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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: KamTheMan on March 02, 2015, 10:49:33 AM

Title: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: KamTheMan on March 02, 2015, 10:49:33 AM
We have a somewhat complicated and possibly doomed relationship, but I seriously love this girl and in a way think she's my soulmate. She thinks the same of me. He birthday is in about three weeks. A few weeks after that she's moving to Spain and I don't know when I'll see her again. I want to get her something meaningful to bring with her. Any ideas???
Title: Re: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: BioS on March 02, 2015, 10:52:04 AM
What kind of things is she into? Does she have hobbies or interests? :3
Title: Re: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: Sunderland on March 02, 2015, 11:03:53 AM
Get her something that ties into a special memory you share, or, if you have something that has a lot of sentimental value to you and you're okay with letting her have it, those sorts of gifts can mean a lot, too. They can show a person just how important they are to you. That's my approach when deciding on gifts for my girlfriend. :)
Title: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: Ayden on March 02, 2015, 11:09:40 AM
Well, without knowing any personals I can give you my advice.

My husband and I have been apart a few times. The first time was in highschool (yeah, we're highschool sweeties) and I left him with a necklace I really loved. He gave me his highschool ring. The second time was after we lived together and he did his study abroad in Hokkaido, Japan. I gave him Siggy, a stuffed penguin I've had my whole life. That little puff ball was the first thing that was given to me, actually. He left me with his stuffed wombat creatively name "wombat". Siggy and Joe came home safe and sound, though Sig's squeaker is a little worse for wear. The third time was when he moved here to Osaka and I was finishing my thesis back home. He left me with his favorite sweater and I sent mine with him. Like Sunderland said, I always go for something that means something. Even those sweaters shared a special meaning for us.

Since you said you may be doomed (I certainly hope not, obviously) I would say don't send your version of Siggy. It would have killed me in some small way to lose that as it was a gift from my grandfather and aside from my name the first thing I ever got. But, if you have a favorite sweater or something like that that your girl likes, that may be a good choice.

I always go for sentimental gifts. I know guys aren't supposed to be sentimental by some weird standard, but every guy I know is.

Other than that is there anything she really likes? I'm a penguin lover and my partner is a duck lover. I can send him a picture of a duck and it makes his day. I've gotten him stuffed ducks and duck themed ties and he loves them. It's a good bet to find something like that to give her.
Title: Re: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: Jayne on March 02, 2015, 11:19:13 AM
Typical bloody man, only 3 weeks to go & you still don't know what you're getting your partner for her birthday  ::).
When I was with my ex I not only knew weeks in advance what I was getting her but I had it purchased & gift wrapped.

On a more serious note without knowing her I can't say what you should get her, just make sure it comes from the heart
Title: Re: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: KamTheMan on March 02, 2015, 11:24:43 AM
She loves to travel. That's why she's moving to Spain. She's from Argentina. For Christmas this year I gave her a necklace that I had worn for years through a rough patch in my life. I gave her one of my hats last year that had planes on it that she wore while she traveled last summer. For her birthday last year I gave her a vinyl record of a band we both love.
Title: Re: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: Jayne on March 02, 2015, 11:34:04 AM
All those gifts were clearly from the heart, just follow your heart as you've done in the past. When I was with my ex as soon as xmas was over i'd be listening for her to exclaim that she really liked something and then think "that's her birthday present", after her birthday i'd do the same for xmas, one year i'd bought her main xmas prezzie in May!!
If nothing was mentioned then i'd get her something linked to pigs or cows, if desperate i'd buy her some LEGO kits to keep her quiet and happy for several days
Title: Re: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: Elis on March 02, 2015, 01:30:49 PM
Maybe a bracelet to do with spain or more specifically to do with where she's moving to in Spain. Like a map of the place or try finding a bracelet that's spanish in style.
Title: Re: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: FTMax on March 02, 2015, 01:51:14 PM
When I moved away for grad school, I got my then-girlfriend a small iPod that I filled with awesome playlists I knew she'd enjoy. Probably the most successful gift I've ever given.
Title: Re: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: KamTheMan on March 02, 2015, 03:14:42 PM
I was going to get her a minions onesie because she looves minions (despicable me). But that seems impractical since she's gonna be backpacking. So I just ordered two things for her. A cool scarf with a hidden pocket for her passport or w/e else (she's always wearing a scarf) and a Turkish peshtemal towel which I read were great for traveling because they're crazy soft and can be worn like clothing but also dry quick and fold really small. Thoughts?
Title: Re: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: Jayne on March 02, 2015, 03:31:25 PM
If she loves minions then get her a small plush one that will fit in her bag, tell her that you're her minion and this will take your place by her side whilst you're apart
Title: Re: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: Maleth on March 02, 2015, 07:48:16 PM
Quote from: Jayne on March 02, 2015, 03:31:25 PM
If she loves minions then get her a small plush one that will fit in her bag, tell her that you're her minion and this will take your place by her side whilst you're apart

This seems like a really sweet idea.
Title: Re: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: Sunderland on March 02, 2015, 07:58:12 PM
Quote from: Jayne on March 02, 2015, 03:31:25 PM
If she loves minions then get her a small plush one that will fit in her bag, tell her that you're her minion and this will take your place by her side whilst you're apart

I third this! So cute!
Title: Re: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: palexander on March 02, 2015, 09:18:30 PM
you could find a map and mark the places you'd like to travel to with her, along with a little note giving an explanation as to why you want to visit that specific location..? in addition to that, what about making her dinner or picking up her favorite food? it'd be a good idea to plan a special night before she goes.
Title: Re: Please Help Me! Birthday Gift for Girlfriend!
Post by: Obfuskatie on March 02, 2015, 09:34:02 PM
Maybe a webcam?  For when she can get wireless internet.
If she's not bringing a laptop with her, an iPad or Surface can run Skype or FaceTime or whatever as well as long as they have signal.  Long distance couples that regularly communicate with VOIP programs tend to do better.

Or maybe a collage of pictures of the things you have that remind you of her and their associated stories.  Think of the stuff you might put into a box of you did break up.


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