I really want to try cross dressing for now. My main issue is that is impossible to wear a skimpy swimsuit or bikini without actual hormonal work. I also don't think I'd like tucking. Sounds uncomfortable or even painful. And then, sometimes I do wish I was genuinely as womanly as possible.
Time to bump this thread a little, or even have it moved to a different section.
Hey Redhot, I'll move it to Crossdresser Talk....
L Katy :-*
Well there was a similar thread asking for advice for swimwear...
you might simply wear a bikini, and some baggy trunks over the lower part of the bikini.
Its a beach fashion many people like.
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So wear a bikini with breast forms! As long as it has a full cup it will look OK.
But a bikini is difficult to wear. Woman look at other women in a bikini and compare bodies. Men just look at women in bikinis so you need the confidence to carry it off.
Swim wear is possibly the most dysphoric item of clothing for all women, next to jeans!
Some things are difficult, even after you have had what you want done, done. I believe the make bikinis with short skirt like covers over the bottoms that may make things a little more comfortable. You would still have to tuck, but maybe not so tightly.
Even after having a phalloplasty, I wouldn't wear a speedo. Without the firm tissue, (basically its a skin tube), wearing a speedo would at the very least make me look inadequate. work with what you have until you can come up with something a little better. Don't let small restrictions ruin your wish to wear something you feel is feminine and attractive.
sam1234
I can and it takes time,first time was when I was about 8 years old.My mom took my twin sister out shopping for a bikini for her at the time and said I was going too.Then my mom surprised me seeing a black 2 piece bikini and let me try it on.Mom giggled a little bit and said I looked good in it buying it for me.
Wow. My first inkling of being transgender was when my dad took me to the beach when I was about five years old. For the first time in my young life I saw women in bikinis. (I had never even been to a public pool before that -- I led a really deprived childhood). When I saw those women at the beach, my first thought was, "That's what I want to be!" For years afterward I rolled my underwear down into bikini bottoms/panties every chance I got.
From the time I was 19 until last year, I always wore speedos and men's bikinis -- that was my coping behavior while I was in denial about being transgender.
I am pre HRT and now wearing women's bikinis at home in my pool. I have a pretty high level of privacy -- I only need to fool the police helicopters that occasionally circle overhead and possibly a neighbor's gardener who catches a quick passing glimpse through a crack between the fence boards. But I still want to look as female as possible.
So here goes:
1) Decide whether you are swimming or not. Most women have two different looks, one for staying dry at poolside, and a whole different one for actually going in the water. If you are staying dry, things get a lot easier, because you can do full makeup, jewelry, and throw a wrap skirt or pareo around the bikini bottom to hide a lack of curvature in that area. You can also wear padding under the bikini without worrying about what happens when the foam soaks up a gallon of water, or the water dissolves the adhesive on your double sided tape. A sun hat and big sunglasses can save you a lot of work on the makeup. Women generally do not wear makeup or jewelry to actually go swimming, so passing becomes a lot harder if you are going in the water in public. If you have to use a wig and contouring makeup, then go wading, and keep your head out of the water. Or just go hot tubbing instead.
2) If you have a gut, either diet or exercise it off, or resign yourself to wearing a one piece suit with some tummy control built in. If you are going to exercise, then go heavy on lunges and squats, to develop your hiney. That is the part women like to draw attention to these days, and doing so saves you from having to worry too much about breast forms.
3) Shave everything, and I mean everything.
4) Women might not wear makeup into the pool, but they do wear nail polish. Color coordinate your nail polish with your bikini.
5) Instead of breast forms, try to find bikini tops with padding built in. They exist, and are pretty easy to find. They are intended to help women keep their nipples from showing through the fabric (Go watch Geena Davis in "Earth Girls are Easy" and you will see what I mean about show through) but even those thin pads will help it look like you have something up top.
6) Use triangular breast forms if you must use forms. There are forms out there that are designed to fit under bikini tops. Note that I do not recommend wearing forms while swimming. There is too much that can go wrong when you move around that much.
7) Unless you are pretty narrow in the shoulders, stay away from bandeau tops. Wear a halter top instead. If you must wear forms, try to get a halter top that covers the breasts all the way to the top, and the area between the breasts, so as to conceal the edges of the forms.
8) Bottoms: I do not recommend wearing padding under bikini bottoms unless you won't be going in the water. I have yet to see the padding that can effectively simulate the look of body fat under wet spandex. I do recommend trying to find bikini bottoms that are as wide in the crotch as possible. You are going to have to do some form of tuck, but just how much of a tuck depends on how closely you are going to be seen.
I'm a little on the small side, so with a Victoria's Secret itsy, I just tuck the boys up into the inguinal cavity and pull the shaft back between them. It leaves a nice little bulge that doesn't look like a female cameltoe, but is not obviously male, either.
If you are dead set on passing in a bikini from close range, then Koala Swimwear has some men's thong swimsuits that can force a tuck that looks just like a vagina. They call them "feminizing" suits but a lot of transgirls wear them as gaffes. They are a little pricey, and no comment on whether you will still be fertile afterward, but if you wear one of those under a more conservatively cut women's bikini bottom, it should work pretty well. Otherwise, use a really tight gaffe.
Stay away from skimpy string side bottoms unless you are slender or have a really feminine looking lower body. Go with bottoms that have one inch or wider sides. Also stay away from high waist bottoms unless you are slender.
You may want to consider sports bras, short women's board shorts, or bikinis made of wetsuit material.
So those are all my random notes on wearing bikinis. I just put in a big order at Victoria's Secret, and I am planning on many happy days at my pool this summer.
I'll just mention that my favorite pre-op suit was a bikini with a skirted bottom, and I've never tucked. They're meant for women who want to camouflage big thighs/butt, but they work fine to hide quite a bit.
(Post-op my favorite is a one-piece racing suit with no skirt. Go figure.)
Today was about 90 degrees (32.5 C) in South Florida and I was wishing that I was at a stage that I could wear a bikini and get the tan lines that come with it, my wife said that I could do that with a bathing suit, but no, I want the bikini lines.
I don't think that it will happen this summer, for one thing i need to lose another 10 or 15 pounds, and grow some bobbies, but I think I hope be ready for next year.
It is all part of my low dose HRT plan and coming out to my daughter.
Emily
So the stringy bottom is totally out of the question, even if I were to take HRT or male genital removal for crossdressing (very, very risky)? Kinda sad, but oh well.
What defines a feminine lower body though? Any picture examples?
You can wear the stringy bottom if you want, but in order to make it look convincing, you are going to have to do a really deep tuck -- get your testes all the way up into the inguinal cavity, shove the shaft up in there as well, and get it to stay with medical tape -- better get that Brazilian bikini wax done first to get rid of all the hair, or removing the tape later is going to be a uniquely painful experience.
As far as breasts, there are ways to make yours look a little more perky and feminine with duct tape, as long as they are not too hard and muscular. This is where tops with more coverage help a little -- they have places to hide the tricks behind the illusion. Or you can look for push up bra tops with built in padding, but those are difficult to find in sizes above 36C or 36D, since naturally large girls do not need to wear an enhancer bra.
And HRT will usually make it possible to wear a bikini easily, but you have to do your part with diet and exercise, just like the cis girls.
I have a bikini. I wear it at our pool... Since I have blockers, my boys are still small...
I bought a couple of bikini bottoms and I just wear them sometimes. I used to shave, jut to try to keep it looking a little more clean, but since I've been lasering I won't have to do that soon. Yeah, it's probably obvious, since I'm otherwise presenting as mostly male, but I kinda don't care so much. Maybe that's a good sign, or maybe just me being delusional.
Wearing bikini in the beach far easier than you assume. Tucking has never been an issue to me: nobody pays attention to it.
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Barbie...you look so hot in that bikini.
Quote from: redhot1 on December 31, 2015, 03:17:00 PM
Barbie...you look so hot in that bikini.
Thanks!
This thread is a little bit old, but anyway...
Even though it is winter, I already ordered a bunch of bikinis from AliExpress.com for the next summer. It takes more than a month to be delivered. I am waiting for summer!
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Quote from: redhot1 on May 17, 2015, 04:01:41 PM
I really want to try cross dressing for now. My main issue is that is impossible to wear a skimpy swimsuit or bikini without actual hormonal work. I also don't think I'd like tucking. Sounds uncomfortable or even painful. And then, sometimes I do wish I was genuinely as womanly as possible.
When I was living full time but before I had my bottom surgery, I was invited to go on this guys boat several times in the summer and decided to wear a 2 piece bikini. To tuck I used surgical tape that I ordered from online. It seemed to hold up well when wet, but taking it off was, well it wasn't fun. I'm just glad those days are long long behind me now.
Bottom surgery sounds amazing I can't wait for mine though it is a long way out
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Yeah I know what you mean. Tired of the tube tummy sqeezer under a one piece. Above all not getting my head wet and ruin my hair and makeup.
Well here are a few hints:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ibEILV8ar7c
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