I need to get my mother here but idk how. only because I need to have a serious conversation with her but she is worried and afraid. I mean she'll let me go ahead but being the mother that she is and very over protective, as well as busy, idk how to. advice is appreciated
Have you ever tried just asking her to pay a visit?
several. but she's just so busy and I think she thinks I'm in remission again. maybe I have to have the talk with her. idk. should I bring her to my next therapy appointment and have my therapist talk to her? sure I can just go ahead but..idk anymore. my head is just so foggy I can't think straight
The support of the therapist seems to be a good idea...
I'd personally vote on taking her to therapy with you first, and then using the site as a DIY support tool for her in the future. A therapist will have a decent idea of what to say to a person in her situation, where you may get a mix of responses on here that she may find overwhelming at first.
Quoteshould I bring her to my next therapy appointment and have my therapist talk to her?
Let your counselor know you're considering this, so they can help you plan out the best strategy for you to come out to her. :) You can do this. Hugs.
its not a matter of coming out, for i've done this many times. last year was the straw the broke the camels back when i was watching something on tv. i found myself all over the internet searching high and low. i finally found a therapist and went to see him(needed one for my other issues anyways and plus i was required to get one asap). i literally sat in his office and cried. i stop for a brief moment because i had to focus on getting my head screwed on right and now i'm ready to take the next step since the path is open. the thing though is, my mother always wanted 2 boys and 2 girls. she adopted me so i was the one that completed the family. if i say something now, its going to be like sticker shock. plus if i start saving, she's going to bring down the hammer and question me why i saved and didnt use it to either fix up my room, by food, new clothes or what not. i see my therapist on the first of may. its just if my mother stays in the fear mood because she thinks i'll be doing more harm than good, idk what i'll do. thinking about it is already starting up my anxiety
You might have a look at this one posting for a few thoughts that might help:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,186574.msg1661576.html#msg1661576
You could talk this all through with your therapist...
also concerning her reactions...
I'd say take the time you need...
have a *hug*
I brought it up that I need to save money for something important. my mother got suspicious but didn't really say much after. good sign but I will have to tell her eventually. I just don't know when. maybe when I'm sure of a start date.