So it's my first gp appointment tomorrow and I'm scared on what they are gonna ask! I've been ftm for most off my life! I mean I've had Boyfriends to cover up but then I met a girl who I really liked who is now pretty much my wife and I came out to my family and made major changes in my life like I went from girly girl ( which was a lie to me) to full in manly man! (Which I feel more comfortable with!) But over the past 4 years off been with my wife I've felt like I want more I want to actually look like a bloke! So I discuss this with my girlfriend and she's will to support me I don't think she's keen on the idea of me changing cos she says she fell in love with me who I am now but I feel I need to make this change to be happy. So anyway my appointment Is tomorrow and I would like to know how do I start the convo of to my gp? Do I say look I want a knob give me some testosterone.Lol nah really. how do I start it off. I know she gonna say to me what can I help you with today and I can't just blurt out welll... Lol any help will me helpful. Tell me of your first time coming out to the doctor s. Thanks TJ :)
Hi TJ,
I recommend just telling the Doctor you are trans and why you feel that way. Also describe to the doc the anguish you are dealing with and the need to be yourself and you need the doc's help. Keep in mind, although we think we are so few that doctors come across us. Also, if the doctor will not /can not help than ask if (S)he knows of a doctor that can.
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Not sure on the rules are where you live but really the first thing I would suggest is seeking a gender therapist. Then once cleared for hrt of course a gp would be handy to tell. In that case I have ask the gp I am seeing without actually starting hrt. Basically bring it up like any other medical problem be honest and sincere.
Lastly and this is the big one research what goes into it all like the risks and outcomes of say hrt let alone perhaps the surgery later on. Knowledge is power and better to have some on your side and it is very possible you might have to find a different gp for reasons of they don't know anything and are not willing to learn or they don't accept it or who knows other reasons.
I think it'd be handy to write a letter or something that describes in detail the experiences that made you realise you were a bloke, and give that to the GP in advance to read.
So I've been to the doctors and they are referring me to Leeds GIC. Wasn't hard at all to explain she didn't know Mich about it but she was very helpful and looked it up on her computer. She said I would have to be seeming as A male by people like I.e name and stuff. So I'm looking forward to seeing somebody else now :) thank you all for your support :)
Leeds are OK. You will not have any problems with them. Just be honest, be yourself and talk. YOu will be amazed how easy it all is. Let them guide you and do not listen to the NHS horror stories on the net.
Depending on the GP, they may want a letter from a therapist that you have been diagnosed with gender dysphoria before starting anything. Be upfront from the beginning and don't seem defensive or apologetic. Some GPs are ok while others are either ignorant about the subject or uncomfortable with it. it that is the case, find someone who is used to working with transgenders. Google any transgender groups that may be in your town or close to it. They usually have a list of Dr.s who are very good to work with and understand what you are going through.
You said you are having some issues with your girlfriend as far as your transitioning. You are still the same person she fell in love with, your body isn't going to change who you are. Sit her down and have a talk about why she feels the way she does, and if she can accept you in a male body. The important thing is to be honest about it. If she really loves you and can handle you changing your body, it will be helpful to have her as you go through the steps of transition.
I wish you luck. This is something you have lived with for a long long time. When you talk to your Dr., be casual, like you were talking about having a birthmark or mole. The more relaxed with it you are, the less nervous your GP will be.
sam1234
I just went in and said I was transgender. The GP was totally unphased and just said well done now how do you want to proceed. I almost cried at how easy it was. I had nothing to worry about at all. One year on and I am referred to the GIC. I hope you appointment goes as well. Let us know. If you want to PM me for NHS specific stuff I have some good guide that you can give to lesser educated GP,s. Jxx
Hi thank you all so much for the advise! How come it's taken so long to get refered? I was hopping to see someone from the GIC within a few months. :)
I just came out to a Dr. about 9 days ago. It's kinda funny how I ended up there, my first choice was booked solid. She gave me a couple names, one of the people I'd already talked to, the other was a "faith counselor" who totally seemed shocked by what I had told her. She had the sense to tell me she had no experience in gender indentity, though. After that I did research on my own, made some calls, most of which ended with, "(S)he doesn't practice here anymore", "I have no experience with gender Identity", or, "I'm booked until X-mas 2068". I was hoping I would find a female Dr, I feel more comfortable talking to women. I had given up that hope at this point. I was trying to contact a male Dr in the area, and I found a female Dr, working in the same office, with an appointment open that afternoon. All that aside, be honest, express your feelings. My Dr asked me if I had considered hormone therapy on my first visit, and was totally receptive to what I had to say. If your Dr doesn't listen to your needs, find one that will. Keep moving toward your goal, and you can achieve it.
~Maddy
Hi TJ,
Your local CCG will have different protocols. For me it meant that I had to go to IAPt service first and complete a course of general counselling. That took a while to get an available counsellor who had trans knowledge. Then waits for slots. The waiting times for GIC is getting longer no matter which clinic you use in England . How did the appointment go?
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