My Ex had been friends for ten years. He had been through two bad relationships and we finally got together and we were inseparable for two years. He always called me his other half-- and I always tried to push back the fact he liked a friend of his better than me. I tried to keep self doubt about it away and well...
He ran off with her.
I don't know what I did wrong, I gave him everything. Even gave him a place to stay when his parents lost their house. I always supported him, emotionally, financially, even if it was a struggle. And if there was a disagreement, I either overlooked it or talked it out and that was rare.
With her, there went through some stuff, she verbal abused him, told him to talk talking to him for days-- I guess she gave him better emotional support and all of a sudden had money to help him move away.
Then to top it off-- even those who cheated on him and abused him in the past he kept as friends. But me? He cut me out of his life completely. Like I did something terrible. And if I did, we won't tell me.
He just told me he wasn't worthy and not contact him and leave him alone.
What is going on? Was I bad??? Was she better? Why lie and say you love me then leave with just a vague letter? Then in text tell me to eff-off like I offended his entire family?!
You deserve better. You didn't do anything wrong. He sounds like a flakey person to me. Sorry you are going through this.
*hugs*
It's not your fault, sweetie. It's never your fault when people do stuff like this. I'm seeing a lot of parallels between him and one of my ex's. It sounds like he's got a lot of issues and he really didn't deserve you. Cheating is one of the scummiest things someone can do, in my opinion. It hurt so bad when it was done to me, and I kept asking myself the same things -- What did I do to make her treat me that way? Why wasn't I good enough? But the truth is that it had nothing to do with how well I treated her and how much I sacrificed for her. And your boyfriend's behavior is not your fault, either. You were good to him and he didn't appreciate it. That's all on him.
I'm so sorry it turned out this way. :(
Thank you guys.
It just makes no sense...
*Sigh* It's annoying because I'm stuck picking up the pieces and he's off having fun like a little kid running off. But if being with a younger woman with her roommates sounds better than someone more stable and he had a JOB with, alright.
Tho she isn't stable, verbally abused him several times, chooses her friends over him and just-- welp. w/e.