this man, but please also be safe!!!
Also, take your HRT drugs WITH you from now on, so they cannot get taken from you again. To me that feels like a violation of your person even though he didn't touch you in taking them.
Be safe.
Leave or better still kick his ass and leave.
[[hugs]]
I'm so sorry, seriously. as Stevie said, it really sounds like this guy is abusive towards her and you both - you've gotta take steps towards getting out of there if at all possible. there's hotlines you could call, support groups you could visit. please stay safe, okay? you're in my thoughts.
with love,
alex
Report him to the police for domestic violence and child abuse.
Your Mum needs to be safe and so do you.
I'm with Cindy. Involve the police. Stealing someone else's medicine is a crime.
Please protect yourself. This man sounds dangerous.
Quote from: Cindy on January 27, 2015, 02:52:38 AM
Report him to the police for domestic violence and child abuse.
Um, I'm a little uncomfortable at the way people are putting out this advice as if it's a no-brainer.
In many domestic violence situations, simply reporting someone to the police doesn't stop the violence and may even make it worse. The police can't in general be relied upon to protect victims, and sometimes the victims don't have much in the way of resources to get away from their abuser. Child Protective Services may or may not choose to get involved (assuming the OP is legally a child), and if they do intervene, foster homes aren't always much better, and may not handle a child being trans well.
We aren't there. (Some of us aren't even in the same country.) The OP is, and is in a better position to know what will or won't work. The OP is the one (along with their mother) who will suffer the consequences of any miscalculation.
If the OP is looking for options, a domestic violence hotline is a good place to start.
Do you have a good understanding therapist? Perhaps that would be a good place to start with this.
Take care and be safe,
Paige :)
Hey Mugwort,
I am in Philly too and go to Mazzoni's group on Thursday nights at 6 at 21S 12 street 8th floor. You may want to give it a try. There are 2 social workers there and have a lot of information.
The violence hotline 24 hours a day 1-866-safe-014. It is the Settlement House's Bilingual Domestic Violence Program serving the LGBT community. They provide crisis counseling, safety planning, medical and legal advocacy, transitional housing and referrals for domestic abuse including shelter and legal services.
I am sorry you and your Mom (she sounds sweet) have to go through this, hugs.
I'd say talk to a social worker at the hospital and see what they say