I just need to get this out , and Im sure you have all been there. I get down when get sirred, and sometimes ask myself if im really trans. I get down and some what depressed as my wife is not supportive, and verbally trashes my well being as a woman. to get my self out pf that mode I just do something special for my self like shave and moisturize, look at nice clothes and think about the positive s ive made so far. If you have been through some input would really help thanx in advance
I'm still (un)officially in the Q stage of things, but leaning towards T... Either way, my wife is also along for the ride, so far. After coming out to her a few times, this time she's slowly figuring things out methinks. However, today she was talking about how Bruce Jenner had tried coming out years before and how Bruce had taken HRT and grown breasts - and then Kris made Bruce get surgery to remove them... Apparently... Anyway, she asked me my thoughts, and said that's why she didn't like the idea of low-dose HRT for me, in fear of growing breasts myself... I told her that's the point... and didn't elaborate... So, I know I'm on rocky ground, and probably will be for sometime until I figure this thing out...
I too shaved my legs and chest and tummy... She didn't seem to like that either, and said she missed my hairy belly... Asked me if I would grow it back ever, and when I told her IDK... She was bothered by that as well.
Looking to start low-dose HRT sooner than later, waiting on therapist...
Hang in there. We're all in this together
I have a service job and probebly get sirred about 200 times a day along with a unhealthy dose of thanks man and dudes. Once or twice it's like being poked, annoying but not too bad but after the 30th time it's painful. I am looking forward to when atleast my friends stop that.
One of the great things about this site was that it helped me realise I wasn't alone. Not only were there hundreds of trans women on here but most of them had experienced or were experiencing what I was going through at any given time. So no, you definitely aren't alone. And it's great that you're doing positive things for yourself when you get down.
You are absolutely not alone in your feelings and what you're going through! I think it's safe to say we've all experienced many of the same things to varying degrees.
I'm incredibly lucky to have a supportive family but I've definitely felt the social pressure you describe... so much that sometimes I feel I'm going to explode at any given moment.
One thing that helps me is to keep in mind that I'm not doing this for anyone else, I'm doing this for me. I have to, it's not about pleasing anyone else or just getting by. I can want to look a certain way, I can want to dress as I please..... but I absolutely NEED to be me!
I got sirred yesterday, by a truck driver at work. Myself and some male coworkers were unloading the truck and every time I went to get something, the guy would call me sir. It was like he was shouting it at me. I also noticed that he wasn't using gendered pronouns with anyone else. He was attacking me. I got really pissed off and upset. So instead of beating myself up I thought about the day before when I was gendered corectly several times. I also thought about some selfies I had taken that I thought looked great. By the end of the day I cellebrated getting over the sirring and having to work with all the guys all day by using the ladies room at work for the first time. Actually, my first ladies room period. My future action plan involves summoning the courage to tell off the next jerk who treats me like that.