Hello everyone,
I'm Seamus and I'm from Ireland. I'm turning 16 on Monday and have known I'm transgender FTM for a while now. I don't know if you know this but here in Ireland the public is being asked whether they want marriage equality here in the Marriage Referendum on Friday. Both my parents have said they are voting yes as they want everyone to be allowed the right to marry which makes me super happy.
Over the past few weeks the TV and radio have been non stop about the referendum and everywhere you look there are posters about it. People from school all think that I'm gay so people keep asking me all about it. I really want to come out before the end of June as Pride is happening, I'm going on a trip with my youth club to Iceland so I want to be called by my right name and pronouns, and I start school again in September so I'm going to be in a new year with new people and I would love to be able to wear the correct uniform and my name and pronouns to be changed for the role. I would love to stop being so secretive about the real me.
I'm going to write a letter to my parents but I don't know what to say. I'm not very close with either of them and I tell them nothing so this is the first time I've told them anything in a very long time. I still live with them and will for the next two years. I don't own a binder yet and hate my body. My birthname makes me so angry and so do the pronouns they're using right now.
Thank you for reading this, have a beautiful day!
Seamus.
Quote from: IrishPotato on May 16, 2015, 10:35:27 AM
I'm going to write a letter to my parents but I don't know what to say.
Would something like this help?:
Dear Mom and Dad, I need to tell you something very important that has been bothering me for a long time. You've probably heard of transgender people - people who are born with a need to live as a gender that's different from their birth sex. I need to say that I'm one of those people. Living as a female makes me very unhappy. We call that dysphoria - the feeling that living as a female is so miserable that I can't stand to do it much longer. I plan to change my name and begin living as a man.
My new name will be Seamus. I ask you to use that name - it means a lot to me, and to refer to me as a male, with, "he", "him", and "his". I'm going to need your support through this process because it will be a challenging time, but I know you'll understand and help me out. I will always love you, but I will be loving you as a son instead of a daughter.
Thank you for understanding.
You might have a look here for a few thoughts that might help:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,180045.msg1658077.html#msg1658077
I personally also like the twin comparison... you basically will be like your male/female twin, with the same sense of humour etc...
Some people come out via text or letter and show some materials like vids later...
here are some more resources that could help you:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?topic=186029.0
hugs
hey Seamus, I'm actually in a pretty similar situation - I'm an FTM teenager who is just dying to come out
others have given some great advice for coming out and I don't really have anything to add as far as that goes, but I just want you to know that I know how you're feeling, and I hope things go well for you <3