Good morning guys and dolls.
Do you ever feel cheated? Because of our condition? Does it ever hurt? Do you ever feel angry?
Do you ever hurt (even for a moment) about the dreams you will never realize?
Dreams that for the most part are gender-based?
Things you always wanted so much, that natal members of your gender take for granted?
I do not dwell on the things I can never have, but every once in a while, I will get these pains in my gut, pains for the dreams, goals, and passions of a little boy who could never fulfill them.
Optimists need not reply.
No brilliant philosophical musings on why I shouldn't feel this way, please.
Spare me from the stomach churning happy endings, just this one post.
Nero
Used to feel that way before transition. Not anymore. I lead a very successful life & my depression has vanished. I have got my moments like all ppl but it is normal to feel sadness when there is reason to. The frosting of my cake would be genital surgery. I am contemplating a date in 2008. I want to think that after that day my sad days will be part of a bad dream.
Nero,
I used to be very angry about it. I definitely had the "why me?" syndrome. I had to let all that go so I could be happy. There is nothing I can do about it, this is who I am, so wasting any more time on it is pointless. I live my life as the person I want to be, that is the best I can right now.
Love always,
Elizabeth
no more bro. days are gettin better & better for me. I aint complainin'. cant have some things but thats life. nobody got everythin' aint that right?. I got love & I'm cool with waht I got. thats enough for me. ;) wanna win the lotery jackpot but thats up to da dude upstairs. :laugh:
I used to cry my eyes out when they injected me with testosterone to accelerate my male sex characteristics. I'd spend days in my room feeling betrayed and very angry about the irony in my life. I couldn't speak up as I was sure my parents wouldn't understand. I didn't want to cause them anymore pain. Having an intersexed child who had to go through rigorous surgeries in infancy and testosterone shots during puberty mustn't be easy for any parent. They also felt cheated but I absorbed their pain as well as mine. It wasn't easy but managed until the day I decided to speak up and tell them that they were making a horrid mistake. I don't feel cheated anymore because everything in my life makes sense now.
Sorry Nero, another "stomach-churning happy ending" here. I like who I am and I like my life.
Dennis
I used to feel cheated Nero. All the time. I'd sit and day dream about all the "what ifs". "Why me, God?" filled my prayers night and day. You know what I'm talking about. Many years after GRS, I will admit that I do think about those things from time to time. It's not all that often, but once in a while it will pop up.
There are dreams that I will never realize. They are mostly family related concerning my children. But, there are many dreams that have been realized, and many wonderful things have come my way which I could never conceptualize before. The net result is quite positive.
Cindi
I take responsibility for all my shortcomings no metaphysical force controls my life. Failure is just another step toward success.
I have to fight hard most days not to be a miserable wretch....
I cryed my eyes out for over a week when the realization hit that Id never be a mother... It drives me nuts that I cant find a decent boyfriend cuz of this... The general discrimination, and all the physical and mental scaring that has been inflicted upon me by others because of this..... I do my freaking best not to be too negitive about things... take steps one day at a time... little goals... cuz if I take a step back and look at the big picture I might just loose it again....
Before I started on my journey, I felt cheated everyday of my life. Once I found out that I can do something about it, my life started to turn. I had to throw out the anchor as I was about to leave people I love in the dust. Now that I have fully transitioned, the way I feel, I don't think about lost pleasures or unhappiness, I look at the future and what I want to do for myself and my wife. No, I'm still in the transition as I feel you never stop, but I feel that way whether or not you are trans. Life is an evolution of growing and we just have to keep up.
When I think that I have been cheated I look at my life and think that I would have never met my wife and had the joys of being a parent and some of the other things that I have been through. I don't go to the what if phrase, cause that will make you wonder in a fantasy world. Dreaming is good but to mix the two reality and dreams, it really doesn't come out the way you would want it. There will always be something that you missed. This is my opinion.
Sheila
Another person who used to feel cheated, but not anymore. You can't let anything stop you from achieving your dreams. You need to just go after those things that are so dear to us. Just remember the first part of the serenity prayer:
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
I interpret that as: Change as many things to your favor as you can, accept those things you can't change (such as the inability to birth a child), and don't waste the time and energy trying to change things that are not possible to change. Sometimes for the things that can't be changed though, there are acceptable alternatives (such as adopting a child).
With my life, even after transition I still felt cheated from a number of things, but I have been achieving those things and experiences (or a suitable equivalent) and that list has become so small that I no longer feel cheated. For instance, I felt cheated that I was never able to be female during my teenage years, but with the musical I've been doing, I work with a lot of teenage girls now and even discuss makeup (mostly in regards to stage makeup, but it can apply to everyday makeup too). I feel like I am now living that lost part of my life. It was a suitable alternative that I inadvertently discovered, but which I found very fulfilling.
Heck, even last night *I* was giving a young GG (around age 18) some makeup pointers (which she wasn't aware of because she had a very naturally feminine face). Which I found to be very ironic, but she was trying to change her features to look more masculine for the part she was playing and so I was coming up with ideas (mostly by emulating the features that TS are trying to rid themselves of). I just told her I like to study people, so that's why I knew some the differences. But I'm a quick study, plus I had color experience with web design and learned a bunch off the internet and from other GGs, not to mention that I still experiment with makeup to figure out how to achieve certain looks.
So, even though I previously felt cheated out of a female childhood, I'm still able to achieve all the aspects of it that I felt i missed out on. Just remember, life has a way of giving you what you need in time. Sometimes you have to find those things yourself and sometimes you just need to wait for them to come to you.
Quote from: lisagurl on August 31, 2007, 10:57:45 AM
Failure is just another step toward success.
True.
Quote from: lisagurl on August 31, 2007, 10:57:45 AM
I take responsibility for all my shortcomings no metaphysical force controls my life.
What do you mean? You take responsibility for never being able to have some experiences natal women have?
For being denied children from your own body?
For dreaming as a girl about all the normal things little girls dream about that were stolen from you?
Those are the things I wanted. And they are by no means trivial or superfluous things.
It's apparent from reading this thread, that these things - these gender-based things natal men and women take for granted, mean more to some than others.
And it is NOT my responsibility or failure that I will never have them.
If I ended up the most successful man on the planet, I would still forever feel cheated and forever feel pain for this.
Posted on: August 31, 2007, 01:40:02 PM
Quote from: Melissa on August 31, 2007, 12:35:16 PM
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Just when you thought you were safe... ::)
Quote from: Nero on August 31, 2007, 02:10:23 AM
Do you ever feel cheated? Because of our condition? Does it ever hurt? Do you ever feel angry?
Yes. Very.
QuoteSpare me from the stomach churning happy endings, just this one post.
I'm not offering any. I've said before that this is the one thing I just cannot seem to get past, no matter HOW "successful" my transition may end up. I fear that what I *really* need to fix this is to have been BORN a (genetic) girl... and that all this "transition" stuff is never going to be enough for me.
The tragic irony seems to be that the more I allow myself to accept the fact that I AM a girl... the more I need to have BEEN one, and not a transitioned male.
We'll see.
~Kate~
Quote from: Kate on August 31, 2007, 12:54:28 PM
not a transitioned male.
Are you sure that is any different from a girl who grew up with boy socialization, with a broken body, etc. Or said another way, do you really think you have right to claim 'male' at all? The further along I go the more I realize that I was never truly a boy. ... Oh well.
As for cheated? No, not really. I knew this was a possibility when I started this life and... it sucks but
*shrug* so what, lives are short. Enjoy it.
Besides, for WHY I am, this is worth it.
An no, this isn't any fun at all.
I would have loved to have a history as a girl, but I realize it's also pointless to fret about something that "would have been". I now try to focus on the things I have control over & make every moment of my days worth living. I figure that I'm a lucky woman to be where I'm today despite having born male. I know that I have had it better than most peeps in my situation & I'm grateful for it. Life could be a lot worse, and the thought of this keeps me going.
Quote from: Ashley Michelle on August 31, 2007, 08:31:33 PM
damn right i feel cheated.
sorry, i dont have a particularly happy outlook tonight.
no need to apologize, my dear. happy people make me nauseous.
Hmmmm...the only thing I will always regret is my inability to give birth to my own child. Yeah I know, I can always adopt, but it isn't the same, is it?. As far as everything else is concerned, I have no complaints really. I mean, yeah, I endured my share of misery when I was growing up, but I feel that somehow, life is compensating me for all those years of pain.
I feel very, very, very lucky to be "me" in body and mind at last. SRS has definitely opened up my horizons in so many different ways. I now feel that I can do anything I want and succeed at it. Beautiful changes are happening in my life nowadays and although I have lost a few dear people and things along the way, I am also finding so much more because of those loses ;) ;D
tink :icon_chick:
Nope, do not feel cheated at all. I was meant to walk alone and not everyone gets that fairytale ending in life. I have accepted my lot and that has relieved a lot of the "What If?" thing that used to run across my mind at times.
sometimes yes, like when my friends talk about things that happened to them as girls as a kid.
The big one is the "never gonna have a kid" thing.
I don't really want one, but would love the option of having one, carrying one and caring for one as its mother.
Most of the time I love life, but there are times when i feel cheated on the little things
Quote from: regina on September 01, 2007, 10:57:56 AM
Quote from: Nicole on September 01, 2007, 05:06:46 AM
sometimes yes, like when my friends talk about things that happened to them as girls as a kid.
The big one is the "never gonna have a kid" thing.
I don't really want one, but would love the option of having one, carrying one and caring for one as its mother.
Most of the time I love life, but there are times when i feel cheated on the little things
And I just want to remind everyone that giving birth, breastfeeding are, I'm sure, amazing experiences that, in some way, inform your relationship with your child throughout life. But they only last a very short period of time. I'm an adoptive parent of a child I love more than my life itself and I can tell you there are many ways in which you profoundly bond with a child (not always fun or easy, but amazing).
In many ways I see a deeper relationship between myself and my daughter than some of her other friends of hers and their birth parents. We've been through a lot more... adoption (which is a trauma at it's core), dealing with leaving her birth country, abandonment, divorce, my gender transition, some of her health issues. These are all things that, when you get through them with a strong relationship create a tremendous connection and understanding of each other. And it's created a deep experience of each other as people, not just our mommy and daughter roles. Yes, I sorely miss not being able to give birth to her and to have held her as an infant, but don't believe that you're going to somehow 'miss out' by parenting a child who isn't related to you biologically. If you want it bad enough, there's a lot of parenting and love you can give to a child.
XO,
Gina M.
True. And really you gals' situation is the same for the natal women out there who are barren. It's the same sorrow, because the instinct to bear young is so strong in females. Sometimes I wonder why this body was wasted on me, when so many women needed it so much more than I do.
I do feel cheated. I'm a biological woman, but when I hear my SO wax wistfully about the camraderie he had with his friends as a child, the "boys being boys" I feel cheated beyond belief. I almost always played by myself as a kid but there were times I wished I could have played with the boys without hearing them say "You're a girl, go play with your dolls" or something similar. Granted, I rarely got that, I knew I probably would have heard it. I did like dolls, but I liked playing all the "boys games" too.
I also feel cheated that I can't have fully-functioning male genitals when I want them. Sometimes I feel like they just ought to be there, that they would be a welcome part of me, that if I got them I'd wonder "where have they been all my life?". At the same time I sometimes feel perfectly happy with my female body, therefore I don't want to choose so it means I could never go through with any surgery. I've come to that conclusion and am ok with it.
I feel cheated because I did'nt ask to be a female yet I have all these societal expectations thrust on me of what I should do just because I was born this way; when I don't even want to do most of what I supposedly should be happy doing. Yet, I don't find myself wanting to relate right away with the male side of expectations either.
I've always been the middle road of most everything in life, and in a society where you HAVE to take sides, it's so frustrating I sometimes wonder if I should give in and take a side. I don't think the rebel in me is ready to give in though, we'll see.
Well, I'm still pretty much pre-transitioned and I must really say with the deepest feeling I feel cheated every single day of my life. Just the constant reminders everywhere in life make it seem unbearable to keep seeing day after the day. The average person taking everything they have for normal, and the unintentional and passive way of rubbing in your face without even knowing it. I hate it sooo much and there's nothing you can do about it, so it seems.
Sorry for the pessimistic attitude but you know, when everything you witness in a daily life just entraps you in this self hate it sort of brings that to a person. To answer your question in the most simplistic terms, yes I feel cheated everyday for everything I have missed out on, and everything I will miss out on in life. And there is absolutely nothing you can do to change that in most situations.
Quote from: shanetastic on September 02, 2007, 01:07:50 AM
Well, I'm still pretty much pre-transitioned and I must really say with the deepest feeling I feel cheated every single day of my life. Just the constant reminders everywhere in life make it seem unbearable to keep seeing day after the day. The average person taking everything they have for normal, and the unintentional and passive way of rubbing in your face without even knowing it. I hate it sooo much and there's nothing you can do about it, so it seems.
Sorry for the pessimistic attitude but you know, when everything you witness in a daily life just entraps you in this self hate it sort of brings that to a person. To answer your question in the most simplistic terms, yes I feel cheated everyday for everything I have missed out on, and everything I will miss out on in life. And there is absolutely nothing you can do to change that in most situations.
Pessimists welcome. Optimists denied entrance.
I feel cheated a lot.
I feel cheated when I think about the fact that, in all likelihood, this body, as it is now, is mine until I die. I feel cheated when I think about the fact that the only therapist I've ever heard of who helps people like me is across a whole ocean. I feel cheated when I see all the transsexuals getting on with what they need and know that, in all likelihood, that will never happen for me.
I feel cheated when I hear people say "Well, that's not feminine... you must be very masculine, then" and completely ignore the idiocy of applying a binary to an organic species.
I feel cheated when my mother said "Your sister will go to your cousin if anything ever happens to Daddy and I" and made an excuse that it was so I could pursue the career that I want, when instead I know it's because mum doesn't think that someone as "freaky" as me could be a good parent.
I feel cheated every day.
But some days, I wake up and look over across my bed and my fiancée is lying there, asleep, and I know, without a doubt, that these things that make me feel so cheated helped to shape the person I am today. Without these things that cheated me, would I have her or Err? Who would I be?
So perhaps being cheated, even in spite of the pain it causes me, actually has a silver lining? Because I love Sophie and Err so very much.
Tay, may I ask a question? you identify yourself as an androgyne, am I correct? How would you like your body to be?
tink :icon_chick:
Quote from: Tink on September 02, 2007, 01:35:58 AM
Tay, may I ask a question? you identify yourself as an androgyne, am I correct? How would you like your body to be?
tink :icon_chick:
Hysterectomy to stop the useless bleeding every month, top surgery like ftms get, possible laser to remove body hair. I don't need much, but there are issues getting any of that done. Namely, I will not lie and I'm pretty sure top surgery needs the appropriate letters. And there are strict rules regarding elective hysterectomies.
Sometimes it's annoying to be behind other girls your age in terms of maturity and experience. It would have been awesome to be born the gender I see myself as. But whatever. It didn't happen. I probably have a wider perspective because of it, and I'm probably nicer too. I think if I didn't have to deal with gender dysphoria growing up, I probably would have been a lot less conscious of others, and in turn a lot meaner. And eventually a lot less interesting. So you kind of have to take the good with the bad, and say whatever will be will be. I'm living my life now. I'm still young. It's plenty of fun.
Quote from: Tay on September 02, 2007, 01:43:18 AM
Quote from: Tink on September 02, 2007, 01:35:58 AM
Tay, may I ask a question? you identify yourself as an androgyne, am I correct? How would you like your body to be?
tink :icon_chick:
Hysterectomy to stop the useless bleeding every month, top surgery like ftms get, possible laser to remove body hair. I don't need much, but there are issues getting any of that done. Namely, I will not lie and I'm pretty sure top surgery needs the appropriate letters. And there are strict rules regarding elective hysterectomies.
Thanks very much Tay, and sorry if I came across as "nosy" :)
tink :icon_chick:
Quote from: Tink on September 02, 2007, 02:00:05 AM
Quote from: Tay on September 02, 2007, 01:43:18 AM
Quote from: Tink on September 02, 2007, 01:35:58 AM
Tay, may I ask a question? you identify yourself as an androgyne, am I correct? How would you like your body to be?
tink :icon_chick:
Hysterectomy to stop the useless bleeding every month, top surgery like ftms get, possible laser to remove body hair. I don't need much, but there are issues getting any of that done. Namely, I will not lie and I'm pretty sure top surgery needs the appropriate letters. And there are strict rules regarding elective hysterectomies.
Thanks very much Tay, and sorry if I came across as "nosy" :)
tink :icon_chick:
It's a valid question, Tink, and one I really don't mind answering. It's hard for a lot of people to put themselves in my place because it is simply beyond a lot of people's sphere of experience, I think. I've considered genital nullification, but I enjoy sex too much. I kinda like having the bits for sex, y'know?
I pretty much just desire to eliminate all secondary sex characteristics. So no one can tell which I am, easily.
Quote from: Tay on September 02, 2007, 01:43:18 AM
Quote from: Tink on September 02, 2007, 01:35:58 AM
Tay, may I ask a question? you identify yourself as an androgyne, am I correct? How would you like your body to be?
tink :icon_chick:
Hysterectomy to stop the useless bleeding every month, top surgery like ftms get, possible laser to remove body hair. I don't need much, but there are issues getting any of that done. Namely, I will not lie and I'm pretty sure top surgery needs the appropriate letters. And there are strict rules regarding elective hysterectomies.
Yeah doctors don't want to perform hysterectomies unless medically necessary for gynecological problems, let alone someone young, and someone who's never had kids will be waiting till hell freezes over.
Guess it's that 'Above all, do no harm' ethics thing. Hopefully someday, the medical community will realize how demoralizing and degrading it is to be stuck with sex organs you should never have had in the first place.
Quote from: Nero on September 02, 2007, 02:44:33 AM
Quote from: Tay on September 02, 2007, 01:43:18 AM
Quote from: Tink on September 02, 2007, 01:35:58 AM
Tay, may I ask a question? you identify yourself as an androgyne, am I correct? How would you like your body to be?
tink :icon_chick:
Hysterectomy to stop the useless bleeding every month, top surgery like ftms get, possible laser to remove body hair. I don't need much, but there are issues getting any of that done. Namely, I will not lie and I'm pretty sure top surgery needs the appropriate letters. And there are strict rules regarding elective hysterectomies.
Yeah doctors don't want to perform hysterectomies unless medically necessary for gynecological problems, let alone someone young, and someone who's never had kids will be waiting till hell freezes over.
Guess it's that 'Above all, do no harm' ethics thing. Hopefully someday, the medical community will realize how demoralizing and degrading it is to be stuck with sex organs you should never have had in the first place.
I will never carry a foetus to term, so I will be waiting, barring a realisation from the medical community. It's all about the lawsuits, as far as I can tell. Apparently, a uterus is something that everyone who has one is gonna want one day, no matter what that person says. I don't even want a radical hysterectomy. I want a "partial" where they leave the cervix and ovaries intact, minimising the likelihood I'll need to go on hormones to keep my bone density normal.
The one that gets me the most about reproductive health? The rules for a tubal ligation are nearly as stringent as the rules for elective hysterectomy. Yet a male bodied person can walk in and say "I want a vasectomy" and it's instantly done. Why?
Probably because the womb is seen as sacred and holy, like the Nile, it gives life.
Also, a female bodied person not wanting kids is still seen as somewhat odd.
It just REALLY sucks to have one when you're not a girl. it's not like you can ever get away from it, it will make it's presence known. :( It'd suck even worse not to have the option of having it removed.
I'm sorry for you, Tay. :(
It's life, Nero. I need to learn to deal with it.
Sometimes. I wish I'd been born a gal. Yet I can't ask for more. I'm still
pre-op but have obtained the goals I have planned for myself. I have a very successful job, a fiance, my own flat, friends and family. My only goal now is GRS and that will happen as soon as I organize my work schedule. :)
Question: what exactly are goals that are gender-specific? Apart from motherhood, what can you not do as either a man or woman (or neither)? I know I can realize all my dreams no matter how I present myself.
Dino
Quote from: DeanO on September 02, 2007, 10:11:23 PM
Question: what exactly are goals that are gender-specific? Apart from motherhood, what can you not do as either a man or woman (or neither)? I know I can realize all my dreams no matter how I present myself.
Dino
Then you're lucky your dreams are compatible with that.
Quote from: Nero on September 02, 2007, 01:25:09 AMPessimists welcome. Optimists denied entrance.
Hmm, for some strange reason I thought you wanted us to be honest. I wonder where I ever got that idea from. ::)
After i wrote my last post, I realized there are some things from which I feel cheated, such as parents who love and accept me as their daughter. I may never have that. :'(
Hey, face it. We were cheated. No bones about it.
The big question now is... what do we do about it?
Cindi
Yes I feel cheated to the point I have been suicidal, I hope I can get past that point one day. (sorry, I feel abit of a victim today) :embarrassed:
i feel totally cheated. how am i supposed to live my life to the fullest if i cant be who i really am?
ill never have a normal teenage boys life and it sucks
And that's exactly what I'm looking for - the things you go through that you wouldn't if you'd been born a girl.
It's one thing to say 'I don't feel cheated, I feel great.' and to acknowledge that there are things you missed out for being trans.
I'm not saying people should be throwing a pity party for themselves, just want to know if anyone else has felt cheated by this.
Posted on: September 06, 2007, 06:17:50 PM
Quote from: Cindi Jones on September 06, 2007, 03:01:50 AM
Hey, face it. We were cheated. No bones about it.
The big question now is... what do we do about it?
Cindi
There's really nothing to do but live our lives as best we can. Maybe once I look like a man, I will have a better outlook on life, but even then - I will never be the same as natal men. Anybody who thinks they are the same as their target sex are fooling themselves.
Quote from: Nero on September 06, 2007, 05:21:00 PM
There's really nothing to do but live our lives as best we can. Maybe once I look like a man, I will have a better outlook on life, but even then - I will never be the same as natal men. Anybody who thinks they are the same as their target sex are fooling themselves.
By that same token, anyone who thinks they are less than their target gender is trudging a pretty dusty road. We're the same, but different too. And those differences can be beautiful and interesting in their own right if you learn to let them be.
i have everything i ever wanted now. how could i feel cheated?
Not cheated......frustrated more like, as it's so difficult to access treatment in the U.K
Quote from: SarahFaceDoom on September 06, 2007, 08:55:45 PM
Quote from: Nero on September 06, 2007, 05:21:00 PM
There's really nothing to do but live our lives as best we can. Maybe once I look like a man, I will have a better outlook on life, but even then - I will never be the same as natal men. Anybody who thinks they are the same as their target sex are fooling themselves.
By that same token, anyone who thinks they are less than their target gender is trudging a pretty dusty road. We're the same, but different too. And those differences can be beautiful and interesting in their own right if you learn to let them be.
Acknowledging that we're different from cisgendered men and women does not mean we are saying we are less than.
At times I do. Would have liked to be a normal person (whatever that means) without the silliness I had to endure. I just want the same things other ppl want but cant have because of my condition (wrong body).
Quote from: Nero on September 08, 2007, 03:15:17 PM
Quote from: SarahFaceDoom on September 06, 2007, 08:55:45 PM
Quote from: Nero on September 06, 2007, 05:21:00 PM
There's really nothing to do but live our lives as best we can. Maybe once I look like a man, I will have a better outlook on life, but even then - I will never be the same as natal men. Anybody who thinks they are the same as their target sex are fooling themselves.
By that same token, anyone who thinks they are less than their target gender is trudging a pretty dusty road. We're the same, but different too. And those differences can be beautiful and interesting in their own right if you learn to let them be.
Acknowledging that we're different from cisgendered men and women does not mean we are saying we are less than.
Exactly. So how can you really be cheated? Cheated implies something was taken from you and you are left with less than. But nothing was taken from you, and you're not less than. Our differences with cisgendered folk are just that...differences. They don't have anything extra, or we anything less.
I would only feel cheated if I were forced to live out the rest of my life in torture, unsure of gender and hardly able to live off most foods and have osteoporosis, without the possibility to fix my body or get a new one overall. I think dreaming of something like that, and then going for it in the fullest and spending your whole life and ambition on doing so (especially when we're not light years away from the technology, and THEN dying without progress is cheated.
As for being born this way... I have no idea. If I didn't rip open my head to my own preferences I have before me, I'd still be a hyperactive little boy who could care less about running away and jumping into traffic. My 3 year old self.
So I guess that "I" might not BE ABLE to feel cheated cause the "I" wouldn't exist if it weren't for all of this dumb stuff.
no i don't. it was my destiny to arrive at this point and, though there has been much suffering along the way, i wouldn't trade where i am just now with anybody.
I felt cheated years ago when I was very young. There was not too much I could do about my situation. I have lived as a girl so long now that the only thing I have missed is a vagina. That little problem will be fixed soon.
In all honesty we have all been cheated out of something. It is what you do for yourself to break loose from the pain. No one else is going to do it for you.
Deb
Yea.... cheated by the so called 'experts' who turn out to be 'non experts' within the NHS gender dysphoria clinic system in the U.K....and cheated out of not being able to get treatment in over 7 years...
Cheated in the fact that treatment is very limited in my country..