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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Wild Flower on February 23, 2015, 10:18:49 AM

Title: i dont feel feminine....
Post by: Wild Flower on February 23, 2015, 10:18:49 AM
I do not feel pretty or feminine at all right now. I did the bald Britney hairstyle because I felt emotionally imbalance (my hair was short because of work), face full of acne, body flabby.... and I see a dude in my mirror... not even a pretty dude. I know guys dont even glance at me anymore unless they were mesmerize by me a while ago when I was more feminine...


I feel like ->-bleeped-<- and its because i feel like theres no hope. I want to feel feminine again but I dont know how. Im always feminine but I mean... I dont feel at all like a woman. I feel empty. Dead.
Title: Re: i dont feel feminine....
Post by: ChiGirl on February 23, 2015, 11:42:08 AM
It's easy to feel that way.  I'm sure most of us have felt that way.  I know I feel that way all the time. 

Try this.  Pick some aspect of yours that you feel is feminine or represents your femininity.  For me, it was my eyes.  When you look into the mirror, focus on that first.  Sometimes, the male fades away and you'll see her.  It ain't easy, but oh so worth it. [emoji4]
Title: Re: i dont feel feminine....
Post by: Kelly_1979 on February 23, 2015, 12:02:10 PM
I feel you. I guess most of us have this alternating "identities - feelings". The only way I feel I'm female now is lying on the bed with the lights off... It also helps holding my hands together while lying down...each of us finds a way to feel more like our inner selves.

Haven't been outwardly feminine myself but the feelings are similar...
Title: Re: i dont feel feminine....
Post by: April Lee on February 23, 2015, 12:54:37 PM
Hon, I have been there right where you are right now. I still am sometimes. But all women don't feel pretty or feminine at some point. Just be yourself, and the rest will take of itself. One day early in my transition, I had a mystical experience where I looked in the mirror, and saw not what I looked like at that moment, but I could look like. Everything from that point on has been about chipping away the facade and letting the girl emerge.