I read a topic here that made me think. The topic was along the lines of what happens to transitioners and why they disappear from here. In my own life I can say it is because we find ourselves and do not need the daily support we once did. We move on with our new lives and find at times there is not enough daylight to do all we want to.
My own life has become something I could only one time dream about. It is wonderful even with the ups and downs. Luckily the downs now seem to be centered away from being transgender and more into what one might call the average life. I have been full time for a year and a half now and it is about routine now and not just trans centered. I belong to two special support groups where I am more of the mentor than the scared girl exploring life afraid of every move. I do things now I did not even consider in the past. I have wonderful friends and have accomplished many first's with them. First art gallery viewing, first theatre performance, first Tupperware party and many more. I have gotten into political lobbying activities and even plan on running for State House soon. Life to me now is about being me and enjoying every single second of it. There are times I cannot even remember how I felt before transition. The emotions, actions, feeling of being trapped, etc. It is a wonderful feeling I wish everyone could feel, being comfortable in your own skin. All I can say is listen carefully to those who have transitioned ahead of you and heed their advice. The worse enemy I found during my journey was not listening to those who say you look or are doing fine with presentation, etc. New transitioners have the fresh mental picture of their old lives and it is hard to be objective. There will come a day for you like me where you wake up hair a mess with no makeup and see a beautiful, genuine and real person in the mirror. From that point you so have it all!! I owe all my success to this great place and hope it is special to you as well. You can see all my new adventures and pictures (which I can't get enough of now) on Facebook. You are all beautiful in your own special way so celebrate this life and do not waste a moment. We older transitioners have lost too much already. You are special, you are loved and you are all unique so embrace yourself and live large. :) :) :)
Jessica,
there is a lot of great insight in what you wrote,
thank you.
Jessica,
thats really encouraging to hear. you were the first person to contact me just over a year ago when i first found this place and have had my admiration and respect ever since. the thought that i could feel as you have described in a year and a half is really encouraging. I am coming out on sunday for the first time to a close friend so am feeling terrified. you can see my other post for details. send me some of your strength please. J xxxx
Thank you for this inspiring message, Jessica.
And all the best for all your plans!
Jessica, As always a wonderful inspiring message. Your an inspiration to many of us here and just in the months I have been here I have see you come so far. Hugs
Mariah
Thanks everyone! Jennifer, PM sent! :icon_hug:
Life really is and can be good. Letting go of the past is a big step towards healing and becoming complete. You can look at it as a curse or blessing we are trans. How many people though get to experience life from both sides? How many get to experience every single emotion, sensation and true tolerance and peace? I look at my life as a terrible privilege. Terrible that so much frustration and effort have to be used to correct our bodies, yet blessed to be on an amazing journey that few get to take. I am a transgender woman still a work of art in the process, but in actuality I am a more complete person than most out there in the world. It took the bad to get me to the fantastic place I am now. It was well worth it. :) :) :)
I hate to say I told you so, but I did.
We just need the time, outside help, support and confidence in one's self.
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Quote from: mrs izzy on April 11, 2015, 02:09:52 PM
I hate to say I told you so, but I did.
I wondered how long it would take you to say that sis!! Lol :)
Yes, you were right oh Master Yodette! :)
Holy Carrots, that was really inspiring. Now I want to be your friend, lol.
Quote from: CarrotInsanity on April 11, 2015, 03:41:26 PM
Holy Carrots, that was really inspiring. Now I want to be your friend, lol.
New friends are always welcome! :)
That's the Jessica I know! :)
You are absolutely correct sis - we finally get to experience what "normal" life is all about, with its normal ups and downs. Isn't it great?!?!
I'm glad that you are enjoying life :-*
Quote from: Eva Marie on April 11, 2015, 04:14:22 PM
we finally get to experience what "normal" life is all about, with its normal ups and downs. Isn't it great?!?!
Happiness does take some getting used too! :) I would not trade it for anything. :) :) :)