Okay I'm not proud to admit this, but on new years I made out with 3 guys (not all on the same day) and I of course I also talked to them. they didn't suspect a thing and , but maybe that's because they were focused on getting sex from me (which they did not).
One guy told my friend that "she has a deep voice , but I like it" so I guess my voice passes. the thing is I didn't practice my voice at all. I did however start talking in a bit of a higher pitch once I started living as a girl and maybe that acted as voice therapy.
my voice around my family is completely different from my voice around other people, it's a mental thing. and it makes talking in a girl voice very difficult when I'm in public with family or friends who knew me as a guy before.
It's kind of difficult for me to believe that my voice passes as female since I never practiced it, I'm just too lazy. but I hope that it does pass and that those guys and other people aren't just being nice
That's so good Melanie, especially the switching between pitches 8)
L Katy
That's exactly what happens to me. With my parents, who are 100% non-supportive, specially my zealot Catholic mother, and my macho-minded dad to a lesser degree --very normal in a man anyways but I thought mother would be more supportive, I am sooo disappointed in her-- I have to speak like a so-called "guy" and I hate it. They also treat me like a man and call me that birth name I hate so much.
With old acquaintances and friends --although I really have no old friends any more-- it is a bit of a similar story, but at least I try. With my parents I can't even try, in fact they are THE ONLY people in this whole world that make me feel embarrassed at being a transwoman and it seems impossible for me to overcome such a feeling, I even have nightmares about that frequently.
With my BF and TG friends, or any people who knew me as a female from the get go, it is a breeze to do my fem voice --which doesn't mean it i as passable as I wish it would be, but at least I don't restrain myself--
Cheers
Bibi b.
Quote from: melanie maritz on February 15, 2015, 07:47:56 AM
my voice around my family is completely different from my voice around other people, it's a mental thing. and it makes talking in a girl voice very difficult when I'm in public with family or friends who knew me as a guy before.
Wow that's awesome.
I try to talk higher but I just can't. So I'm going the surgical route.
Congrats!
Back when I tried to transition the first time I had quite a few sessions with a speech therapist. I did a l ot of practice but always felt my voice never sounded like a female voice. Surprisingly I still remembered much of what she taught me this time around and while I don't sound like a female Ive realised I don't sound male either. Since I look female enough, my voice is generally regarded as female when I speak, I don't get weird looks when I say anything so I figure it passes well enough. Doesn't work too well in noisy placed since I have to speak louder and I find myself reverting to my standard voice just to be heard. The important thing is to never strain your voice by using a pitch which cannot be sustained or which hurts your throat, you can end up causing damage to your vocal cords which could ultimately make you sound terrible.
The voice is not important, IF you're unclockable as far as visual presentation goes, cisgender looking in every aspect, even when you have messy hair and are too lazy for make-up... There are many cisgender women with really low voice, and other than problems with telephone, they are not getting misgendered or read as transsexual because of it. The more visual masculine traits you have, like facial features, height, shoulders, hair, lack of hips, lack of breast size, etc... that much more likely is that your voice will be THAT THING that would get you clocked. You can try to hide masculine facial features with make-up, and masculine body caracteristics with appropriate clothing choices, but in the end, no-matter the effort, those things are still evident to some level, and with voice that isn't enough feminine, people will start searching and looking for clues.
If you plan to live stealth in the future, definitely start to develop your voice, or start saving for surgery. "She has a deep voice, but I like it" will probably work with most men. But it's enough that one woman get suspicious and start looking for other clues... And your life as you knew it, could get ruined and destroyed very fast.
I've mentioned it before but I almost always get ma'amed on the phone without much effort. Oddly enough, it used to bother me when I was in fierce denial. Even when I speak to people in person and they think I'm a female, my voice doesn't give me away.
Quote from: mmmmm on February 15, 2015, 04:12:08 PM
The voice is not important, IF you're unclockable as far as visual presentation goes, cisgender looking in every aspect, even when you have messy hair and are too lazy for make-up... There are many cisgender women with really low voice, and other than problems with telephone, they are not getting misgendered or read as transsexual because of it. The more visual masculine traits you have, like facial features, height, shoulders, hair, lack of hips, lack of breast size, etc... that much more likely is that your voice will be THAT THING that would get you clocked. You can try to hide masculine facial features with make-up, and masculine body caracteristics with appropriate clothing choices, but in the end, no-matter the effort, those things are still evident to some level, and with voice that isn't enough feminine, people will start searching and looking for clues.
If you plan to live stealth in the future, definitely start to develop your voice, or start saving for surgery. "She has a deep voice, but I like it" will probably work with most men. But it's enough that one woman get suspicious and start looking for other clues... And your life as you knew it, could get ruined and destroyed very fast.
Yes in theory. But it depends if she lives in a trans friendly environment. Life wont be ruin at that point. Life is ruin when you dont become who you are.