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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Menoimagination on March 07, 2015, 05:05:25 PM

Title: Height dysphoria and diy shoe lifts
Post by: Menoimagination on March 07, 2015, 05:05:25 PM
My two older brothers are 6ft2in and 6ft4in, my younger sister is 5ft9in tall. My friends are mostly really tall too.
I know that height isn't everything and all that, but I hate being so short. I mean, I'm taller than both my parents but think it is completely unfair that my siblings are so tall and I am not. And it hurts. I'm surrounded by tall people and it makes me feel like absolute ->-bleeped-<-.
About a year and a half ago I made some (sort of) shoe lifts out of cardboard and duct tape. They made me feel a lot more confident, even if only giving me a little more height. After a few months I had completely totalled them, and I haven't made any more since (though I probably will if I can...) and I recently told my mum about it and she just laughed and seemed to brush my discomfort off. She told me I should learn to accept my height and just be glad that I am taller than she is. She doesn't get it, I've accepted that I am not going to grow anymore, it is just how much more confident being just a little taller made me...
Idk, this was just my nonsense babble at 11pm sorry I make no sense.
Title: Re: Height dysphoria and diy shoe lifts
Post by: Devlyn on March 07, 2015, 05:21:44 PM
Big hug! Can you afford elevator shoes? Lots of folks wear them. First time I put on heels I said "Holy crap, is this what it looks like from up here?" Men's shoes can be found with 3 to 3 1/2 inches of height built in.

Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Height dysphoria and diy shoe lifts
Post by: Tripdistrans on March 07, 2015, 05:26:13 PM
I'm only 5'3", and although I'm taller than my older sister, both of my younger siblings are going to be taller than me, my brother already is. I remember telling my dad when I was 13/14 that I needed to start hormones straight away so that I would get taller. Parents just seem really good at the brushing it off thing, don't they?

What kind of shoes do you like to wear? I found that wearing boots with even a little bit of heel on them made me feel like I was a lot taller, even though it's only about two or three centimeters. Also, you can order shoe lifts online if you ever find the cardboard is a hassle, I've actually recently purchased some (5 pairs for about $7AUS) off eBay, they should be here this week sometime.
Title: Re: Height dysphoria and diy shoe lifts
Post by: Ayden on March 07, 2015, 05:30:50 PM
Certain brand of shoes have a decent heel. One of the brands both me and the partner wear are dansko. They are spendy but the style we have give us both an extra 3 inches. A lot of men are self conscious of their height and there are a lot of styles of shoes that can give you a boost without looking like they are made to boost height. There are also cheap shoe lifts that you can get from places like shoe stores. I had a pair for a while until I flattened them out and switched my shoe style.
Title: Re: Height dysphoria and diy shoe lifts
Post by: DeanJulian on March 07, 2015, 06:04:38 PM
Uggh, height dysphoria is so bad. I'm 5'6" and I've developed an obsession with researching the heights of various male celebrities and comparing how much taller than me they are.
Title: Re: Height dysphoria and diy shoe lifts
Post by: Bran on March 07, 2015, 07:55:36 PM
It does suck being a short guy.  I'm 5'3" if I stand *really* straight, and I try not to let it worry me too much (I'm mostly not successful at that. . . )  I've thought about lifts or elevator shoes, but faced the depressing reality that nothing reasonable would get me close to an "average" male height. Ayden mentioned Dankos-- I pretty much live in mine and, while I bought them for comfort, the height boost is a nice bonus.  They are pricey, but there are plenty of cheaper knockoff unisex clogs that also have the bit of a heel.  Sadly, nothing's perfect.
Title: Re: Height dysphoria and diy shoe lifts
Post by: makipu on March 07, 2015, 09:18:13 PM
I don't know if these are anyone's taste but platform shoes from Demonia adds a couple of inches:

http://www.ebay.com/sch/Boots-/11498/i.html?Brand=Demonia

They are mostly unisex too.