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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: stephaniec on May 03, 2015, 02:29:55 PM

Poll
Question: when did you tell family or friends of your transition
Option 1: pre transition votes: 16
Option 2: 0-2 votes: 3
Option 3: 2-4 votes: 1
Option 4: 4-6 votes: 1
Option 5: 6-8 votes: 2
Option 6: 8-10 votes: 0
Option 7: 10-12 votes: 2
Option 8: 12-16 votes: 0
Option 9: 16-24 votes: 0
Option 10: >24 votes: 1
Title: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: stephaniec on May 03, 2015, 02:29:55 PM
I hinted at it to a friend at around the 7th month and told my niece at about the 15th month . My friend thought it pretty cool and my niece stopped talking to me.. I really have no other family that's talking to me for other reasons. I was going to out my self on Facebook , but just deleted my account and use my other Facebook account without letting anyone else know except two friends.
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: Mariah on May 03, 2015, 02:39:43 PM
A majority were right at the point I started transitioning, but a couple of people were before I started. Anyway I was sharing with new within the first or so. I had no reason to hold back telling them.
Mariah
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: marsh monster on May 03, 2015, 02:43:25 PM
at about 11 months I told my dad and then when I hit two years, I told the rest of my family and friends. Letting them already notice changes seemed to make things easier for me.
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: LordKAT on May 03, 2015, 05:03:31 PM
I didn't. The newspaper did. Pre everything.
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: QuestioningEverything on May 03, 2015, 05:11:02 PM
told a few of my family members a few months before i started and then they pretty much told the rest of the family over then next few months. told a few of my friends a couple months after starting.
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: Cheska on May 03, 2015, 05:19:14 PM
I told a few family members and a close friend pre-everything. Then in the following months whilst I was awaiting my first GIC appointment and having electrolysis, I told the rest of my family and a few other friends. Now I just have a few more friends to tell.
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: Zoetrope on May 03, 2015, 05:41:43 PM
I told everyone - family, friends, work ... and went full-time as well, just before I started AA's.

Let's not beat around the bush. The first few months were *hard*. But it has benefitted me in the long run, since I've had all this extra time (13 months total now!) to adjust to my new life.
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: Lady_Oracle on May 03, 2015, 05:49:58 PM
about 2 years after I started. I first told my mom then my dad.
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: Jenna Marie on May 03, 2015, 11:27:12 PM
My wife, 3 months before I started anything at all. My friends, about 2 months into transition (dating from when I'd seen a therapist), and my family a month or so after that.

If we date from HRT instead, it'd be about 2 months before for friends and 1 month before for family.
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: Wynternight on May 03, 2015, 11:56:43 PM
I had been seeing a therapist and getting electro for a month when I decided to start hormones. I told my mother the night before my HRT start date.

I had told me best friend in the world a few weeks or so prior and have been telling old friends on and off for the past few months. Some of them already suspected so there were more than a few "Ah hah" moments as things came together for them.
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: Emjay on May 04, 2015, 11:06:25 AM
This might be kinda weird, but I had a thing about starting HRT where I felt like I had to tell *someone* before I started.  So I told my mom, who was very supportive.  My immediate family all know now and so far so good.  :)

I'm still not out to everyone, mostly because of work but I'm getting there.
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: Kellam on May 04, 2015, 11:41:15 AM
I told everyone I know a couple weeks in, i was only dressing at that point. As soon as I spoke to someone on the medical end and said I was trans to another person for the first time, that was it. I couldn't conceal myself any more. I just told everone and began my social transition, a couple weeks later I startred hrt. Although going through this sticky androgynous phase has its difficulties I am knd of liking it. In my years in the closet I carried a constant sense of being trapped between the two genders. Now the world can see how I feel and as I get more and more feminine in my apearance and how I feel the world follows suit in its reaction to me.

I'm sort of rushing ahead and going slow, all at once...
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: iKate on May 04, 2015, 11:43:33 AM
Wife, pre hormones. Parents and siblings about a month in.

Aunt/godmother about 4 months in.

Rest of family will find out when I go full time. That is provided my dad or mom hasn't told them first.
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: Aoife on May 04, 2015, 01:41:00 PM
Quote from: marsh monster on May 03, 2015, 02:43:25 PM
at about 11 months I told my dad and then when I hit two years, I told the rest of my family and friends. Letting them already notice changes seemed to make things easier for me.
^ this. I did almost the exact same thing. It was tough convincing the medical end to allow me to go forward with such a small support circle but it was the only way I felt would work for me. Allowing others to see the changes first made it easier to tell them, instead of telling them with nothing to show.
Title: Re: At what month did you tell family or friends that you were transitioning
Post by: Jill F on May 04, 2015, 01:53:00 PM
I only told 2 people other than medical professionals pre-HRT.  I told everybody else 3 months afterward that I'd been full time for a month and wasn't ever going back.