I feel like I lost a lot of my life from the fact the Im transgendered. I think it stems from that at least. Technically, I am closer to 24 than I want to be... but I don't feel anymore. Its like I feel I have the life experieces of a 19 year old... and Im going to have to restart my life again in a year or so.... everything I know means nothing. I am not a better person tha when I was 19, which is sad to say. People also think Im 19, most of the time.... today I told someone Im 22 (23 in reality), and he was like "damn". I dont know what that saids about me or not.... but the people in the room were like "you cant drink yet"... which to me I have life experiences....
People imply Im so young.... when Im just young (big difference), and my manager is 25 and 28... but he just called me his boy. Which stems to my youth-image...... but its like I can relate to 18-19 year olds... but its becoming vampiric like.... like the reason I relate is because they see me as one of them. Even when I announce my age, its like toss into the wind after their shocks.... being told Im a youngbuck by a 28 year old is kind of strange.... its like dude, were not a generation apart.
So I guess maybe being trans has more to do with it than image....
In some respects, yes, in some respects no.
I am an adult, homeowner, parent.
I have chronic medical conditions of a middle age adult. Bad genes, nothing I can do other than treat them.
However, my personality in many respects is that of an early 20s person.
And transition has seemingly turned back the clock for me in my attitude on life.
I actually feel older then 23. I feel like my trans status has caused me to experience a lot of things that cos people don't ever experience and I feel like those experiences have aged me quicker then most people my age.
Im not too sure on how your actually feeling about looking younger than you really are. I can tell you that I have always looked much younger than my true years, and it is, and has always been a blessing. I am 51 [My god, where has all the time gone !!], I have led a full any extremely blissful male life, as a husband and father of 3 beautiful children. I started taking hormones 13 months ago. Yesterday I started a dance class [still in male mode, with a very tight Gyno vest on :(]. Whilst waiting in the queue to get into the venue, I was talking to a group of differently aged people. During the conversation, the question as to my age came up. I asked them to guess, 28 was the lowest guess, and 33 the highest [I wouldn't tell them ;D]. All the younger girls wanted to dance with me, mind you all the other guys did look much older than me. I love being miss aged, it doesn't just "make my day" it "makes my week. I cannot imagine the euphoria I will feel when I start to get miss gendered from male to female.
It does sound that you take being miss aged as a younger person, a bit troublesome and unfortunate. If that is the case, then I would say to you, "Be happy, be very happy :laugh:, it is a blessing not a curse. You may be lucky enough at 51, to be mistaken for a 28 year old, and that just cant be bad.........can it? !! ;)
I'm almost 36 but my "emotional self" is more like 18-22 heh.
I'm 32 and I don't feel like it. I don't go out and act like I'm younger, but I feel it deep down inside. When I'm around other people, like my sister for instance, who is only 2 years older than me, I feel like the age gap is far bigger than 2 years, more like 10 or more. There are only a few times that I feel my age, but those times are few and far apart to the extent that they hardly exist.
Chris
I don't think I really care much, if at all. As to what others think, well that interests me at the zero level. Dani
I'm 33 but think I should be 25.
I'm 24 before I had the orchiectomy I felt like crap and looked like crap. People used to tell me I look 30 all the time.
Now people always tell me I look really young and I get asked for my I.D. every time I buy alcohol.
Don't feel my age (47), but it has nothing to do with being trans. Mentally stopped aging at about 30 even though the person staring back looks a little older, lol. my femme clothes may tend to be a little younger that what most 47 year old females wear but not too crazy.
Age is more important than other cultures here in my country, a hierarchical society primarily based on biological age.
People always think that I am far younger than my biological age.
When I was in the U.S., I was sometimes asked to show my ID for purchasing alcohol beverage or tobacco until I was 40.
Usually I am glad with it, but sometimes I can be ignored or treated badly because of it.
This became more pronounced after I presented myself as a woman.
I am turning to 51, but most people in the street call me by pronouns for the 20s. I am happy with it.
But looking at my face in detail, they can guess my biological age more closely.
In addition, my physical strength is actually closer to the 20s, or more.
For example, last Sunday I climbed the highest mountain here by running. The course usually takes at least 8 hours, but I finished it within 4.5 hours.
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Enjoy being young-old.
barbie~~
Actually if anything accepting my trans status has made me feel younger.
FYI: I'm IS.
I'm chronologically thirty five, but look about anywhere from ten to fifteen years younger (that's because if the AIS). Cognitively, I'm like a child, or young teen.
When I go to the movies, I find myself laughing at stuff kids laugh at. I think like a child and often act as a child, and this was before going in ERT.
I even buy teen clothes, that look like there for younger kids. I've always been a loner so I don't worry what others think.
My theory is, since I've always been hormonally female, I think I didn't get enough hormones to cause my brain, or body to mature. Even now, I'm finally going through puberty. My bones are changing, my hips are getting wider, and I think maybe I can hopefully "grow up".
I'm 39, feel like I'm 25 and have been told I look 30ish. It works for me.
Um, being trans has given me a lot of insight and my parental situation...so I do feel older in many ways than people my age. But, I have never even kissed or been kissed by a guy, I'm a virgin, and I feel kind of naive, so in that respect I feel much, much younger than I am.
BTW, Rudy King, there are many factors in brain development, not just sex hormones. Never fully virilizing does not mean you will have a "teenage" brain.
For a long time in transition I felt about 10 years younger.
Now It has caught up with me for sure.
Umm a lot older, but always been aged 7 or so years younger than I am, mind and activities = 30 something
HRT may be playing a part in the downsizing of my numerical age >:-)
L Katy
I feel a ton younger than my age, always have. I just turned 40 but people usually guess that I am 5-7 years younger than I am. As I grow out my hair, the gray is taking that away from me :( It is easy to stay feeling young for me because run a department where most of my employees are high school and college kids. I am more comfortable interacting with them than my older peers. Finally accepting being transgender this past year, I feel a lot older though because I feel so much time pressure to make the life changes I need to. I never really thought about or worried about age until this last year. It feels like time is so short. I'm having a midlife transgender crisis!
Most of the time I don't feel my age, usually I feel about 20 years or more younger. But currently I'm a tad out of shape, so as I build myself back up after the winter, I'm feeling a little of my age, but that will lessen shortly.
Quote from: Auroramarianna on April 14, 2015, 04:55:33 PM
Um, being trans has given me a lot of insight and my parental situation...so I do feel older in many ways than people my age. But, I have never even kissed or been kissed by a guy, I'm a virgin, and I feel kind of naive, so in that respect I feel much, much younger than I am.
BTW, Rudy King, there are many factors in brain development, not just sex hormones. Never fully virilizing does not mean you will have a "teenage" brain.
Sorry, I forgot to mention I also have most of the signs for "Peter Pan syndrome". Sorry, I'm on my phone, so I try to post as short as possible. I tend to leave things out sometimes.
I'm 61, but I feel 20 years younger than my age; - or at least I do until I do something that my 20 year older body objects to.
I have never really felt my age but that may have something to do with never fitting in with my peers. When I was younger, teens and early 20's, folks thought I was older. By the time I hit my 30's folks thought I was younger. I am also not very good at recognizing age in others. The only thing that makes me feel like a 30 something is the grey hairs and assorted ailments. I guess I have just never been able to nail down my existence, felt so untethered to society at large, not for lack of trying. I also tend to miss out on the big life moments. No prom, no college, no mortgage, no mariage etc. I haven't cellebrated my birthday in years.
I have always been aware of missing out but... well, only how I behave in the future can change that, the past is what it is.
I'm actually considering celebrating my birthday this year. It feels like I finally have a life worthy of such things.
I look younger than my age (by about 10-years, according to people who guess), but I feel much older.
My body tells me I'm my age, but my mind hopes I can still live the life I always dreamed of when I transition.
I'm 37. On a good day, I get asked for ID when buying alcohol. On a bad day, I look a wreck. I often feel surprisingly jaded and old (but not necessarily wise or experienced) beyond my years. Hopefully, life really does begin at 40 as I'm aiming to be transitioned by that point.
No way!
I run between 20 to 30km a week, I eat well and apart from pretty much every joint in my body popping at will, I feel better than I did when I was 20
Oddly enough, I felt a lot older than my peers in my 20s - married and "settled down" at 22, bought a house at 24 - that it's only lately that I feel close to my actual age. It's kinda nice. :)
I'm almost 40, even though people I ask say I look like I'm in my mid 20s and I think so too. Hormones and electrolysis with a good, lean diet is the magic recipie. Do I feel my age? Hell yes I do. I still remember moments from the late 70s and much of the 80s. Makes me feel ooooold. I do have a great face and a bangin body I must say. But, I'm not without chronic injuries I picked up over the years.
I certainly don't feel my age, i'm 40 in a few weeks but still feel like i'm in my late teens/ early 20's. The closest I get to feeling my age is when I joke that my transition is my mid life crisis (which is probably closer to the truth than I like to let on to most people), at least my transition will last longer than a tacky sports car.
I'm just over 50 and I still feel like I'm 25 and if it wasn't for the white hair I'm starting to get I could probably pass as that or younger (being fat helps that because you have no wrinkles) but I'm determined to lose all my excess weight and actually get to a weight that a women my height would weigh so when I get there I may feel differently especially when I look in the mirror (I'm expecting wrinkles and sagging skin but I'm hoping I won't see that) I'm totally getting FFS and I'm expecting to get a face lift at the same time so after that is done I'm hoping to feel the same way I do now.
I usually feel younger than my age, 61. Today, I feel 'old'! Maybe it is the white/grey hair (I am growing my hair out, what little I have, instead of shaving my head), or maybe it is the struggles I am dealing with. Transition is not going as smoothly as it did earlier. Bumps on the path! I just feel tired and have little energy.
Maybe tomorrow will be better. I have my next electrolysis appointment and then on Friday I have my next endo appointment.