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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Makenzie on March 13, 2015, 06:32:50 PM

Title: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: Makenzie on March 13, 2015, 06:32:50 PM
I identify as female,but hair and stuff is all I see wanting to do in the long term.I look naturally feminine,but after thinking about it I'm not at all set on any HRT or surgeries in the future.
Title: Re: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: Devlyn on March 13, 2015, 06:36:27 PM
Big hug! You have my support to do so!  :)

Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: Jill F on March 13, 2015, 06:41:25 PM
Your gender is between your ears, not your legs.   If you have a female brain, you will always have a female brain.  What you do or do not do to your body is up to you, and you alone.   

I have always been transgender, but I did not feel it necessary to transition until I was 43.  Keep in mind that GD can be progressive, and your needs today may be different from your needs in the future.

Hugs,
Jill
Title: Re: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: suzifrommd on March 13, 2015, 06:47:27 PM
As far as surgeries and hair removal go, all of that is independent of your gender. If you're a woman, you're a woman. Surgeries, procedures, HRT, or looks don't make you a woman.

That being said, it's optimistic to expect people to get your pronouns right if you aren't at least making an effort to look female in some way.
Title: Re: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: Makenzie on March 13, 2015, 06:57:21 PM
Sometimes happiness is more import than passing.
Title: Re: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: Devlyn on March 13, 2015, 07:42:41 PM
To me, it always is. Everything OK, hon?

Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: Makenzie on March 13, 2015, 08:04:33 PM
Well,it's nothing I should discuss here lol it's personal and would annoy people
Title: Re: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: Devlyn on March 13, 2015, 08:20:07 PM
My email is right there.... :)
Title: Re: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: Makenzie on March 13, 2015, 08:27:21 PM
I emailed you,hopefully it's not too much if a bother to you :)
Title: Re: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: Devlyn on March 13, 2015, 09:02:23 PM
I have it there so people can use it.  :)

Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: katrinaw on March 14, 2015, 07:02:08 AM
Makenzie there are many reasons why we would not fully transition, it's of personal choice or because of the situation or environment we find ourselves in. The decision too or not too does not change who we are, often we have to manage our lives in the best way we can. I have but know I am at the end of the pretence road now!

Regardless of how far you go in your life, you are no less a woman in our eyes...

Hugs

L Katy
Title: Re: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: ImagineKate on March 14, 2015, 07:59:07 AM
Makenzie,

Sure you can regard yourself as whatever gender you want to be. If you want to be female you do not need surgery or hormones.

However what society thinks is completely something else and without even trying to look like what society deems to be female you won't be regarded as one.

But if you can live with that then you have your answer.
Title: Re: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: Katie on March 14, 2015, 08:22:21 AM
You can consider yourself anything you want without ever transitioning. Now what the rest of the world sees you as, that's a totally different story.
Title: Re: Is it ok to consider myself female even if I opt not to transition?
Post by: Makenzie on March 14, 2015, 08:47:32 AM
Quote from: Katie on March 14, 2015, 08:22:21 AM
You can consider yourself anything you want without ever transitioning. Now the rest of the world that's a totally different story.
What?